Me and my partner are in our late 20s and we have been curious about the idea of having a very tame swingers party by asking a few of our friends, but we have NO idea how we could even bring this up?!
Does any have any ideas or have any experience of this, specifically starting this sort of thing up with friends rather than going to a swingers group?
Is there a particular reason you want to do this with friends rather than going to a swingers party?
Do you know enough about your friends sexual tastes to know if they would be interested in a sex party?
If you think they would be up for it, you could always suggest renting a hot tub or and Air BnB with one or even a party in a kink dungeon.
Basically, we are really close with a small friendship group (with a mixture of partners and singles in this group) and as out first step we feel that we would be more comfortable with our close friends than with strangers! Also, we are very open with this friendship group and have spent years talking with them about all sorts of sexual things and our sex/masturbation stories so we couldn’t be much closer to them haha! 
They’re great ideas! As in, rather than at one of our houses, to make it a holiday that has some more suggestive things at the hotel/accommodation that we’re all up for and then seeing what happens?
If swinging was something I’d do it would strictly have to be with strangers and almost certainly from another area for me!
There is a big difference between talking to people about your sex life and having them physically involved. You need to tread carefully and make sure it is something they would all be interested in doing.
I’d also say it is equally important for you both to be sure this is what you want before involving people who you care about. If you dip your toes in and decide it’s not for you, any negative memories will become associated with your friends. Don’t get me wrong, it could all work out fine but do you want to risk losing these friends? The fact you have another post saying you only want to be in the same room as others having sex kinda says to me you shouldn’t involve your friends just yet.
My advice would be to go to a swingers club first. You don’t have to do anything, just be there and see what happens and how you both feel about it. Then take it from there
That is very true and we 100% agree with everything you’ve said! Definitely is we tested how we do at a club with strangers first, see how that goes for us, then evaluate it and our thoughts would be the smartest thing to do, as exactly we definitely wouldn’t want to ruin any of our friendships! Thanks so much for your advice!
To be honest i think it may ruin or complicate your friendships or relationships. Strangers would be much safer.
We completely understand and do agree, it’s just kind of scary going into something like that with strangers! But also scary with friends haha as you say, there’s more to lose if it goes wrong with friends!
True!
I personally think it would be more scary with friends! If you bring it up and it’s something they are completely against it could ruin all kinds I’d fear! I pretty much know which of my friends would/wouldn’t be interested in it but I still think for me it’d be something for me to do with strangers! That way if it doesn’t work out you can walk away snd just put it down to experience 
At first though, I wouldn’t consider swinging with friends. However, it depends what you want out of it and how far you want to go.
There’s no reason why you can’t still remain good friends and have some sexual fun once in a while.
So as you are close friends, is swinging something they have thought about too?
That’s very true! We’ve had conversations about it, where we all said we hadn’t done it but wouldn’t be against doing it, but these conversations were normally in the day haha so not the right time of day to go “Let’s give it a shot” haha! So definitely we’re super open and have talked about it and swingers, but not quite taken the next step of actually up-front asking if they’re up for it, which is the bit we haven’t been sure how/if to do?
Another option is for you and your group of friends to arrange a night out to a sex club together, so you don’t have to go in and experience it alone.
But at the same time, you aren’t limited to sticking with them, can venture off and do your own thing once you feel comfortable.
Now THAT is a great idea!! It takes us the next step with them, but doesn’t actually mean that we have to do anything with each other unless we naturally end up there! A really great idea! Thank you so much!
That’s a great idea @Cupc8kes people only need to do what they want, with who they want. May be just set some ground rules. That no one judges anyone else on their actions during the night. A “what happens at the club stays at the club”.
We actually have a club night booked later this month, we booked it with 2 other couples (who we’ve met with socially, and we met through a swinging site) but they are no longer going so it’s just us.
I’m excited but hubby is more nervous 
I’m confident that we’re going to have a great evening whether it’s just socially, or sexually too.
We know our boundaries, we know what we’re looking for and how far we want to go - so just have to see on the night if anyone takes our fancy 
I’m sure I’ve just read a post that says you want to go to a swinging party/club but only have physical contact with your partner which is not what your suggesting here?
I think you would have to know your friends very well and be sure that this was something that they would be comfortable with first otherwise you risk frightening them away.
Go to a club where you and your partner are with likeminded strangers to start with and be sure that you can deal with the potential aftermath before involving your friends and running the risk of losing both them. Talk openly and honestly about your feelings afterwards and be prepared to accept that it might not be what you expected.
This is not something to enter into lightly but done right, could prove hugely enjoyable.
I hope you find what you’re looking for 
I love it! 100% agree!
That sounds amazing!!! So exciting!!! Love it!!! By club night, do you mean going to a swingers club with lots of people who have booked on for that evening??
That is very good advice!! Yep I’ve got two posts going on the topic haha!! 
In that scenario with friends and in this, we are at the moment only keen on touching each other, but with our friends we’d want the same experience that we’d want from a swingers event, of us only touching each other but being in a room with other people!
I definitely agree it’s not something to enter into lightly! We definitely only want to take a small step at a time but have been talking about it for a while and thinking how to take the next step, the thought about asking our friends about it was because of our trust with them, but I definitely understand now that it would be better to take that first step with strangers rather than risk it with friends!!
Thank you, I really do appreciate the help!