Hi all,
Are there any tips on how to get started in role play. I feel like we just don’t know where to start and it kind of feels a bit awkward in how to start it for the first time/ how to get into character when you haven’t done it before.
How did other people approach roleplay for the first time, how did you go about getting into character, and what are some good roleplay scenarios to get started with?
Any other tips as well would be greatly appreciated!
I’m rubbish with role plays, makes me feel ridiculous, hopefully some members will be along with some tips.
(I edited your title from rope play to role play, just so that everyone is clear on what your thread is about 
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I shall be watching this hoping to get some good tips. My OH has mentioned trying this and I have no idea how to go about it. I think she was a bit drunk when she mentioned it so I’m hoping she’s forgotten
The only tip I can give is don’t hold back. Confidence is sexy.
If you’re going to role play then GO FOR IT. Do not give it any half measures, don’t be embarrassed, just dive in. If you half ass it and give it anything less than 100% then you will feel stupid, you will probably look stupid and awkward, and your partner won’t find it sexy.
That’s all I can say, just go for it!
I came to this epiphany a few years back after I was picked out of the audience at a show (nothing sexual) to be the unwilling ‘volunteer’ in an act. I realised that the previous person who’d just been picked on half an hour before looked awful and uncomfortable because she just didn’t go with it. So I did. I followed the guys direction, improvised a bit, played along, took him by surprise and he actually improvised around me… it was awesome and we got a literal standing ovation.
At the half time I had people buying me drinks in the bar and asking if I was part of the show and was planted in the audience. Some of the people actually wanted photos with me as they were that convinced I was one of the professional performers. The guy who picked on me found me afterwards before we left and gave us a load of free stuff and VIP tickets for me and the family to see next summers show.
I am not an actor, have zero acting skills or experience, it was just because I got with it, let my inhibitions go and got stuck in. The exact same thing applies to role play. We do it a fair bit and really get immersed in it.
Go for it, don’t hold back, give it 100%, confidence is sexy!
We struggled a bit with the role play and getting into character at first. Everything was funny and silly 
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We tried a few things but just end up in fits of laughter 
but it’s supposed it be fun and laughing will allways break the ice.
Try being a normal person just not yourself …… pretend simply to just not know each other etc could work at a bar and start if with a simple hey can I buy you a drink …. (Proper old school).
Or go one better …… one which I’m dying to try with the OH …. I’m want to use my work phone to message her and pre tend I’m someone else and name her a different on the phone (as long as your work phone isn’t tracked and work have access to it 
) and see what’re it goes set up a meet and keep up the pretense 
Thanks for fixing that up. Auto correct got me…
Yes that’s my problem to I always feel a bit silly when I try to do it
Wifey and I would be in the ‘feels weird play-acting’ camp I guess. I love how others have found fun with it, it just hasn’t been our thing.
Mind you, I have msg’d her recently pretending I’m a friend who wants to shag her. That’s been fun. Last night I msg’d her about a naughty video I’d just watched …
We don’t mind a little role play, if we are staying a hotel it can be client and call girl, this allows the OH to take charge and wear fantastic lingerie.
The key is to get into the role, but not to take it too seriously, it does allow you to do things which you would not normally do, as a call girl, the OH becomes quite dominant, which she isn’t always during our non role play sex.
Don’t over think it, just enjoy it, it is usually better outside normal surroundings.
For us, it has to come naturally. It can’t be a roleplay picked out of a hat, as it were.
One for us was a train contuctor, that involved innuendos about long trains and tunnels and “passengers disembarking”. God I cringe when I think back to it, but it was funny and it was hot
The other, better, more fun one was “cheating on my husband, with my husband”. I don’t remember how that one came about, but it was something that came one night that led from one thing into another. We both took on the character of married people who had so-say seen one another in the (make-believe) bar and had to have one another. Rekindling that passion and desire for one another 
@90scouple
Role play is wonderful when done correctly and provides the essence for wonderful sex and pleasure
I’m not sure what you are into - but as a woman I like to dominate in the bedroom and my husband is submissive and wears appropriate clothing to play - generally dressed as a maid / schoolgirl / secretary
The situation is I walk in dressed in a wet look outfit holding a paddle and get him to admit to something he has done wrong - slowly I get him to bend over, I slowly lift up his skirt and slowly stroke his bottom before with both hands slip then into his knickers and pull them down to his knees
With him now in a vulnerable state I talk and tell him what is going to happen- and then I start to spank him repeatedly but slowly until his bum is pink / red and then I ask if he will behave in the future (this allows him to either go for more spankings or to move in)
If he accepts he was naughty I tell him to pull his knickers up and then I get him to pleasure me (generally oral)
All done slowly
I used ti think role play was ridiculous (and I still don’t like it in interviews) but we do do sex role plays, and here’s how I cracked it.
My first role play was college student & professor. But I didn’t play a random student, I played me, as a student. Not much of a stretch, and I enjoyed it.
Then, we did the secretary thing, and I played me as a secretary, but being a bit naughty.
Do you see the difference? I wasn’t trying to role play a different person, I was just me in different scenarios, and it worked really well.
I have to admit that over time, I’ve been able to move to proper role play. When I have my Supergirl costume on, I’m not role playing me, I’m role playing her, and I can do it now. Most importantly, enjoy it and don’t take it too seriously.
An outfit sometimes helps to get into the role of things