Hiya everyone
My Dominant and I are currently in the process of writing out a BDSM Contract. We thought it would be fun but also important to establish boundaries as well as figure out each others fantasies and kinks that we might not know about.
Anyway we have quite a lot in there already but I thought it was worth putting up on here and asking if anyone has any experience with writing contracts and what you’ve included so that we could get some inspiration and who knows we might have missed something obvious and important
After care for both of you needs to be in there, its really important that you make time for that.
As far as fantasies go and discovering what you like, theres a Kink or Not My Kink thread that may give you some ideas but also look up Carnal calibration in your serach engine, its a test with different levels beginner, intermediate and advanced. Its a good way to see what each other is in to, you can choose to only show the answers that you both say yes to or show everything. It can help.
Be aware of each others non verbal safewords, because sometimes you can’t speak whether because you’re gagged or overwhelmed.
When I’m getting close to not being able to take much more boob slapping and pain, I put my hands on his arms, he knows to end it soon or switch it up.
Between those 3, you should have a starting point it nothing else for mutual consensuality to word into your contract however you both see fit.
Contracts can be tricky, or simple, complex or straightforward in my experience. That part is a personal preference thing so go with what works best for both of you is the only advice I can offer that applies blanket wide to contracts.
Out of curiosity a quick search came up with this Sample contract
It is how I imagined such a contract, but my influence is 50 Shades which is similar if I recall. Others I found were quite wordy, but were probably the next level to my expectations.
