So I recently built up a friendship with some1, I confided in them bout all my problems with OH and my frustrations bout lack of sex and intimacy, equally they done the same. This lst few wks ive been soooo happy at makin this new friend as we had so much in common, I was finally seein a light at the end of my troublesme tunnel. But it seems I was a complete idiot an the person wasnt who they said they were. Im usually not that gullible but I got suckd in big time an I hate myself, an havent stopped cryin since. Why do people earn ur trust an show an interest only too end up lettin u down!! Sorry for rant, just a really realky bad teary day!!
*hugs!* it sucks that this has happened to you. This person is an idiot! Are you able to confide in your o/h about the problems within your relationship so you can try to work though them?
Its so easy to do this kind of thing online especially when you can't see them or speak to them properly. Its very easy to build up a picture of them in your mind then feel very let down when they do something unexpected or when their true colours show.
Chalk it up to experience hun xxx
*hugs again*
Hiya numnuts - that is so awful when people are mean like that and let you down. I agree with Lillithlibby - you sometimes need to just chalk it up to experience. Can you not talk to your OH about your problems? If you can't then don't forget - if you ever want advice there are loads of lovely genuine people on here who would be happy to help if they can - me included. Sending you lots of hugs Hun xxx
Babe they are clearly not a friend and you re better off without them
So sorry to read this hun 
I hate people that break your trust! It sounds like your experience with this person was awful. If you ever need to talk about anything then all of us Lovehoney members will listen 
So you don't need them anyway! I hope you feel better soon.. Lots of hugs xxx
Thanks guys, I appreciate it.
Ive tried talkin to my oh now for such a long time about r probs with sex an stuff an he tries to understand but he just doesnt get it. He has vry low sx drive, im the opposite. Ive tried to introduce, toys, lingerie, porn, u name it an he isnt interestd, he just likes plain old vanilla. We hve had fertility tremnt for last 3 yrs, no success, he wnts to go again, I dont no if I can! We hve tlkd an tlkd an keep going round in circles an im worried r marriage wont survive all the stress. Sex 4 me is a gd stress reliever thats why I crave it so much, then confide in sme1 about my fears and fantasties an they feckin let me down, im feel like such a fool for trustin any1 with my secrets. So I guess, no I cant tell my oh as he will b raging!!
It might be worth popping down to the doctors again to see if there is a reason behind his low sex drive?
As for the fertility treatment I'm sorry to hear it hasn't worked out for you *hugs* but that is something you must talk to him about.
Can you try to introduce a middle ground with him when it comes to toys make sex about having fun and being close rather then just about trying to have a child? Things sound incredibly tough for you right now :-(
ive had almos the same problem lately honey , ive been betrayed an let down hugely by the two people closest to me in my life . i never thought theyd turn out to be the people they did . i guess everyone gets burned by fake , liars at some point but its harsh and horrid when it happens . much love , i know how yucky it feels xxxx
I think you will get very good advice off these forums. There are some very nice people who wont be judgemental.
But i will second what lillithlibby says and see if you can speak with a doctor.
I got ill couple of years ago and i cant say i had much of a sex drive. I put it down to the illness and having fatigue.
But i had been tested for literally everything you could think of and my doctor noticed that my testosterone levels had dipped to below the normal range and i have been having injections for it the past year. Ive gotta say it has helped me tremendously and now im always horny lol
But i really hope you manage to make things work out.
Thanks everyone. I nver thought about him havin low testerone, ill mayb try and gently mention it to him cause at the minute im bombardin him with sex issues, thanks mr g.
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Thanks everyone. I nver thought about him havin low testerone, ill mayb try and gently mention it to him cause at the minute im bombardin him with sex issues, thanks mr g.
It certainly helped our relationship, Mr Gooner having testosterone,we were in the same place you and you oh are right now, the only problem is going from nothing, him having no interest in sex or me,to him being full on horny 24/7, and all over me is a pain as i dont have a high sex drive due to anti depressants,and he can be a bit to much at times good job i have a whip to keep him in check lol
i hope everything works out for you xxxxx
Sorry to hear it. Its always so sucky when people aren't who they say they are.
I don't have much advice, but just wanted to share my comiserations...