My boyfriend told me yesterday he thinks I'm bisexual. He was saying it joking but I answered seriously and said maybe I was... He took it well and didn't seem shocked. I have often expressed my opinions on other girls looks and enjoy watching lesbian porn with him. My question is, how do I know if I'm bisexual or Bicurious?? What is the difference? He's worried one day I will leave him to explore that area... I assured him I wouldn't but it leaves me wondering what is going on with me? lol any advice would be greatly appreciated :)
If you think you'd possibly like to have sex with someone of the same sex you are bi curious, if you know you'd like to, you are bisexual. That doesn't really change anything else, bisexual people can still enjoy a monogamous relationship as much as straight or gay people.
Eh, I think you shouldn't be too worried about labels. You can like watching lesbian porn and not want to be with women and vice versa. It doesn't necessarily have to relate.
I, personally, think some female bodies look stunning but cannot think about actually engaging in any sexual behaviour with one.
Also, I don't think anything is going on- you could just be more aware of the fact that you do appreciate or even find women appealing. It doesn't mean that you, as a person, has changed just your preferences have slighlty become more wider.
You haven't done anything with another woman, therefore you are more curious.
I was curious, along with a few female friends, for a long time but i acted on it as I knew it was more than curiosity, that I craved the touch of a woman, like I did a man.
I wouldn't put a label in what you feel, you're just a woman who is in touch with her sexual desires.
We're all bisexual when it comes down to it, though most of us prefer one or other sex by habit or conditioning. I don't like the term 'bi-curious' because it suggests that you might go with somebody to find out what it's like rather than because you really want to have sex with that actual person. But that may just be my strange brain, an unstable mixture of lust and pedantry.
However, if you fancy somebody, it doesn't matter what sex they are and it's just as naughty if you're already in a supposedly monogamous relationship. Of course, if your OH is up for adventure ...
The other problem with bisexual as a term is that it doesn't adequately cover, in my opinion, intersexed, transitioning or other forms of gender-revalued people.
Personally I would say "Sod the labels I am who I am" though if I am to give myself one of these labels it would be pansexual ie. I don't give a crap about a person's gentials and what gender they identify with. I give a crap about who they are.
As others have said, just because you appreciate another female doesn't make you anything.
Yes you could be curious, but are you curious about what it would actually be like to have sex with another woman?
I don't class myself as bisexual (although it says that on our profile) as I don't look at another woman and think "Oh I'd like a piece of that" but I am also not curious as I have had sex with other women.
I am happy to play with (kiss, touch, go down on and have them go down on me) so I would say I am somewhere in between.
You are who you are and you like what you like be it male, female or both - labels can be restricting.
To be honest I don't think that's something another person - even your partner - can *tell* you.
For me, I'd just look at it this way - do you want to have sex with women? Yes? You're probably bi, or a similar identity. No? Probably not then. Nothing more to it than that :)
As for things like finding girl-girl porn attractive, well imagery can be erotic without it saying anything about your sexuality - it could just be that you feed off the chemistry shown, or that the acts themselves are arousing rather than an attraction to women.
I wouldn't worry about it - if you get the chance to explore (ofc within the boundaries of your relationship) and want to, then go ahead.
To be honest I don't think that's something another person - even your partner - can *tell* you.
For me, I'd just look at it this way - do you want to have sex with women? Yes? You're probably bi, or a similar identity. No? Probably not then. Nothing more to it than that :)
As for things like finding girl-girl porn attractive, well imagery can be erotic without it saying anything about your sexuality - it could just be that you feed off the chemistry shown, or that the acts themselves are arousing rather than an attraction to women.
I wouldn't worry about it - if you get the chance to explore (ofc within the boundaries of your relationship) and want to, then go ahead.
quite agree if you wan to find out if you like it without messing up your realtionship go for it younever know he may want to join in too
Don't worry about labels - and tell your BF to take note as well!
If you're interested in same-sex play, then you might be bi-curious or just inquisitive. If you actually do it, that doesn't make you bisexual either, but we think if it becomes a regular occurrence and you look forward to doing it, as well as different-sex play, then you are bisexual.
