You’ve definitely opened some interesting thoughts here on this and will be fun to read what others think!
For me I just see dildos as a toy to enjoy and play with regardless and no meaning to it as such, but then I’ve seen how some couples have hit edgy points in their relationship when one is discovered to be using a big toy and enjoying it more than the real smaller thing…
I can’t say I have any concrete info or sources on this but I think you might be on to something regarding this.
Then again I could be way off base.
Long ago they did studies where they took two groups of people, one group was “locked up” and the other group became their guards.
It didn’t take long for them to fall into their roles, for the guards to be mean to the “inmates” even though none of them were really guards or inmates.
OK, I had to look it up. Here is a blurb about it.
You are thinking of the Stanford Prison Experiment, a famous social psychology study conducted in August 1971 by psychologist Philip Zimbardo at Stanford University.
The study recruited 24 psychologically healthy male college students and randomly assigned them to act as either “prisoners” or “guards” in a simulated prison built in the basement of a campus building. The goal was to study the psychological effects of perceived power and authority.
However, the experiment quickly spun out of control:
Guard Behavior: Guards rapidly adopted cruel, authoritarian attitudes, subjecting prisoners to psychological torment, sleep deprivation, and degrading physical punishments.
Prisoner Behavior: Prisoners became increasingly traumatized, submissive, or emotionally distressed.
The Aftermath: The experiment, originally intended to last two weeks, was so damaging that researchers had to terminate it after only six days.
Now, I’m not saying what you said above about the psychological structure is the same as this but I’ve long wondered about us humans, things we do, we become desensitized to certain things if we do them often enough.
Many folks don’t like certain things but they try, then do it again and in time, yep, they now like doing that thing they hated doing before.
And once they like it, it doesn’t hold a stigma to them anymore.
Both our bodies and our brains are able to change quite a bit not to mention our attitudes and stances on things over time.
I’m afraid much of this is above my pay grade though so I can’t really offer much other than just to throw this info out above and leave it at that.