Which ever one my OH wants to give me - they both have their appeal!! 
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Much prefer giving a BJ to giving a hand job. Having his cock in my mouth feels far more intimate than in the hand. More personal, closer to my partner - especially with some eye contact. And no complaints from him so far!
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I love receiving handjobs because I haven’t been able to cum from a BJ. Don’t get me wrong I have had bjs given to me and have enjoyed the sensations from them but just never have been able to get to end result of them.
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@Rescuer_89 I hope you get to Experience a hot bj producing intense orgasm bro.
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Amen.
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BJ, but I do like hand assists.
I say go for a two-fer .. hand job and BJ both in the same session. I enjoy both but have a hard time cumming via the BJ route. We usually use both as a precursor to full blown intercourse.
BJ with eye contact, hands should be used too, of course!
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Thank you, I hope so too. My girlfriend started giving me bjs and after awhile I just stopped her due to me not getting there, so I just fully focus on giving her all the pleasure that she can handle while she uses her hands on me sometimes.
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Agreed - maybe akin to a rectangle, square, and parallelogram. A blowjob may include hands, but a handjob will not include any mouth. And fellatio might not be a blowjob. How much work is “job” doing in the name? does it imply agency or simply activity? Is face-f*cking a blowjob, or just oral sex? Also, what if you don’t cum from it - is the job incomplete or is the orgasm as a direct result part of the deal?
The semantics of sex are wild.
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I really dont know why they call it a blow job. There isnt any blowing going on, maybe it should be called a suck off 
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I prefer a blowjob but do enjoy a hand job as well especially when she massages my balls
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@The_Little_Ladybird sounds like you did an amazing job. I love a bj mixed with two hands. Attention equally to balls and shaft.
Judging by his reactions i think hubby prefers a bj with a bit of ball stroking with the hands.
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I think there’s rarely one without the other these days, unless I could do with a wash and she’ll just use her hand ( thats usually outside or in the car ).
A BJ on its own wouldn’t get me off. At least not from my extensive experience with .. oh .. 5 women over 40years.
And to be honest a handjob rarely gets me off without some intervention on my part to get to the edge, when she’ll take over. I think your own knowledge of your needs in realtime always beats that of trying to communicate it and then that being interpreted, 10 seconds after you needed it.
So we don’t sweat it and do what works in the moment. Sometimes she might be using both hands and her mouth and its working magic but I just need my balls squeezed or my perinium rubbed so I’ll do it. Sometimes she’ll suck my balls, rub my perinium while I’m masturbating. Whatever works.
I think we’re lucky to recieve either, but there IS something special about a BJ.
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What if the goal wasn’t to get there, but to just enjoy the sensations and intimacy?
Not everything needs to be a means to an end.
And what if your girlfriend enjoys doing you whether you finish or not? Why deny her that?
The journey is 99% of the fun. Enjoy it while you can.
Cannot beat a BJ, though I do enjoy having my penis worked via a HJ to. Probably would choose 69 over a HJ though if given a chance.
Personal fav is a BJ in front of a full length mirror so you can see the full act from a different perspective to PoV/looking down.
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When we were young and innocent my friends and I thought you had to blow on it.
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@BUSTYSTCLAIRE thought that won’t actually finish the job it does create very enjoyable sensations.
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I do enjoy having it done to me without focusing on to an end, I just let her know( any woman matter of fact who’s gone be giving me oral) that that is one of the things that doesn’t happen if they look forward on happening. She goes down on me a lot without me asking for it and I lets her because I know that’s one of the things she loves doing to me to give me pleasure.
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