There is a very fine line in my opinion, bi curious to me was when I thought I fancied other girls and found them attractive but now i consider myself as bisexual because I know i would have sex with a girl if i was single and it was offfered, and i find them equally as attractive as men :)
I was fortunate in a respect because I was never bicurious, I've always known I was bisexual - I think that makes life easier, to be so certain from a young age!
I am glad i found this thread however i still have my many questions
i don't fancy girls in a way i don't want to be in a relationship with a girl, i definitely want to be with a man, however i really enjoy watching some lesbian porn it really turns me on.Also i sort of would like to have an experience with a girl but really because I'm a bit obsessed with boobs and i think I've always been as i remember having fantasies for years now in massaging/sucking/kissing them and i know i really really want to try it; i know I'm really not into fingering (sorry for details) as done on me or me on a girl, i have no,idea how i feel about going down : i don't know if i would be turned on if a girl would go down on me and I'm not sure i want to go down on a girl, however i am nearly 100% sure that scissoring would be the best thing i would ever experienced.
im also thinking that i am quite open minded about sex and wish I'll find a partner who will be quite adventurous and curious as I'd like to try a sex party and watching my partner with someone else, however i don't think i'll enjoy my partner pleasuring another woman but i'd love to watch my partner with another male, so if i am thinking like that i assume that it would only be fair than if my partner is watching me it would be with another female but also because i don't see the point having sex with another man only if my partner is watching and not participating, like for a three or more some i'd like trying at least a threesome because i think i'd like to have one person on my boobs and another going down (i don't think the gender of people is important) but in a threesome i wouldn't either, once again, enjoy watching my partner pleasuring or being sexually looked after by another female; being insecure this would just increase this feeling and i don't want that
do you think i am being selfish in wanting sharing partners "my way" or is it a justified feeling
is it wrong that i would enjoy my partner with another male because i don't want him with another female?i could accept, and i know how wrong it will sound but this is one of my fantasies and i also saw it on a thread feeling thank god im not alone, having a threesome with a sibling (i don't have any but i like having fantasies about it) and if my partner would have brothers and sisters i wouldn't have any objection that we all have sex as i know that him being with his sister shouldn't lead to a romance, affair…
because i am questioning myself and my life about anything at the moment i don't know if i wonder too much about everything -, also am i twisted having some of these ideas?
i just hope i will find myself and a matching partner
I've been with women and love lesbian porn but I'm not really bi sexual at all...I don't tend to label things anyway you like who/what you like. Hubby sometimes jokes I am so into women but I just appreciate beauty whatever shape and form that's in 😀
I'd say I was bi curious as would love to be able to have an FFM with partner but I just can't bare the thought of another woman touching him and kissing him. Sounds daft but if he made me do things to another woman whilst he watched and played with himself I would be ok with it and would do whatever he asked of me, I just couldn't have the other woman touch him in any way x although I would do anything to please him and like I say I am curious but I just couldn't have anyone touch my man at all, may be selfish but I know he would be the same if it were a man he wouldn't allow it and at the same time he wouldn't play with another guy solo either
Although it states 'bisexual' on my profile, I wouldn't say that I am, not in the true sense of the word. I am attracted to women but not attracted to men. I can look at a woman and think, "Yes I'd like a go with her", something I cannot do with men. So in theory I am straight.
However, I enjoy sexual activity with either sex, but can only 'make love' with a woman. I enjoy oral sex with either, but penetrative sex only with a woman (either anal or vaginal), although I've never experienced anal sex with a man I wouldn't totally discount it, it would depend on the circumstances at the time. However, when a woman inserts something into me (usually a finger or two) during sex play I quite enjoy the sensation, as I do if a man does the same, but to have a penis up there, I'm not sure.
So what am I?
Bi-curious? No, because I know what it's like to enjoy sexual activity with a man, and I enjoy it.
Bi-sexual? No, because I am not emotionally attracted to men.
They're all just labels as far as I'm concerned. Go with what feels right at the time, and enjoy the many experiences; enjoyable sex has no gender specification, love-making is a different matter.