With valentines day fast approaching; I know my OH has purchased an outfit from LH - I saw the ‘discrete’ package being delivered.
So one of my longstanding fantasies is for my OH to make a JOI video (of the femdom/humiliation variety). I have no issue having the open conversation about it. But not sure if this is one of those porn driven fantasies, and how exactly it would land with my OH. She knows I’m pretty kinky. Anyone had a similar request from their OH? Any good or bad tips?
What is a JOI?
Jerk off instruction, basically telling your partner how to jack off
If video is too much you could explore audio instead. Literorica has a wide range of those types of recordings to give an idea.
Ah, sounds interesting
I think you’re right! Was kinda focused on the end goal (i.e. a JOI video from the OH) but suggesting a valentines audio. Would be less awkward for her I’m guessing. And might ultimately lead to more 
Do you and your partner do other videos? It may be quite a lot to do a video and all the audio that goes with a JOI video for her first time otherwise.
I would explain to her what you like about them. If you do have a chat about it then it’s trying to get that balance between giving her enough specifics to have something to go on, but not putting any pressure on it being a “perfect” JOI video if that makes sense?
I quite like them but there’s very limited videos aimed at people with vulvas unfortunately. If you can find one then it may be worth seeing if it’s something she’s into as well, so you could do one for each other.
I listened to a great one yesterday from funlovinaj on Literotica where she talked through a relaxation guided masturbation adjusting it for the listener (also suggesting a variation of having a partner listen and carry out the instructions).
Making a video is a lot more fun for some people than others. Performing aspects of sexual expression for someone else can be quite intimidating, especially so with the knowledge that it will be recorded.
If your OH doesn’t suffer any form of performance anxiety, or is confident and self assured enough to enjoy doing this, you’re in luck, so please crack on. I hope this is your situation.
These days we’re surrounded by so many carefully constructed video images, layered with expertly recorded sound, so home-made recordings can make some people feel their efforts are seemingly inadequate on many levels; ‘I hate the sound of my own voice’, ‘I look like an idiot’, ‘why does the camera/mic show up all my flaws?’ kinda worries. These are all perfectly natural and OK. Video and audio capture, and a person’s performance within them are skills we’re not all born with.
From a performance point of view, there’s levels to performing JOI in my own view:
First, the words, in written form (as in sexting, or maybe writing a letter)
Second, the words ‘performed’ as an audio recording.
Third, audio recording combined with an artfully chosen montage of stills or edited video.
Finally, a full live capture with audio.
My wife and I have toyed with aspects of these, which has been real fun, but the final level sounds like a bit of preparation and thought might be needed to get it right and be 100% happy with the result.
I’m sure with the right preparation and encouragement, we’d both be up for trying it out. In my imagination, at least, my wife would be totally amazing, and a natural at this!
In the meantime, the important thing for me is that my wife enjoys whatever she’s expressing, and has fun doing it. This is the biggest turn-on for me, and she knows it. Turns out I’m actually pretty easily pleased by sexting. I’d rather she sends me an enthusiastic & committed sext than a video where she feels uncomfortable.
Sounds like a fun ambition, wherever you both go with this. Enjoy yourselves!