I got a Prostate Massager recently but when using it sometimes me and my OH have difficulty keeping it in while we're busy enjoying other parts of the body. I haven't much experience with Anal Toys so I'm a bit lost on techniques.
Anyone have any ideas on how to best use them for a variety of situations? I would love to be able to use it while going down on my OH but there aren't enough hands in the right places to keep it in place!
Which one did you get? It might be that you need to get one that has a bigger flare (Not neccessarily a bigger toy just a deeper flare) so that it stays in during hands free fun. Myself and my partner have both experienced some toys that will stay put and others that just slip out when not being held.
It was the Rocks Off Naughty Boy, I thought since a lack of experience it would be best to start with the "introduction" sized one...
http://www.lovehoney.co.uk/product.cfm?p=14762
iv got the rude boy..i think.. that slips out too.. i tryed solo play onec putting a pillow under top of my legs (bum on bed, the very top of legs on pillow) and had play..it stayed better.. not have a chance to try with OH on top yet.. hope this helps a little ;s lol
Im no expert but I do know that we did the same (started small and thin) and had the same problems. Whereas something with a defined bulb like this one:
http://www.lovehoney.co.uk/product.cfm?p=19801
Will tend to stay in better hands free. The slimmer and smoother the toy is, the less likely it will stay in without holding it. Thats my general experience although we found this plug stays in perfectly:
http://www.lovehoney.co.uk/product.cfm?p=16665
and that doesnt have a significant bulb, just a curve. Hmm I guess its all down to finding the one that works best for you.
The Rude boy and Naught Boy aren't really designed to stay put during use, they are designed for you to insert, sit your tush down, and rock away. My lovers and a few bloggers haven't has much luck with these products due to them a) not hitting the P-spot, b) not feeling comfortable when inserted c) not staying in, even when rocking sometimes (often when they get a bit wild) c) the silicone can feel a bit firm and proddy for some of them.
The Rocks off Butt plug works better for most who have tried it, but it's partly down to their body. The distance between the cone and the products base is very small, for the cone to rest inside easily, the distance needs to be big enough so the cone sits above the persons pelvic floor muscles. But also many find a more curved product sits within their anal canal better.
I'd recommend a curved butt plug if you want something to wear during intercourse. Not only do they stay in better even when orgasming, they are more likely to hit your P-spot and hopefully help you reach a prostate climax.
To work out the size suited for you, try inserting fingers. Wear medical gloves to protect your rectum for getting any tears from your fingernails, if you are worries. Once you have worked out how many fingers you're comfortable withput them in a similar position as they where when inserted anally and measure around them with a tape measure. Love honey should have measurements for each product in their descriptions =)