Yes that’s what I mean, it’s as pre-organised event.
A couple of hours drive from where we live.
There’s lots of events opening up again this month but it depends what area you live in and how far you want to travel.
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That sounds very exciting! I hope it goes well for both of you! We wish we were as confident as both of you haha! Maybe we’ll bump into you one day! 
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Having been involved in the swinging world for many years (I met the wife through it) I’d never recommend starting out with friends. Yes, the thought of getting intimate with strangers may be scary, but they’re strangers that you know are interested in swinging, may have experience in the scene and are less likely to have a negative reaction to anything that happens than a vanilla friend. If something happens that either of you don’t enjoy, feel awkward about or anything that’s in any way not a positive experience you’ll never have the worry about discussing it again with a stranger that you’re not in regular contact with as opposed to a long standing friend. There’d be no concerns over future complications, changes of opinion between friends or falling out over anything that’s happened because random strangers you meet in a club/party environment have no other impact on your day to day life as friends do. If later down the line friends want to become involved in events with you then that’s a possible future avenue but mixing normal friendships with no-strings sex comes with a real risk of harming a good existing relationship. Plenty of people make new ‘friends’ via swinging (we had a couple at our wedding) but there’s generally a strict divide between what you get up to with them and people already in your friendship circle. Once something happens you can’t wind the clock back and go back to the relationship you had before, so whilst the idea may seem attractive the reality often differs.
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Ahh that’s nice you found your wife there, it’s always important to have matching hobbies! That is really honest and amazing advice, thank you so so much! Are there any specific clubs, groups or websites that you would recommend? We’d very keen for it, but we would want to feel safe and comfortable with the people organising it!
We had a favourite club up in the midlands ( I won’t mention the name) that we loved because it was a ‘dress up’ club rather than ‘dress down’ - the difference being you went in clothed (preferably smart) and then stripped to lingerie/anything else when you wanted, rather than clubs where you have to strip as soon as you’re there and just wear underwear or a towel. It has more of a nightclub feel and a bar (many clubs are BYO) as well as a great variety of playrooms. We’ve visited plenty of clubs over the years and each is different and people will always have their own favourite but the best way to find out info is to do plenty of online research before planning a trip. Many have ‘social’ nights for newbies where there’s no pressure to do anything. In terms of sites we used (and are still on but not actively using) Fab. Any site needs a healthy dose of common sense and patience to use successfully and keep your expectations low and you’ll never be disappointed. All sites take a while to get used to and you’'ll soon learn if something seems too good to be true it probably is. Take things slow, don’t think anything is guaranteed and use sensible precautions to maintain privacy and confidentiality and the world is your oyster! Enjoy! 
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Ahh amazing! That one sounds lovely! 
And sexy that you went from smarty dressed to nothing!! We will do that! The social nights sounds exciting! We’ll definitely check out Fab! That’s really great advice, thanks so much Rob!
Fab is great because you can clearly search all sex clubs by which areas they are in.
Then you can read the reviews for them from the people who attend and you can even go have a look at the reviewers profiles to see the kinds of people who attend.
On Fab you will come across people who run different events too, but some events will require you to have like 3 verifications before you can be considered to be a guest so that’s something you may have to think about. Also, certain clubs require you to get a membership to attend events.
Fab works for me. Never had any probs