Hi all I've been trying to persuade my husband to try anal play for some time now I'm very very fond of it myself and i want him to experience it to. I have played around there with my fingers but I can't seem to get it right or get him to relax :-/ any advice or tips ? Cheers guys
I'm not into anal and neither is my OH but my best suggestion is to give him a blowjob, nice and slow get him really worked up then while giving him some intense head play, slip a finger in and gently circle round. If he like it he will come for you straight away.
Worth a try?
Definitely worth a try thanks :)
You could maybe try sticking a vibrator against his bum while your giving him oral. Or maybe watch some porn with it involved and talk to him about it while you are watching together.
Not great advice but hopfully helps a little.
x
If he can't relax that means he's nervous or tense. Make sure you use anal lube to play around that area - pressing a vibrator to the bit between his balls and anus can produce a stronger orgasm. Totally agree with Fun Louise about giving him oral and then inserting a finger during! Excellent advice!
HappilyExperimenting wrote:
If he can't relax that means he's nervous or tense. Make sure you use anal lube to play around that area - pressing a vibrator to the bit between his balls and anus can produce a stronger orgasm. Totally agree with Fun Louise about giving him oral and then inserting a finger during! Excellent advice!
+1 LH sell some super slim butt plugs (like finger size) so maybe one of them? then get him to sit on it and then you straddle him and ride him that way. Your rocking will help the plug to push against his p-spot.
I'm not sure really. I was abit like your guy about trying anal and i'm still on a slimline butt plug working out things i like and building up. Start small :)
It's taken me a while to find it, but this thread is full of good tips. ..
http://www.lovehoney.co.uk/community/forums/sex-tips-and-talk/785999-how-to-bring-up-the-idea-of-anal-play-with/#p785999
Cheers guys getting him relaxed is the worse problem total understandable. il definitely start small it took me a very long time of gentle encouragement to really really enjoy it . Will definitely try oral to start ;-)
As a man I can tell you communication is the most important thing!
My wife started by giving me oral, licking my balls and slowly down to my perineum. While doing that she gently lubed my anus and eventually let a finger slip in. That was a start of a wonderful journey into anal play. Now, years after this first experience we're rimming and fisting each other and we really enjoy it!
Personally, I just cannot get on with fingers for some reason unknown to me. This may be an issue for him too to relax.
I find slipping in a slim plug for a while, then working up to a larger one and keeping it in and forgetting about it helps me massively to relax for play time.
Also first and foremost - there may be other reasons that he is uncomfortable with anal play - the age old myth being 'it makes him gay' blah blah blah.
Maybe that needs to be overcome too if it is an issue
my 1st bum fun was life changing in the sexual department. We have a fondness of latex & pvc outfits, especially elbow gloves, we have a pair each & with baby oil we stroke each other where it feels nice (after shaving of course). The slippery smoothness feels amazing (especially around the end of my toger!) So while i was focused on her 1 hand doing this her other made its way round the back to stroke oil round my hole, then in about 1 second she just fingered me to the hilt! My eyes shot open & i ejaculated instantly all over my self! it was like nothing id felt b4 & since then shes had all shapes n sizes slipped in ( at my request after a few wines) . i used to feel a bit embarrased because id go rock hard as she starts to oil my hole even tho i was nervus! now she gets off on reminding me it gets hard because deep down i like being penatrated. quite humiliating to agree with her i get turned on being fukced but hey what can u do? all i know is that ejaculating while being pegged is the most intense orgasm ever & needs to be tried by every man! tell him that! good look
i have tried and failed anal play with my fiance as he just doesnt like it he gets too tense and says it feels like he needs the toilet i enjoy it akot though and want him to experience prostate massage however he just refuses