Hi all, I need some advice on bondage for beginners. Mrs Moz and I have got ourselves this little beauty
http://www.lovehoney.co.uk/product.cfm?p=19809
I've got her a blindfold and have ordered http://www.lovehoney.co.uk/product.cfm?p=26082 to try some sensory play.
Has anyone got any suggestions on anything else I could add to my toy box to further our play? I must make it clear though that she won't be into gags or proper pain, she just wants to be teased in many different ways.
As far as starting with bondage you've got just the right things, under bed restraints and a blindfold are perfect. If you want to add some other sensory things maybe a pinwheel like this one?
http://www.lovehoney.co.uk/product.cfm?p=21845
(Though there're a few to choose from on Lovehoney) and maybe sented edible massage oil, rub it in and lick it off and have a lovely smell to savour while bound? The cherry one of these is a good one to try.
It sounds like your communicating with eachother, that is always a must.
Maybe try using a flogger. As well as using as a whip, you can also drag them along the body for sensation play. Or even use it so the ends gently brush the skin. Then in time you can increase the force when wanted.
Sensory play when you have someone is tied up is fun.
A feather ticker, a pin wheel, some ice cubes or hot wax
Suede floggers, a riding crop are also fun but maybe a little scary to begin with. So maybe try some general hand spanking
The bad kitty heart shaped riding crop whip (Am using my phone so cant put the link) has been great for me and partner for going light to hard as it can give a good sting if used hard but can be a fun tease if you're gentle :)
Also, while shes tied down and blind folded you could put nipple suckers on her so she has the added stimulation while you do whatever it is you're going to do. Lovehoney do a pair in 3 for £10 which would be good because then if she didnt like them you know you've only spent about £3 on them!
Hi Mozzalini,
There are some great ideas here already, but here are a couple of other ideas. If you are thinking about a paddle, a great starter paddle which I have is this one as it has 2 sides - one soft and one firmer:
http://www.lovehoney.co.uk/product.cfm?p=21800
This paddle is also on offer at the moment in the 3 for £30 deal along with some other great bondage goodies:
http://www.lovehoney.co.uk/special-offers/3077/
Communication is very important so that you know when you are ready for more - or if you need to slow down. Floggers are great too - but again always start slowly and build up the intensity. These are great starter floggers as they are not too intense and are a good length but can also be built up to a lovely strong sensations - they also feel amazing being dragged sensually over the skin:
http://www.lovehoney.co.uk/product.cfm?p=21801
http://www.lovehoney.co.uk/product.cfm?p=20184
Also check out Lovehoney’s ‘Bondage Guide for Beginners’ to get some other ideas:
http://www.lovehoney.co.uk/blog/2011/07/03/beginners-guide-to-bondage/
Play safe and have fun! Xxx
As others have said definitely talk to each other, do not push things further than you both want.
A few things I own and love that would be suitable:
Ostrich feather - http://www.lovehoney.co.uk/product.cfm?p=30724 - I absolutely love this as the feather is really big and feels amazing.
Flogger - http://www.lovehoney.co.uk/product.cfm?p=15735 - As a flogger this one is definitely good, however start slowly! It can be used just dragging the strands up the body and lightly tapping it on the skin before working your way up to more (if wanted)
Nipple clamps - http://www.lovehoney.co.uk/product.cfm?p=17263 - So pretty (so less intimidating than alternatives) can be adjusted to whatever strength works
Jiggle balls - http://www.lovehoney.co.uk/product.cfm?p=232 - These are cheap and brilliant fun to play with
Ankle cuffs - http://www.lovehoney.co.uk/product.cfm?p=30727 - Flexible, bargain priced ankle cuff. They can be clipped together or to other things.
Also as other people have mentioned a blindfold would be good.
There's a chain tickler. For sensory....just...just get it! (I'd find the link but on a mobile with bad signal)
^ That sounds like fun scarab9!
Just. Seen the chain tickler - looks good! As for spankers and floggers, don't think Mrs Moz is up for that (yet).
Think I shall order http://www.lovehoney.co.uk/product.cfm?p=17263 and http://www.lovehoney.co.uk/product.cfm?p=21845
That along with the feather tickler and blindfold should be a good start.
Thanks everyone for your advice.
I love fur, feathers, ice, etc. Put something metal, like a chain, in the freezer if you dare!
I have a game for you:
Once she's tied and blindfolded, take different things from around the house and rub them on her skin, nipples, etc. Then have her try and guess what each thing is. Focus on the sensations and textures... smooth fabric, bristles (be a little careful with them), roughness, etc.
Another yummy one:
Take a really good smooth ice cream. I usually use chocolate Hagan Daz. Feed her a spoonful, then smear a spoonful on her chest and lick it off. Repeat. As it melts, you can drizzle it. Don't put anything with sugar on the vulva/in the vagina, but thighs are okay. ;-)
If you have a wand or a bullet just resting on her clit just giving her a tease , enjoy your teasing off her if you have any glass toys tempurure play with hot and cold maybe .
Lelo Mia and 2 glass toys, nipple clamps, feather tickler, pinwheel and blindfold all at the ready.
Today's the day we go for it. Wish us luck!