My boyfriend has repeatedly told me that his strange fantasy is to catch my cheating. At first I didn’t think he really meant it but he won’t stop talking about it so…
Should I suprise him by having sex with another guy or is it a massive risk?
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It sounds like he wants you to. Where would you actually find the guy and how are you going to go about doing it?
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Massive risk, there is a significant difference between the fantasy and the actual event pof the fantasy happening.
Do you want to do it is the first question, how would you feel having sex with someone else just because someone wanted you to?
If you did have sex with someone else does he want to be there to see you both, or for you to tell him about it? Could he actually hsndle the fsct tjst you have had sec with someone else, could your relationship survive?
If you both wamt this then why not investigate the swinging scene in your local area, it would probably be safer than casual hook ups and you can take your time and work out your limits.
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Thats a question you need to have with your partner.
Swinging like @DLJL suggested is a safer option or let him ‘catch’ you using a dildo and see if that fulfills his need.
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Egad!! I agree with @JoCat and @DLJL , look into swinging and have communication open with your partner on it all so no boundaries are over stepped
Why is her comment flagged? So frustrating… She starts a topic and immediately gets flagged.
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Got to agree with you @valbowski77 , I don’t know why this has been flagged and hidden. I’m not sure what rule is being broken here 
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In terms of the question, my answer would be, no. Huge risk and probably wont make you feel good either. Talk to him, find out exactly what aspect of the situation is turning him on. If he wants to see you with another man (and most importantly, only if you would like this too!!) then discuss visiting a Swingers club. If it’s the secretive, something behind his back aspect, then let him catch you masturbating. Basically, I agree 100% with what @DLJL has written above.
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Yesterday another persons comment on a post was flagged which also didn’t state anything offensive 
maybe it’s just an error on the forum
As for the question, nope I definitely wouldn’t just surprise him. If it’s a fantasy of his have a talk first and make sure it’s something 100% both of you want to do.
I think we all should start flagging everyone’s comments and see how much fun this forum is…
Grow up
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Seems like some phantom flagging trolling or new users trying to earn a badge maybe!
Can’t see why this one would be flagged or many of the other recent ones / comments.
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I’d definitely not surprise him.
I have a fantasy of my OH having sex with another man and him being substantially better than me. Would i want her to do it, in reality, not really.
I think my fantasy comes from my own insecurities that i ‘might not be good enough’ but in reality it’s been nearly 30 years so if i was that bad im sure she’d have let me know.
Be very careful you don’t ruin a good relationship. Talk talk talk to get to the bottom of it.
It needs to be 100% on both sides. If its 100 - 99% then it shouldn’t happen
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See my other post.
I am not sure about this a the start of a relationship.
It might be a nice bit of fun for you both but it might signal that this isn’t the long term relationship you think it might be.
One thing you could try, rather than cheating, what about giving one of his mates a BJ as a birthday present, or when he has a mate stay after the pub bring him a coffee in the morning in the nude. Both totally acceptable and fun but not actually cheating and I am sure your bf would enjoy.
Sorry, I should have said …
what about you both agreeing to do something like giving one of his mates a BJ as a birthday present, or when he has a mate stay after the pub suggest to your boyfriend that you bring the mate a coffee in the morning in the nude.
All meant to be with consent.
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Crikey, if I, male, was to bring morning coffee/tea whilst naked to friend of the opposite sex staying over, I’m not sure it would be considered acceptable at all. Nevermind fun.
Maybe he thinks youre cheating and this is a way to find out.
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Please note: The ‘random’ posts that were flagged were not done so by a member. They were flagged by the system.
There is no rogue member going around flagging posts. They were done so for a reason, by the system 
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