Looking to get some bondage tape as my girlfriend is keen to be tied up but not where to start , with positions ect? Any advice would be welcome
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Have you looked at the pages on the main LH site?
https://www.lovehoney.co.uk/advice/bondage/
Also, if you use the search function here on the forum you should find lots of stuff to help get you started.
Have fun!
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Hands together in front/behind her back is a good place to sfart. In fronf nay belp her feel safer if she worries about falling etc, but behind her baxk will help her feel mode submissive and vulnerable. Have fun! 
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For a first try.
Tie her hands in front of her, lead her to the sofa and either over the arm of it or the back depending on design bend her over and maybe with a little spanking have doggie sex
Cushions used for comfort as required.
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Start with what you have on hand. Robe ropes are excellent starter restraints because they are soft and almost impossible to tie too hard.
Lovehoney Quick Cuffs are another good starter. They give the feeling of restraint but allow you to get free when you want to.
Before you do all that, agree on a safe word! āNoā āStopā āDontā and āPleaseā are NOT good safe words!!! Neither is āFLÅ°GGĆ ĘNKāā¬ÄHIÅĪ²ĆLā«ĆNā!
āYellowā, āRedā, āOrangeā, āPancakesā, āInternational trade and tariff agreementsā are all good safe words. Safe words only work if you use them. That means understanding that if you say āDont you dare gag me with those pantiesā you are going to get gagged with those panties. The only way you dont get gagged with those panties is to say PANCAKES!
Oh, and have fun!
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With bondage, safety always has to be first. Please do a little research first on how and where you can bind your partner safely - the places we naturally gravitate to, like the wrists and ankles are the exact places where your nerves are at the most vulnerable and closer to the surface.
If you bind your partner incorrectly you can cause permanent, irreversible nerve damage.
Keep safety scissors within reach at all times, if you partner feels any discomfort, tingling, shooting pain or anything odd at all, stop and cut them out immediately. If the scissors arenāt within arms reach, you donāt have them.
Honestly we started with ropes but quickly invested into cuffs etc, they are way more safe, quick and convenient and the investment was 100% worth it. If youāre partner is interested in exploring it my best advice would be to use rope as the anchor points to tie off to the bed and find some nice restraint cuffs etc that you both like.
Have fun! Bondage absolutely transformed our sex life and we love it.
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The only advice I would give is bondage is based a lot on trust.
You can and should try as many positions and accessories as you can, it can all be fun!
But if one or another is heavily tied up and immobile, donāt abuse or break that trust
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The important thing is to have a safeword . The common practice is the "traffic light " code .
Green = carry on , Amber = Itās nice , but getting close to Red , and Red = STOP !
Remember , safe , sane and consensual is the key .
Bondage can be fun , enjoy the journey
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@RKat Totally interested in this concept, if youāre happy to share more - I always found it so hard to use safe words in the situation. Iād just seize up completely and go into a āsub spaceā situation that was really dangerous because if my partner didnāt realise I was suddenly mute and tense (my ex never did) Iād end up taking whatever he was giving and heās had a great time and Iāve been stunned for a week at best (retaining numbed memories 8 years later at worst).
Iāve always wondered if holding a little bell would work better in this situation. My now husband and I havenāt really done any sub/dom stuff in recent years so Iāve never really had the chance to test it, but definitely feel like if safe words arenāt possible, a little bell in your hand that you hold during a session so it doesnāt accidentally sound and press with a thumb when you need something to stop would be more effective?
A squeeky dog ball. When I had my cataracts done they put a small squeeky ball in my hand and told me if I became uncomfortable or in pain i had to squeeze the ball to alert them.
Anything that you can think to use will work. The most important thing is that you both understand what it means 