I have a very open minded wife who is willing to try many things, she has used a strapon on me but I have requested to force me to BJ it (cleaning precautions have been discussed 
) I find the notion of being used and abused such a huge turn on.
We have talked about it and even though she is apprehensive she is willing to give it a go. It was hard for her to explain her apprehension, but in the end I understood it as she finds the mental image upsetting as in if she saw an image of that being done to me by someone else she would feel distressed and upset for me as its not something she would expect to see from her straight OH. Add to the equation the image of her causing, what is in her mind, distress and discomfort and you start to understand where she is coming from.
I have wanted to try it for years and after 13 year of being together I finally plucked up the courage to ask her. For me its submissive aspect of having that forced on you when it not actually giving anyone physical pleasure which I find appealing and I want it to be forced down almost like a punishment.
When she agreed I had ago with a smaller vibrator, to see what it felt like and to find out the taste. I found I could deepthroat it quite easily, a little gagging at first but after a few goes I managed to control it. The mental image of being "forced" to deepthroat very erotic.
I dont think I could deepthroat the strapon as its 6 inch circumference. I don't think its a gagging thing more of physically too big.
What are other people's view of forcing BJ while what I have recently disvoveres is called pegging. Do other women follow her views or do some women enjoy doing that to their OH? Is wanting to forced to BJ the strapon a common thing?
my partner is a switch but i'm very much sub to the point tat being dom can really friten and upset me. i realy want to please my partner but i fing its partialy that i feel i have a problem empathising with any pain im inflicting and i have an overwhelming desire to protect him so any indication of pain or discomfor i find distressing (even though i enjoy it)
i imagin this topic could come up very soon as we have just got a strap on which we intend to try out for the firts time when he visits soon. i think i would also struggle to understand as not giving pleasure and look odd. i thonk it might also depend on how realistic the toy looks.
Thanks for your view ToyingAround, it was nice to hear a similar point of view as my wife's.
I do get the feeling seem to be pretty much a taboo area. A woman using a strapon on a man has only recently started to shrug off the "it's gay" attitude, probably helped by the prostate gland up there. But as things naturally progress perhaps we are not ready for the idea of straight men actually want to experience this or even admit they want it in the mouth?
Some very good points ther rag doll.
My wife is quite a dom, not to the point of where you have the dom talk of calling people a bitch and say you want it etc. I personally wouldn't want that but would allow it but its not something she feels the need to do.
She has done, nipple play, whipping, wax etc with me and but understands the sexiness of a little pain but I still thing there is a protectiveness there too.
Another great point is how realistic the toy looks the strapon does look very real I think that may make it worse for her.
Do you thinkit would it be worse doing it with something that looks very realistic?
RobotDevil wrote:
Another great point is how realistic the toy looks the strapon does look very real I think that may make it worse for her.
Do you thinkit would it be worse doing it with something that looks very realistic?
if its the look of you sucking cock that she doesnt like then definately.
if its that she thinks the idea of you wanting to suck a piece of lifeless rubber odd then more realistic would de detter.
i think it al depends
Hi RobotDevil,
For me anal came first and then the forcing a bj on him with the strap on or in some cases just the dildo was much later. It was difficult at first, seeing my husband in such a submissive manner and not just because the dildo is realistic, in our case its a coloured dildo not a realistic one, but its his expression and his submissiveness that was difficult to deal with, especially as he takes control in the bedroom most of the time.
It is something your wife may learn to enjoy though. It takes a little time but she may find the more she does it and sees the response she is getting and how much you enjoy it the more likely she will enjoy the control she has over you. Its not guaranteed though but I hope she learns to enjoy it because it adds another dimension to your sex life. Good luck x
Thank for sharing your views and experiences they are very insightful
We gave it a go but I dont think the position we tried it in wasn't the best and was quite difficult a times. I was a few inches lower than her so it wasn't going straight.
I asked my OH to untie my hands so I could have more control over what was happening which was easier.
After, we discussed it, she said she didn't mind the idea of me being "forced" to do it but after untieing my hands she didn't like the idea of me wanting to do it. This actually mirrors what some of you are saying.
I can see her point of view. I personally enjoyed it more when I had no control which was the orignal idea but I think we need practise. When it was in deep, I had to hold my breath as blocks my throat being such a large strapon and I dont think she realised that thats why I need to take control. I need explain it to her gentley without freeking her out.
I have suggested we try another position where she will have full control over it.
RobotDevil wrote:
When it was in deep, I had to hold my breath as blocks my throat being such a large strapon and I dont think she realised that thats why I need to take control.
dont worry, if she has ever tried deap throuting you she will have come accross the same problem. my partner isnt masive and when i try taking him as deep as i can i find i cant breath and it is quite scary if holds my head there. trick is not to panic and just hold your breath for a bit instead of trying to breath. just take a big breath before you go down.
My ex wanted to use a strap on with me. I got into it a played around and gave it a BJ. It turned her on so much to see me do it and I think she was a bit surprised!