No, I do not think it is.
I know you didn’t say cuckolding, but cuckold-adjacent.
“Cuckolding describes a dynamic in which one partner derives pleasure from their partner being intimate with another person.”
A toy isn’t a person. I get it, you’ll rebut me and say you said cuckold-adjacent.
We’ll have to agree to disagree then if you think, feel and believe using a larger toy is cuckold-adjacent.
I can’t and won’t ever go there, but I don’t get to tell you what to think, feel or believe.
Of course you posted this question so that’s why I’m responding.
There is more to this though. There are historical meanings for cuckold and then current day meanings.
““Cuckold” is traditionally a noun describing someone whose partner engages in sexual activity with others. As a verb, it refers to the act of non-monogamy where a partner is intimate with someone else.”
I’m going to add another blurb for you now.
“Historically, the word was used to describe a man who raised children fathered by another man, supposedly because he could not sexually satisfy his partner—resulting in her straying to be satisfied elsewhere.”
Nowhere is size mentioned above. There are women (and men) who are not sexually satisfied from partners with very large penises. There are women (and men) who aren’t sexually satisfied from partners with small penises. Much more goes into sexual satisfaction than penis size (or toy size for that matter).
I could be wrong, but it sure seems more of a modern thing and likely related to porn as well about cuckolding involving a larger penis.
Cuckolding does not require a larger penis, just sexual satisfaction from someone else.
All people have things or constraints to deal with in their lives, in and out of the bedroom.
Some are much older, bad knees, bad backs, suffer from ED etc. Some have small penises, small boobs, others have large penises and large boobs.
Some women do not like larger penises and toys, others do.
I’m not going to list it but I’m guessing most have heard about the Karma Sutra and they list 3 types of men and women. Without going through them or listing them, here is a blurb about this.
“In the Kama Sutra, author Vatsyayana categorizes both men and women into three primary types based on anatomical size and physical proportions. The goal of this classification is to create evenly matched unions that ensure mutual pleasure and avoid pain during sexual intercourse”
My wife and I love each a great deal and we are a great couple if I do say so myself. It’s the 2nd marriage for both of us. We both had children from our first marriages too.
My wife and I both have physical constraints that she and I have to deal with in our lives sexually with each other and her outside of our sex life too.
I’m larger down there and my wife gets sore if we have PIV too long or too often. We usually have PIV 1 or 2 times a week.
My wife uses toys other days of the week sometimes. Her toys are smaller than I am down there. She uses them because they feel good to her, she can reach orgasm and she doesn’t get sore with them, from them.
Oh, I use these toys on her too many times. Sure, sometimes she does solo play but other times I’m with her and use those toys on her as we won’t be having PIV sex that day.
And as most know, sex is MORE than just PIV of course.
If I were to use your “definition” of the term, then what my wife is doing to me when she uses smaller toys is “cuckold adjacent”.
Again, I won’t go there though, regardless of whether the toys are larger or smaller.
Why? “As a verb, it refers to the act of non-monogamy where a partner is intimate with someone else.”
To me, cuckolding requires another person, another partner, and NOT a toy.
Again, you’ll rebut me and say you never said it was cuckolding but cuckold-adjacent.
Tis why we’ll need to agree to disagree.
And that’s OK. Many of us have our thoughts, feelings and beliefs about many things that others don’t agree with.
Sex is wonderful. There are so many components to it. Solo play, with a partner, with multiple partners, using toys, hands, mouth, etc. Sexuality encompasses so much.
Sexual expression is important and different people express their sexuality in different ways and that’s good.
Differences are good.
I WANT my wife to be happy, to be fulfilled, in all ways, in and out of the bedroom.
I’ve never thought I HAVE to be the one to fulfill her in all ways, in and out of the bedroom.
Yes, I’m her lover, her partner and we are best friends, but she has other great friends too. I can’t and won’t ever try to fulfill everything for her in her life. Besides me not wanting to do that, she wouldn’t want me to either.
My wife and I can do some things sexually with each other and there are things we can’t do with each other sexually. No use for either of us to cry about that. It’s reality and we have to accept and deal with reality. It just is. Whether we like that or not doesn’t change the fact that it just is.
My wife is able to do things sexually with herself via her toys or me doing it to her with her toys that I’m not able to physically and I WANT her to be happy sexually, whether it’s with me or with her toys.
The bottom line for me is that a toy can’t be cuckolding or even cuckold-adjacent.
