My wife and I really enjoy our BDSM, not so much the hardcore pain and serious degradation more the restraints, sensory deprivation and role play, sub / dom end of things.
My favorite long standing kink is being restrained in some way, blindfolded and gagged for her to use as she pleases (and she sometimes likes a turn as the sub too). I particularly enjoy long sessions where I am wearing my restraints for long periods. The other day I was blindfolded for 10 hours and gagged for about 3 while she edged and shagged me.
In the spirit of exchanging ideas and enhancing our experiences I would love to hear off others who enjoy this kind of play.
What is the longest youāve ever been restrained / blindfolded / gagged for (or have had your partner in bondage)?
What was done to you / what did you do to your partner during the session (or any other time where youāve been similarly restrained)?
We have 3 days away alone in a hotel soon and we have decided to have an absolutely filthy, sex fantasy filled few days. We have booked a nice suite and donāt really even plan to leave the room much.
My wife has said that subject to our usual hard limits she is keen to play and do pretty well anything I like (and vise-versa for me doing what she wants) so we have been ordering toys and lingerie and are coming up with a few new ideas to try in our games.
Iāll be interested to see what other people get up to. I am always keen to learn and hear new ideas.
I love restraints but we use them during sex. We have several pairs of handcuffs and leg-to-wrist restraints.
I use them on my man too, when I give him a good spanking for bad behavior and he still has the nerve to put his hands where he shouldnāt. When I peg him I also like to tie him in certain positions. Heās not the only dominant one anymore hehe
Did you hydrate and eat in that entire time? What about the bathroom? Sorry, Iām curious
No I didnāt eat, I did bathroom and hydrate but my mistress (wife) took me to the bathroom, sat me down and left me. I kept my blindfold on and once I was done she took me back to the bedroom.
Hydrating or eating is no problem blindfolded as she can pass me what I want. Most people donāt require their eyes to eat or drink something. When gagged itās more difficult but generally gag sessions are shorter, and if we go for a longer one it just has to be popped out long enough for eating / drinking before being put back in.
I guess technically that breaks up the continuous period gagged but we arenāt specifically trying to go for a set length of time like some people do, so it doesnāt bother us. If I am gagged for (say) 3 hours and have to take a drink at the hour mark I donāt really split hairs, as long as it was only out for a few moments to take in liquid I just say I was gagged for 3 hours.
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I would recommend sexual rope - takes a bit of time to become a master but tie your legs open and rope around the shaft of the penis - through the balls (to separate them) then back and tied around your chest or other - total immobile and she can then use you how she wants
We also enjoy a good BDSM session and like you stay away from the more serious side of it. I dont have any suggestions for your dynamic unfortunatly as Iām (Male) 100% the dom and she enjoys being the sub, but ideas that you may be able to flip roles.
We have underbed restraints that put her into a starfish position fully exposed to tease her however i want without her being able to move any limbs.
I also have a chair I have modified to hold a plug in wand that she sits on and then gets tied/taped too, again not able to move and usually gagged, mainly not to wake the neighbourhood
A very easy one we almost always have to start us off is a collar and lead, usually to pull her and keep her into oral positioning.
I like the chair idea, not sure thatāll work for our kinky few days away but I will definitely look into that at home.
We also enjoy a collar and lead and the under bed restraints. We switch a fair bit but I would say at the moment I am slightly edging towards the sub role.
If you havenāt already then do try the wrist to thigh cuffs, they are really versatile and allow a better variety of positions than the under bed system wil much less fiddling. Paired with a spreader bar they become even better.
Hubby (Dom) and I (sub) have been in the BDSM life 18 years and we often enjoy some sensation play. Iād maybe stave off wax play if youāre in a hotel room (you donāt want to have to explain how you accidentally set fire to your bedsheets ) but you could explore things like a pinwheel, feather tickler, scratching with nails. Thatās crucially what sensation play is; itās all sensations and they can make your climax even more intense when she does finally decide to let you pop
How about a ruined orgasm? She could tease you and edge you then when she does decide to let you cum, take away all simulation. Itās intense and you will probably hate her in the moment as you will feel completely and utterly helpless and unable to prevent your orgasm, but afterwards you will probably fall in love
Finally you could explore anal play with some anal toys if youāve feared the rear until now
I was restrained, blindfolded and gagged, edged and teased for a good while, an hour or more, then left to stew for a bit.
