Hey everyone, partner and i looking to experiment with some light bondage, nothing crazy just yet. Im interested in your stories and advice on what to try for beginners.
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Advice from me is:
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don’t go too tight, and make sure you’re still comfortable
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get something you can get out of / cut yourself out of immediately
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Our first exploration of bondage involved a set of fuzzy handcuffs and shortly after a 30 foot length of soft bondage rope.
Turns out metal handcuffs aren’t very comfy, even if they are coated in fuzz. And it takes a lot of time (and practice) to figure out what you’re doing with a bunch of rope, and even longer to be any good at it!
It should go without saying - but we better say it anyway - that consent and conversation about how you want to play together should be sorted before you get into the bedroom. Negotiate a safeword system even if you think you don’t need it. We like the stoplight system as it’s easy to remember and allows the “yellow” as a slow-down/check-in safeword when you don’t actually want a hardstop but need to communicate something outside of scene. That said…
While I could tell you that buying a kit with a variety of things to try, you can being the exploration with items that are probably lying around anyway! You can play with restraint with a neck tie, scarves, or stockings. Same can be used as blindfolds or gags to play with some deprivation. A wooden spoon or spatula from the kitchen can be used to experiment with impact play. A belt likewise can be used for either bondage or flogging.
Once you’ve tried that out, maybe you’ll have a better idea of what tools you want to explore more fully. For restraints, I recommend soft velcro style cuffs as the most beginner-friendly material. Under-the-bed restraint systems are also super fun and that’s where we got our first soft cuffs after the metal-fuzzy handcuffs. Over time we got tired of the velcro noises and upgraded to some nice leather and buckle cuffs that are very comfortable and sexy. We’ve also had good fun with the use of spreader bar, large Liberator pillows with spots to secure cuffs, etc.
Impact toys like paddles, crops, and floggers all have pretty different sensations and uses. I’m most often to use the flogger on her as we get a lot of mileage out of playing with the different sensations, ranging from dragging the leather tassles over her genitals and breasts to tickle/tease to the whip-snap on her pubis and backside.
Collars, gags, and nipple clamps have all been included in our play at various times as well. You just never know what’s going to be a favorite or not!
After consent, the next most important thing is to just have fun playing and exploring together. to be honest if a scene doesn’t involve one of us cracking up over something that went awry then it probably wasn’t a very good scene for either of us.
Happy bonding!
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A set of under the mattress restraints are a great place to start. LH has quite a few options. I’d recommend something with soft, velcro cuffs if you’re just starting out – they’re much more comfortable than traditional metal cuffs and easier to use in a hurry.
My OH and I really enjoy shibari as well, but there’s definitely a learning curve when it comes to rope.
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