What are yours love and hate about this topic my submissive is sometime needing it and loves it then over times it like its a hard no and she feels like it to much
Firmly on the no list for me. Its way too dangerous in my opinion.
Hard limit for me too. Massive trigger. Even someone putting their hand on the front of my throat would be enough to jolt me out of a nice comfy headzone and into a safeword use situation
@Green_Eyed_Girl Definitely, I can’t even watch porn where they place hands on throats as it instantly turns me off in fear
It’s a no for me. I don’t mind a hand round my throat that is lightly pressing but anything that challenges my breathing is a hard NO
Snap! The hardest of hard limits for me too. As a toddler I had nightmares about asphyxia; as an adult I’ve known actual asphyxia leading to unconsciousness, from having epileptic seizures. Like @WelshDragonette, I can’t abide any porn with breath control or masks. Too triggering.
Yeah, same boat. Also epileptic. Thought i was going to die from it a couple of times. Why i have most of my triggers sadly. Very frustrating for subbing.
Im the same as @WelshDragonette even it turning up in a book can be a big no no depending on the context
The wife and I love our bondage and use all sorts of restraints, gags etc but both of us agree that breath play is a bit much for us.
Ah see, I like a bit of rough. His big hand gripping my neck is a turn on when we are both in that mood. It’s not often by any means. However I am only comfortable with it as I trust him so much (and it only lasts seconds).
I enjoy it but only with the right partner.
Not something I would ever venture into, the margin for error is too small.
Never really known what breath play was all about… I thought it involved a mega heavy person sitting on someone or farting in peoples faces lol
@AJSTAR It could be done by face sitting - its basically stopping your partner (or self) from being able to breath for the adrenaline and rush it can give (using safe motions etc for safety). But unfortunately it can easily go wrong, and is used frequently as a murder defence, that it was consensual asphyxiation which went wrong
Oh yikes! I remember in the news years back about this kind of thing where a man strangled his partner during sex and he was devastated and it was quite a tricky court battle as they couldn’t decide if it’d be classed as murder or accidental death…
Sorry, deleted that last reply as its a bit heavy for an advice forum! slipped into work mode a bit too much there!
My partner likes me to choke her when we’re getting a bit rough but it’s only for a little bit because it’s more just the domination of the hand/s around the neck rather than getting turned on by actually almost suffocating
@Very-Ape that’s exactly how it is for us. I’m definitely not interested in not breathing!
I’ve not heard of breath play before and not sure if this is included but we do lots of choking. We do quite hard choking too which I really enjoy. I’ve only ever done it with my bf now but would never have dreamed of it before and it’s not something I would do with anyone else.
Wasn’t even sure what that was but now that i do i say nope. I would feel like I’m abusing her & never would i do that. Just how i feel mind you so please don’t think I’m criticizing. When between consenting adults it’s their business what they do.
I was shame as as im s lot bigger than her so i was a hard no but after 3 years of beginning me i gave in and never going back as i see the way it makes her cum harder and longer