Hi everyone, I’m hoping someone here can be an absolute legend and point me in the right direction xD
Over txt about a week ago, I asked my wife if she would be into trying handcuffs, and she replied ‘yes I would’ (WHOOP!) and I have a nice little pair of LH cuffs due to be delivered anytime now.
My main problem other than having never used cuffs or the play that comes with using them, is that my wife has hypermobility. Generally speaking it’s awesome, but where her body moves in ways it shouldn’t, it is then very painful for her later on.
I’m trying to find perhaps a website that has any information on positions etc that can be used with a partner in cuffs with hypermobility that won’t hurt them, I really want my wife to enjoy the experience without any pain, not just so that she enjoys it, but so we can keep doing it xD
Thanks you in advance xD
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This is what I was thinking, my wife is easily embarrassed when talking about things like that (which was why I was so surprised when she agreed to try cuffs in the first place), so I don’t know how she would respond to looking at positions with me.
I can only hope she can put her embarrassment away for just long enough to find a couple of things she would be good with xD
She will have to be the guide and it might take some experimention…bummer LOL!
Make sure you can release her quickly. You might consider leg and are restraints if the cuffs go well or even a spreader bar. We have a 4 poster bed so it makes securing arms and legs simple. I also built top to the 4 poster bed with 2x6 that go around the bed more like a canopy but far stronger and some stringers in between. I attached tie down point all over the place. The toot of the bed can be used as a poor mans St. Andrews cross. With arm and leg tie downs to keep someone spread but no supports to lean on which might be a good add!
Have fun, go slow and ask her constantly about how she feels.
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lol yeah, she doesn’t like to take the lead either, so between that and the experimentation, it could get real interesting xD
I think my main concern is that when she will have the cuffs on, she will have less ability to support herself / put herself into a position that won’t end up hurting her later. I know that’s kind of part and parcel with bondage, but damn it I’m going to try and ensure her comfort at all costs 
I’ve managed to find some web reporter type pages (not always a good thing to follow), but they have given me some ideas that I can float.
The main thing I keep seeing online is that I should apparently ‘encourage my partner to take the dominant role’, I’d be absolutely fine with that, but the wife isn’t one for dominance xD
I’m genuinely so amazed at how little information there is available regarding bondage and hypermobility.
Allow me to introduce myself 
My name is Helen, I am a BDSM educator with more than 15 years of experience in exploring kink with physical disabilities, including chronic pain and hypermobility. I set up my blog to help other people like you, who are curious about kink but have health considerations to keep in mind.
You may find these posts helpful
Six Tips For Exploring Bondage With Chronic Pain
What’s Your Kink? Bondage
You can also check out out our other What’s Your Kink? posts and sex position reviews, which graze over considerations with health conditions and disabilities.
Good luck, and I hope it helps
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For most you are either Dom or not. Neither of us are really dom. I would not say that either of us are super sub either. We both have likes and take the lead but neither one is in charge. I guess we are switch. I tie her up and she will tie me up. I tend to be in the lead more.
I think the thoughts are that if she is in charge then she will make sure she is not hurting etc. Really good communication is a must. I see no issues with her being tied as long as you both understand that if she says stop or whatever word then it stops and she can either move or tell you how you can help her.
This is kinda old but I hope you have tried some things and had fun!
