We have my brother and his new girlfriend staying with us for Christmas.
We are very relaxed about walking from the bedroom to the bathroom naked, in fact we often go down to the kitchen to make morning tea naked.
Now this is quite normal for my brother to see either of us and he is as relaxed as we are but he tells us that his new girlfriend is quite uptight about nudity.
So, shall we all cover up at Christmas or initiate her into naturism? My brother said it’s up to us to decide.
We are interested in what LH friends think we should do.
Depending on how you feel, if its totally normal continue, does your brother take part orcovers up? If your going to do what you normally do, it may be wise for your brother to fore warn her about this
Yes my brother doesn’t have any hang ups and has walked around our house naked.
My husband says it’s up to me to make the decision and it’s a delicate one to make as I don’t know this girl or how serious she is with my brother, other than he said that they are sleeping together. When I talked to him he said it was up to me as it’s “our house our rules”
It’s your decision of course, but I think it’s important to take into account that if she’s not used to this kind of behavior, she’s going to be (very?) uncomfortable.
If it was me and my husband told me that it was going to be like this, I would reconsider this trip because I’m not comfortable with that idea at all.
Although i understand its your house and thats what you do, i would suggest you talk to her when she arrives. Get a feel for her reaction then and there and decide with her consent, telling her its ok for her to have her opinion with no pressure. She may be ok but not want to partake or may be really uncomfortable with it, in which case you should probably be respectful and cover up. If its a new relationship there may be past trauma that none of you are aware of also. Its all of your christmasses and you should all be relaxed and comfortable. If you have to put clothes on for a few days, i dont personally see that as a huge sacrifice to ensure your guest feels welcome and settled in your home.
No, just cos you walk around naked in your house doesn’t mean a female guest should be subjected to seeing your partner naked. To me that would be creepy and inappropriate.
Just wear clothes for the duration of her stay. Even asking her if she’s would be ok with it would likely make her uncomfortable.
I know it sounds a bit prudish of me, but i think you should just cover up while they are staying. It could make her feel really uncomfortable and could be quite scary for someone who isn’t used to it. It doesn’t sound like your brother is very serious about her if one minute he’s saying that she’s uptight about nudity and the next minute saying that you can decide, it doesn’t seem like he’s supporting her very well. I understand that it’s your house but if you know that someone who is staying would be uncomfortable with nudity, it would be much kinder to accept this and cover up.
Yeah I’d maybe consider being a bit more covered up so not to have her feel uncomfortable or awkward for now as nothing worse or scary than spending Christmas with new people let alone seeing them all naked when your not used to that kind of stuff
Insist on practicing your naturism knowing that your houseguest is uncomfortable with it. (I think this is a violation of consent).
Ask your brother and his girlfriend not to stay with you/tell them in advance that you will be naked and they should stay elsewhere if uncomfortable.
Cover up when in common spaces and sacrifice a little bit of your own comfort/routine for the sake of your houseguest (this is called hospitality).
I know which one I’d choose. Doesn’t mean that you couldn’t still sneak to the bathroom in the middle of the night without covering, etc, but come on. It would be one thing if you didn’t know how your brother’s partner feels, but it sounds like he’s briefed her on how y’all roll and she’s not comfortable with it. So it’s on you to decide whether you’ll adjust to be a hospitable host or make them choose whether or not to stay with you overnight.
It’s not that big of a sacrifice to cover up for the time the new GF is there, especially if it means the atmosphere isn’t as charged with tension while you (for lack of a better way of putting it) wave your naturism in her face.
That doesn’t mean that you can’t discuss your naturism, of course, which is far less confronting and, who knows, the GF may just surprise you by being curious about that lifestyle and even warm to the idea herself in time. Tolerance is your best option here.
I think that out of respect for your guest you will probably need to cover up.
You can explain the situation and see whether she is agreeable to you all walking round naked or not. The ultimate aim is not to embarrass her, or make her feel awkward.
You know she’s not comfortable with nudity and she’s still coming, so I would question if your brother has actually told her.
For most things, I consider it your home, you can do what you like but for this, you’ve invited this lady to your home, knowing that she isn’t going to be comfortable with nudity, I think you should cover up. And also speak to your brother, maybe if they booked a hotel room it would be a more comfortable option for everyone.
I think if she would feel uncomfortable and you have invited her, I think its not too much to cover up. Its a bit like to a hotel, you would not expect to walk around the hotel naked but would be happy to in your own room. Its only for a few days and over time she may become up for it.
Open conversation of respect and listening to everyone’s level of comfortability of nakedness.
Whatever happens please keep us all informed.
I’m not bothered either way and am happy spending the day in the birthday suit. But non of my family would enjoy Christmas if we did what you do or I would be happy to do. So clothes stay on.
As a lifelong naturist (from childhood) I would likely have a different opinion from others on here. I do respect the majority’s view however and see their point of view.
I guess that you’ve not met her before which makes the dilemma worse than if you’d already spent time with her and everyone enjoyed the company, then the nakedness would just be a secondary aspect of something ‘you do’
For a nervous “Textile” to come and stay with you would be somewhat daunting for her as she may think all sorts of nonsense, the majority of public don’t understand naturism. I do wonder if your brother has talked it through with her, but can only guess about that.
Good luck with what ever you decide.
We would personally prefer to lead our life in our own home.
As she is a guest to your house, known to be uptight about nudity and you haven’t spent time with he yet, I would make the effort to cover up for the short period of time she is there. It is a small effort on your part, its not like they are shifting in for an extended stay, then your house your rules would be more a factor.
Once she has arrived and settled in during general conversation, I would warn her that you all regularly walk around the house naked and there is the possibility you may forget to cover up. This will give you an opportunity to gauge her reaction and see how much you need to ensure you cover up.
Yeah, whilst it is your house I don’t think she should be too surprised but at the same time she is a guest and (presume) invited so semi captive audience!
Would advise against an “accidental” exposure if you know/suspect she wouldn’t be a fan!
Surely the obvious thing is to cover up this time?
If I was staying with someone I’d never met before and they were wandering about the place naked despite being told in advance that I was uncomfortable with that, then it would be a pretty big red flag.