She came back and played with me about half an hour later. I was made to lick her pussy and bum, suck her nipples and basically please her any way she wanted. That went on around an hour and a half, then I was allowed to shag her but I had to stop if I was going to cum. That went on for a couple more hours with her cumming 3 times (i think).
Finally I was allowed to cum inside her and that just about finished me off for a while after all the teasing beforehand. I had the gag removed and dozed off, no idea at the time of the timescale but she said that I was out for about 2 hours.
Then she woke me and made me spoon her slowly and gently while kissing her neck and playing with her boobs, after a while I realised she had put a buttplug in herself. When I comments on it she asked if I would like one and then put one in me. I was still blindfolded, and sleepy which made me a bit disoriented and had no idea of the time so i just got completely lost in the moment and the sensations. That actually made it a really great experience that I am keen to repeat. We had sex for about an hour and a half or so.
After that I slept for another couple of hours before waking, we had some kissing and cuddling and touching then I was gagged again, had a great blowjob but she stopped just short. Then she climbed on, rode me until she came and then finished off my blowjob. Afterwards she removed my gag and blindfold for me to see my cum all over her face and in her hair.
Actually now I am sort of adding it all up (from what she said afterwards) I think I was closer to 11-12 hours blindfolded and about 4ish hours gagged.
I like the pinwheel idea, might go well with some clamps actually.
I love a ruined orgasm, she gets very frustrated when I do it to her but it doesnāt really have the desired after effect on her so theyāre a me only thing.
We have an inflatable buttplug that she absolutely loves in her back passage when I am in the front. I have shied away from it until now but sheās keen to use it on me and has gently suggested it a couple of times. I have more or less come round to the idea as curiosity has gotten the better of me. I still find the idea a bit intimidating (it can go quite big), but also quite tantalising. I was planning to get it out and just have a little go when I get the chance for some me time in the next couple of weeks before we go away, just so Iāve got an idea what to expect and I am not caught totally off guard the first time we use it on me together.
FWIW I donāt like ruined orgasms either, it takes me a while to āget thereā so to get there and have it ruined is incredibly frustrating and feels like a huge waste of my time. Iām glad you both have fun though
Good luck with the plug. I often do similar - test stuff before I let hubby get his mitts on it, you know, just to be safe
For me teasing is such fun - while you are restrained she is inches away possibly on a chair and slowly masterbates and uses a dildo while you watch - once she cums she then sits on your face and you are ordered to clean up
This is a personal favourite of mine - and he loves it when we do this
I like to be blindfolded but I canāt take it for too long, probably 15 mins at a time. I need to connect again otherwise it starts to feel like things are being done to me rather than with me. 5 mins of being āback in the roomā and then Iām good to be blindfolded again.
A scenario weāve done a few times is me using the under mattress restrains and restraining myself, gagged and blindfolded. Obviously mindful of the order theyāre done. He lets himself into my house and comes up the stairs to find me. Thereās always a moment where I think is that him or someone else?
We enjoy this scenario
I was a bit disorientated and had absolutely no sense of time whatsoever, it took a few minutes just to let my sense of time return and process that so many hours had passed.
The blindfold is well known as a really good way to heighten touch and build anticipation but for me, I have found when I go long periods (it seems to start at somewhere around the hour mark) that I lose all connection with reality.
When I have been blindfolded for a couple of hours plus, and I am down there licking her pussy itās really like there is nothing else in existence. Itās just me and the taste and smell and sensation of her juices. Time seems to stop and I just am, and I am totally immersed in the act. My wife doesnāt get the same, she can go a hour or so then needs a short break.
My wife is like that, she enjoys going about an hour or so before but then she usually needs a few minutes break.
She has said itās not unpleasant when she reaches that sort of time point but she starts feeling remote and a bit emotionally numb, I am the opposite, getting more engrossed in the play and everything else just moving out of my head.
Interesting, that actually do make sense to lose connection to reality and is like a state of meditation
Kinda like when people go in them dark float tank things and have spiritual journeys and wacky stuff!
What about the bathroom? Sorry, Iām curious 
) but you could explore things like a pinwheel, feather tickler, scratching with nails. Thatās crucially what sensation play is; itās all sensations and they can make your climax even more intense when she does finally decide to let you pop 
