I want to give my partner a blow job, i would be so great ful for advise and tips? He’s not asked me for one but he’s does plenty of me and I want to do it to him. I’ve watched some porn but advice and things appreciated. Also do I spit or swallow
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I would recommend this thread 
Oral Sex Superbowl and spitting or swallowing is a personal preference, some will spit and some will swallow. Both are absolutely fine to do.
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I cannot offer and advice really as I have never received a bj either. I would think he would be very happy with you kissing and sucking him. I suspect the porn BJ are extreme but I may be wrong. As far as spit / swallow there is no right or wrong and is totally down to you. Good luck @natbabez
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Only do what you feel comfortable with! Maybe start with a hand job and move on to some licking and a small suck and take it from there.
Forget what you have seen in porn or you will try taking him fully in your mouth, gagging(Probably) and never wanting to try it again.
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Advice would be to kiss him passionately then go down on your knees in front of his dick. Now lick from root to tip and look up and maintain eye contact. Gently kiss the tip and lick it. Now slowly push the tip into your mouth. Wrap your lips around it and suck gently. Suck it deeper into your mouth. Now slide up and down as deep as it comfortable for you. Now it’s best to discuss how you want this to end. You can continue until he ejaculates in your mouth, in which case decide now, spit it swallow.? Or you can stop and finish him off with your hand.
I hope this guide is helpful. 
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The Bad Girls Bible offers 3 podcasts with 37 well described tips - very informative and told by a man
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@natbabez
A blow job is a wonderful treat for your man and can be very loving - but please don’t think it’s like a porn film
As others say - after kissing move down with your face next to the penis (move down the bed or if he is standing get on your knees) and keep eye contact and slowly kiss the penis head and then slowly put it in your mouth - suck lightly and run your tongue around his penis and tease him
Put more penis in your mouth and then pull it in and out your mouth (a sort of wanking motion) this will excite him a lot
Continue until he cums
Personally I don’t allow my husband to cum in my mouth as I don’t like the taste but it’s personal choice 
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All I would say other than what has been said… take it slow to start, don’t over think it, just go with what feels right and pay attention to the reaction of you partner, you’ll soon pick up on what he likes and what he really likes as well as what you like. Do what feels right for you both.
To be honest in my experience (although I am not male) the more you are enjoying him the more he will enjoy it.
Other than that Practice makes perfect ……enjoy 
(Mrs)
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Some great tips on that linked page. I’d add that it’s good to find a position you are comfortable with, if on your knees a cushion/pillow to kneel on can help. Remember it’s not a race so position where you won’t get jaw/neck ache is good. If you do start to feel uncomfortable then switching back and forth between oral and hard stimulation. As mentioned by @Love_Stud_Too occasional eye contact is a huge turn on for me and many guys I believe, positions where he can see you giving an oral are very stimulating. I love watching her enjoy my penis, I love getting oral, it does feel great but I also enjoy how she seems to enjoy it too, like she’s making love to my penis so stick to stuff you want to do, only lick if sucking is not your thing. He’ll tell if you’re not enjoying it and for me that a huge turn off. As for deep throat it looks great but all of my partners have struggled with and only my current partner has managed but normally when semi hard; it looks great and I love that she tries but it doesn’t really stimulate me other than the visual turn on. As far as spitting or swallowing goes I always announce so she has the choice where I orgasm and I would far rather she finished me off with her hand than spat afterwards but for me oral doesn’t need to result in an orgasm, I far prefer oral as fore play or as a mid sex activity if you are happy tasting yourself off his penis. I also avoid 69 oral just because I find it difficult to focus on giving oral while receiving.
Lastly and probably very obvious the link suggests teasing or fingering his butt while giving oral, while this can feel amazing a dry finger is quite painful and nails hurt so unless you have a orally wet or lubed finger and short nails then stick to rimming or external but play if that’s something you both wanted.
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For starters, don’t learn to much from porn. Especially at the end, it seems like guys pull out for the camera…seems pointless to me.
Blowjobs are easy enough from what I know… suck, suck, suck, swallow. The underside of the penis seems to be super sensitive toward the tip, so that’s what I want my tongue rubbing against. If you don’t like the taste, when he cums just make sure it gets farther back on your tongue so it gets swallowed faster.
Blowjobs are a good way to taste yourself or another female partner if you’ve got one.
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In my experience as the recipient of some great blow jobs i think the most important thing to me is actually her attitude more than the technique. When she’s enthusiastic, really looks like there’s nothing she’d rather do than be going down on me, it really enhances the experiences. In terms of technique, i personally love a lot of tongue on it 
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My OH agrees with this. It’s not all about technique, a lot of his turn on is my enthusiasm. I love giving BJs and giving them gets me seriously 
and he can tell I’m enjoying - lovely circle of pleasure for both of us
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@Love_Stud_Too . Id say that was a fairly comprehensive guide in the subtle art of blow jobs.
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One thing to remember…although its called a "Blow job ", , always suck, never blow.
One other thing, a “very gentle” suck of the balls , is always appreciated.
Im sure you will develop your own special techniques very quickly, which he will love.
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Gentle licking is the place to start, getting it nice and wet. Don’t worry about swallowing or spitting, get out of the way when the eruption starts!..you can finish him in your mouth as you get more used to the idea. Don’t suck too hard and as @Iwill says, never blow!
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As a couple of others mention, the technique is important.
The one thing a guy wants is to look down and see his OH absolutely loving it, really moving their head and sliding up and down with their mouth.
Theres nothing worse than looking down and seeing your OH eyeing the new crease in the curtains or new rip in the wallpaper they weren’t aware of.
Make sure both of you are comfy, use lube to begin with if he’s dry to start and then make the noises like you have never given anyone a BJ like hes having.
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Forgot to mention, if you’re worried about the ejaculation part then either swallow or dont. If you dont want to, then let him shoot it onto your face, breasts, stomach etc or at the worst, into a tissue (although this last one isn’t going to turn him on too much).
Most men love a BJ and is something that turns us on unbelievably.
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