So i’d say i’m quite vocal with friends about sex, but i’d probably never admit about my love of prostate play and want for my wife to peg me, and my wife probably doesn’t tell her friends of her fetish for facials while using her wand…
If your friends knew what you were really like behind closed doors, would they be absolutely shocked, or would they say, “I bloody knew it!”?
Very intrigued to know what our fellow LH crew think…
Yes .. I’m quite a wallflower and dress very conservative but in the house I’m very naughty… my only tell is the stockings 
I don’t think it’s respectful to my partner or previous ones if I openly discussed (without permission) what we got upto in the bedroom with friends. I am also very socially awkward so I am naturally very quiet when in groups.
So yes they would probably be very shocked what I get upto but there is a saying, “it’s the quiet ones you have to watch out for” 
Yes it is… my wife is VERY Quiet
Me and Mrs W, are very secretive when it comes to discussing our sexual desires and kinks outdoors. That’s why I joined the forum, so we could open up and not be judged on what we get up to in the bedroom. When we’re in the house, we are absolutely filthy and can’t keep our dirty mouths or hands off each other. We have to tone it down when the kids are home though.
I know what you mean, we have teens now, so it’s far more tactical these days!!!
It would be great if we lived in a world where we didn’t feel we would be judged for our sexual desires / needs… but sadly it feels at times we do!!
I feel like we’re slowly getting there tho. Sexual pleasure and kinks are getting so much more “mainstream” now - long may this continue.
There will always be those who disagree/look down but everyone is allowed thier own opinion..but I can certainly be more open with discussing such things with peers now compare with say 20 years ago…
Totally! Very discreet and private in public, but want to explore and be open in private
I used to be quiet and a modest good girl, then Fifty Shades of Grey happened and my blog was born.
It wasn’t a surprise to any of my friends that I was a closeted kinky minx 
We are a fairly typical middle class couple. No hint of anything kinky about us.
My wife has some friends from childhood who are quite free and liberal about all things sex and relationships, and a couple (as in two of them, not a couple, couple) in particular who have decided that we are a bit prudish due to our lack of participation in their more salacious conversations.
It’s not prudish, we just don’t really want to hear about the ins and outs of our friends private lives, and we’re certainly not going to tell them ours. To that end, this forum is one of the best outlets for such talk.
We do have a good laugh when they almost seem to be trying to shock us but we are actually thinking that it’s a bit tame. We play along because it’s funny.
My wife and I are this for sure.
I know of only one friend of mine (male) that is into prostate play and pegging as I am and I only know it because our wives are friends. Those two together are probably the only friends of ours that match my wife and I on that level. My buddy’s wife wants to fuck my wife I’m pretty sure also, so she’s more likely to spill this info to my wife.
My wife dresses modestly out of the house but wears her sexy stuff in the house all the time. We enjoy toys and things that most people don’t, I think.
Certainly would not talk to acquaintances about our sex life of what we get up to. I no longer have any close friends, but when I did never spoke about what I got up to. Hubby has a few friends, not sure if he used to speak to them but pretty sure they knew what he got up to before he married me.
I have told him that if he ever told them what we get up to I will not be happy at all as I do not particularly like any of them, two in particular are rather coarse and I can imagine what they would say to me if they found out about my lingerie kink.
Edit: Also I am sure he would be unhappy if I told his friends about his ed problems so best not say anything to anyone.
I’ve friends I openly say things to as they always come to me thinking I’m like this sex guru for being on here yet I’ve also other friends who literally know nothing and think I’m a nun! 
You are a guru on the Forum @AJSTAR
We are definitely like this I would say, no kids, we like to have fun and are up for a laugh, certainly not prudish in any way but also not putting our kinks or personal business out there. We probably look like a pretty vanilla couple.
We also don’t think we are particularly kinky but also don’t know really what others get up to that they probably keep to themselves too, so maybe we are but just don’t know it. We had a couple we were close friends with back in UK that we were quite open with and I had my close girl friend that I had grown up with that I would discuss things with but since we have moved overseas we don’t really have that.
We are on this board so maybe that already makes us more open to some degree! I’ve been using a vibrator since I could get one and love to use mine a good few times a week so I don’t know if this makes me filthy but I bet most other ladies are similar! We both like to watch porn a lot and again I don’t know if this makes us more filthy now or just like everyone else.
Most people would think my wife and I are straight-laced AF, but we’re more like sleeper cars: stock vanilla in the outside, fully-blown power plant hidden underneath! Although now there are one or two that know what we get into and, if anything, we are better friends for it because of those shared kinks.
To me its TMI, too much information. No one outside of the OH needs to know and certainly not to care what you do behind closed doors. That’s what this forum is for and if you have them, others that you are comfortable sharing with. Otherwise, just keep it to yourself. For example, I’m sure most guys don’t want the OH half talking about pegging them to their girlfriends. It’s private. Keep it that way.
Over the last 10 or so years I’ve been pretty open about sex, and many people who I know in real life now know about many (not all!) of my hedonistic escapades.
Whatever is in my past is far game, and to a point, I don’t care who knows.
But I hold my sex life with my wife far more close to my chest… other than on here, apparently.
Defo wouldn’t class myself as that on here when there’s so many more experienced wiser members 
I’d say I’m more of an adventurer, exploring the depths of delights and pleasures
My husband laments how innocent I am in public. He’s very confused about the switch once the door shuts! -wife