Hi
I’m new here and I’m after some advice….
I’m happily married for quite a while and we now have children.
Prior to the children arriving, my wife and I used to enjoy some basic bondage (handcuffs, blindfolds…).
Since the children arrived our ‘us’ time is restricted and the bondage has stopped.
I’d like to reintroduce it as we both really enjoyed it and maybe explore a little further but times and tastes may change. Which is the best way to bring up the topic in conversation without scaring or upsetting her?
Thanks in advance for any help and tips.
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Why do you think she might be scared or upset if you were both into it before? Do you want it to be more than just the softer stuff that you have done in the past. You will also need to think about where you can do it without the children hearing as they might think that you are being violent and it could upset them.
You could just say to her that you miss what you used to do before the children arrived and see what her reaction is and take it from there.
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It might be something to mention to do the next time you get a chance to be somewhere other than where the kids are. Weekend away or them staying at friends or relatives.
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Honestly? Dinner, wine, candles. Order in from a favourite restaurant. Woo her a little maybe.
You: “Hey, so listen I was thinking, you remember how we used to be kind of kinky? I really miss those days. Do you ever think about trying it again?”.
When we were younger (but not that young, early twenties), hubby and I had lots of time for BDSM. Now in our mid-thirties with jobs to do, a home to run and a dog to look after, well, we planned to be kinky two weeks ago… we both passed put on the bed instead!
It happens, and I’m sure we can help you both find ways to reignite the spark if you’re both on the same track. What you need to do for right now, though, is find out if she fancies exploring it again.
Good luck 
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Given that it’s something you used to enjoy together then I’d say just be upfront and come out with it.
" Hey wife, remember before we had kids we used to do x y z ? Well I really loved it and to be honest I’d like to revisit that a bit when the little sods are out of the house and we get some time to ourselves occasionally".
We had exactly the same conversation 10 years or so ago in my house. Within 24 hours my wife had arranged a weekend at Nan and Grandads for the two kids and she had 3 nights in a booked in a posh hotel down in Somerset. Turned out she was just as desperate to be tied up, blindfolded and abused for the weekend as I was.
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Thanks all for the advice. Nice lunch booked for next week where the topic will be raised 
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So how did it go? are you back on track with your bondage thing or not?