Hi all.
Myself and my girlfriend are venturing into the bondage world.
We want to start with being restraints. I was wondering anyone got any beginners ideas where to start? And progress from there?
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Id start with something small to make sure you like it first. You could use a tie and dressing gown tie to start, loosely tied around wrists or ankles. Loosely though as you dont want to do any nerve damage by tieing too tightly. You could even use something like a tshirt. Hubby, if were playing and havent got our stuff or its a quickie, will pull my tshirt up over my head so my arms are up and tells me to keep them there or he will use his hands to restrain me. Hes even used my hair bobble just loosely around my wrists and told me to stay. Its not going to keep me in place but by him telling me to is mental bondage and theres something beautiful about that as i want to please him… or i want to be spanked as if i move ill get a smack on the bottom.
If you enjoy doing stuff like this you could then venture onto some beginner cuffs that do up with velcro as they are easy and quick to get undone if needed and then slowly work your way up to heavier cuffs, collars, bondage tape or rope (remember safety scissors). The world of bondage is endless quite frankly, but only do what is comfortable for you both. Try not to compare what you see others doing against what you enjoy and go slowly. Enjoy the journey!
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Under mattress restraints with velcro cuffs are a good starting point.
You can remove the cuffs and use them separately if you want too.
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Silk or soft cotton scarves are a great start, soft, sensual and strong. They’re also great as gags and blindfolds.
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Firstly, hi @manolito welcome to the forum! x
I really like @Kh1985 suggestion of using everyday items to get a taste of whether or not you enjoy it before buying restraints, another suggestion I have is using a belt. They can be great for restraining hands and can double up as a whip, plenty of fun to be had without breaking the bank (;
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Welcome. As others have said, starting with some items to give the sensation without spending money is a good start.
Fortunately, if you decide it is for you basic restraint kits are not expensive, though avoid cheap/short life material if possible.
Velcro is great for beginners, as are quick release style clamps rather than fixed attachments to the restraints, as these help you get things off quickly if you need to.
Softer restraints are good to start with, vs leather or PVC as they are more likely to be comfortable.
Under the bed straps are cheap and give you plenty of flexibility and attachment points.
Beyond that - communicate! Set safe words and talk through what you both want/don’t want to do. Have fun! 
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Welcome to the forum! 
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Hi guys
Thanks for the suggestions,
I’ve written them down and hopefully this will be the start of something new and exciting
Thats why safe words and safety is so paramount. Even if youve been playing with bondage for years, you can never guarantee the response someone will have all the time. Sometimes it doesnt go as planned. If you both consent, dont fear trying again, but slowly. Check in regularly and just try for a few mins. Use something else to bind her wrists or a different position so that its comfortable.
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Under the mattress ones are really good easy and safe to use and can be left setup and just tuck under the mattress then take out when needed. Blindfold is good to add aswell.
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Hello and welcome to the forum,
I definitely second under the mattress restraints. We even have a review on our set here, if you’re interested.
Also, we have a free guide to BDSM on our blog which might be of help/interest to you, written from almost two decades of oexperience in the BDSM community. I hope it helps 
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Perfect thankyou for this
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You’re very welcome, it’s (at least partly) what I’m here for
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G’day and welcome to the forum. As others have said you can start with items from around the house, ties or belts or stockings. Also make sure you have a cutting device nearby if you need quick release, wouldn’t recommend doing it the first time if under the influence so you can make sound decisions. Let us know how you get on.
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Great review, I have got the lovehoney set ,but haven’t set it up yet. Still a newbie when it comes to bdsm stuff, but this forum is helping with ideas and do’s and don’ts
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You’re very welcome, I hope you have fun
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