As you probably know on my last thread i've been trying to split up with my OH for months. No success as yet. But since that thread i have tried to tell him that we're not compatible anymore, we don't have sex, cannot see our relationship going any further after 7 yr relationship. I said that its not as if i want to be on my own this winter and end up paying all the bills, but think we should just be friends. It seemed to me by his reaction even though i said i was serious quite a few times and i ended up in tears, he must've thought i been joking or just being emotional and funny and that that feeling would go away and things would be back to normal. But i can't seem to tell him where to go. We're not just bf and gf we're friends as well, and we both got the same best friends we have gone through so much. Maybe it not that i want to split up with him i don't know, but it surely is the fact that i need to even if it hurts my feelings. If i end up being quite harsh about it with him it will make me seem like a right bitch and then i not able to help him find a new place to stay because we're not friendly anymore.
God i'm missing out on loadsa sex cos i just dont find him attractive anymore, I am gagging for it! lol! all i seem to be doing is sorting myself out.
Anyway, The fella that i liked from the course i am on, has just finished so i wont be seeing him much apart from on facebook. But in the last few weeks things have changed , i found that a new friend of mine is the brother of someone i have known for almost 10 yrs. So i added his brother on fb, he took a while to add me as he hardly on fb. And now he is only able to tell me how much he likes me and how much he wants me all to himself and always did. I've seen him a few weeks ago and thats the only time i've seen him in years. I have known we've had something special but didnt realise it was that. So i am quite shocked that had buggered my head up a bit so kinda offtracked me splitting up with the OH if you know what i mean.
So if anyone has got any ideas please on what i could say to the OH without hurting him too much that would be much appreciated!