My hubs, Will, recently bought me a naughty school girl outfit from here for a party which was a great success, I posted a review. When I said in the review that it was a bit too revealing to have worn it alone without him to the party. He asked me what I meant and without thinking I said that if I’d gone alone I would probably have ended up being fucked by someone. I didn’t really mean it
This has turned him on sooooo much!
He’s now asking me to do it, to fuck someone else, tell him about it and even give him a cream pie when I get home.
Now, I’m sort of happy to try it if that’s what he wants. I know he likes me showing off and he pesters me to show a bit of boob if he has a mate staying, for example.
But before I do I just want to know if anyone else has tried and how it went?
The second question is the real biggie. He now keeps asking if I have ever fucked anyone else. Obviously I deny it but he keeps asking me and I get turned on too and make the occasional coy comment. The thing is, when we started dating I had a FWB who I kept seeing for a while and also, in the Summer, I was fucked by a guy on a girlie holiday. Obviously cheating is wrong and I shouldn’t have done those things.
But....
Should I tell him?
This is what happens when you let your husband buy your fancy dress outfit!
Personally i think discussing with your partner about sleeping with other people during your relationship is a LOT different from doing it behind their back on holiday.
And I’d never consider telling him, until this cropped up.
If this is going to turn you both on, just change the date to before you met. Have an actual date (as in year or month) in your head in case he wants more detail. Be aware that he may want you to more than flash at some point as this is quite a popular fetish.
Pop a word such as sharing into the search bar at top page and you will see what I mean.
I am reallllllllllllyyyyyyyyyy unsure about confessing my past indiscretions, but that seems to be what he wants more.
The ball is in your court as to your next move but I would brace yourself incase of a negative response - fantasy and reality are very different and the consequences of your confession might not get the reaction you're expecting, despite the signs he is showing you.
I can't advocate lying to your partner or keeping secrets but good luck with whatever you do next - I hope it goes in your favour.
I think he would probably understand the FWB, Will knew he was on the scene when we started dating and I don't think it would be a massive surprise to find out that there was an overlap, I would keep to myself exactly how much of an overlap. The holiday thing would be a shock I think, all three girls on the holiday are married and all three had a holiday fling, we met a nice group of three lads and just sort of forgot about our real lives back home.
I'm forever getting her to tell me about guys she's slept with... I know she was seeing a guy just before we met and I know she's slept with a few of her friends. I wouldn't be chuffed if she told me she'd slept with a guy on holiday though... It's all about trust. I want her to hotwife but something like that requires a lot of trust and I'd like to think she was doing it for two reasons only, because she is enjoying it as my partner and because I am enjoying it... If she told me had done it behind my back then I wouldn't enjoy that....
Your guy getting turned on by your being “slutty” and sleeping around consensually is a lot different then you doing it behind his back. Even an open relationship is built on trust and loyalty, he might not feel so trusting of you if he isn’t sure your honest and open and that your loyalty really lies with him regardless of who’s in your bed. I would advise to proceed very carefully if you value him and his feelings.
My partner and I are into cuckolding which is basically what you’re describing. Like other people have said, this is about consent and communication so it’s certainly quite different from cheating. You have to trust each other completely before you make this kind of dynamic a reality. Sometimes there’s a disconnect between fantasy and reality so laying it all on the table might hurt him more than arouse him. Personally, I wouldn’t start this lifestyle with any secrets between you as finding out later breaks all the trust he thinks you share. However, this is your relationship and only you know if you can both work through it.
I suggest doing some in depth research before taking the plunge. There are so many different dynamics for this kind of thing and you need to set boundaries before bringing someone new into your relationship. For instance, I’m dominant and don’t enjoy being topped but some women identify more as submissive. That’s a huge difference when it comes to cuckolding! Whatever you chose, be safe and be sensitive to your partners needs. Xx
Past secret is better to keep it untold. However future secrets will be exposed once you took the wrong step. As for me, I will leave the past behind and treasure what is put in front of me. I will cherish it with all my soul, all my mind and with all my heart.
If you treasure your him and the relationship, please think it over and over... many many times before you take the plunge.
My OH is exactly the same.... he is always on about me shagging someone else - in front of him though!! We watch porn where this happens, where the woman is treated like a slut by some other guy, the woman nearly always takes the sub role in the films my bloke puts on. I honestly don't think I could take on that role to that extent. I am more sub than dom...but not to the extent these women in the porno are.
I know him deeply, and really don't think that in reality he could bare to see this, he is insecure about himself at the best of times, so I'm possitive watching me doing it would cave his head in!! I think you need to know your partner well, know if his perception of reality and fantasy is in line with how it would really make him feel - fantasy is a turn on whereas reality can hurt.
Once upon a time I was really confident and might of tried it.... I would find it a massive turn on - as long as he did too - but knowing him as I do I wouldn't be able to relax as I'd be worrying about how he was feeling all the time!
Also I'm now older, fatter so less body confident and have severe mobility issues....so my sexual confidence is quite low - I can talk to anyone, be really out going in fact, but when it comes to anyone seeing me anywhere near naked - even swimming - I just want to die!!
I think you need to really look deep into yourself and your partner - and your relationship. Fantasy is one thing - reality is so much more. Is your relationship strong enough to take this? Think of stuff that could happen...what if the guy you fucked got into your head as well as your pants? Is it really worth the risk?
Good luck with whatever you decide - but be aware that you could be ruining a good relationship (?) all for the sake of a few orgasms!!
I am very grateful for all of the advice and it is all so true. I think our relationship is fine, he really wants it, and I would love it too, even if just as a one off. I have not told him anything about the past though.
I totally get the point about fantasy becoming reality but I think we can keep this light enough that it doesn't become a big thing. I also completly understand the worry about me getting into the other guy. To be honest I can't see that happening. I am totally into Will and previously when I was single I have had the other problem, finding casual sex and flings really easy but attracting a few stalker types who wouldn't move on.
The thing now is actually how to do it. Should it be someone I already know, mmm, not sure. Finding someone new who will be happy with no strings sex who I can trust to do it bareback, tricky. I think it will either be someone I already know and have a slightly flirty thing with but who will be cool or will be a slow build up with someone knew so starting with text flirting and so on. That might be better and I can bring Will along with me.
Lots to think about.
These thigns are much easier in Summer!
But, I am really excited about it and can't wait.
The creampie thing - another guy's cum - wow, wasn't expecting that!
I am very grateful for all of the advice and it is all so true. I think our relationship is fine, he really wants it, and I would love it too, even if just as a one off. I have not told him anything about the past though.
I totally get the point about fantasy becoming reality but I think we can keep this light enough that it doesn't become a big thing. I also completly understand the worry about me getting into the other guy. To be honest I can't see that happening. I am totally into Will and previously when I was single I have had the other problem, finding casual sex and flings really easy but attracting a few stalker types who wouldn't move on.
The thing now is actually how to do it. Should it be someone I already know, mmm, not sure. Finding someone new who will be happy with no strings sex who I can trust to do it bareback, tricky. I think it will either be someone I already know and have a slightly flirty thing with but who will be cool or will be a slow build up with someone knew so starting with text flirting and so on. That might be better and I can bring Will along with me.
Lots to think about.
These thigns are much easier in Summer!
But, I am really excited about it and can't wait.
The creampie thing - another guy's cum - wow, wasn't expecting that!
Sounds great, good for you. Weve talked about similar things especially full on flirting, like my OH dresses very provocatively when tradesmen come around just to see if there is a reaction. Whilst nothing has happened, it certainly adds an element to our lives and we seem to get well priced work done on the house! Keep us updated on your progress
I am not sure he is the cuckold type. This all came from my boobs being out at a party, because of an outfit he got me from here I might add!
He's always liked showing off my boobs and asks me to be topless in the morning if he has a friend staying, things like that. I think I made it a bit more sexy for him by saying I would have got fucked at the party if I had gone alone, of course I wouldn't but he seemed to love the idea.
Progress will be slow I think. I have to work who how and when first!
Wasn't expecting it at all and was happily settling into married monogomy (well mostly!).
Is it possible to send messages on this site, there are a few people who have had similar experiences and I wondered about asking them a few 'practical' questions which might not work in the forum?