I started off using butt plugs and at first and I thought they were great but then I wanted to start experimenting with my prostate so bought a few different prostate massagers but nothing would really hit the spot.
I then really wanted to buy the njoy Pure Wand Stainless Steel Dildo, but before spending that much money I decided to buy a cheap one elsewhere to see if that worked for me and yes it did.
As soon as I insert it it immediately rests against my prostate and in no time at all it feels like I’m peeing but obviously I’m ejaculating and there is so much of it and I can do it time and time again one after another, and I feel more horny afterwards than I’ve ever felt before.
So my suggestion is definitely the njoy Pure Wand Stainless Steel Dildo or an equivalent.
And if you haven’t already done so, put your name down in the tester thread for the harnesses!
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Sorry for the delay in getting back to all, we are not long back from the hotel break so I wasn’t on the forums for a couple of days.
Thanks so much for the advise @FindingLibido I’ve got that video bookmarked for us to watch together 
You’re gave some good advise which we really appreciate 
@Senator I’ve been through the posts with him n he said he’d rather it be me that goes in lol but I agree and tried saying nobody knows your body better than yourself.
That’s so true, I hope it’s a bit after a bit of practice that is but there’s a reason why men have a prostate so why on earth wouldn’t you want to stimulate it? Cheers for the advise hun
@Rob36 I reckon your advice is spot on and sounds exactly what I envisioned to start bar the finger, ano it sounds bad but I don’t like the idea of using fingers I m the same with myself, can’t bear it so dya think it would be o.k to start with beads or a small plug?
Love the thought of hi him wearing a plug during blowjobs and sex 
Cheers for that awesome advise
Thanks @Spennymack that’s the plan after all of the advice here
@jc5 does your wife use anything fur her simulation whilst pegging you or does she orgasm alone from it? Ta fur the advice
@AJSTAR haha yeah best not to start with a 9 incher I’d terrify the poor chap
Thanks for the great advise and product recommendation I like the look of that one @Yes_man
Ooooh thanks @Knottydevil looks very good 
Did you try it out @FindingLibido ? That’s a point I’d not even considered 're (me getting used to things too). The harness pants do seem to look nicer in my opinion that is. I imagine it would be a mood killer struggling with the harness, so great advice trying it out a few times getting used to the feel n that. Ta fur great advice
@Love_Stud_Too I love the suggestions of talking throughout the big event, makes total sense does that
I think it’s more that if I allow him then he should try rather than wanting to. He was against it previously because of the stigma “you’re gay if you do anal” which is ridiculous, but he couldn’t get past that for a long, long time until I showed him allot on lovehoney and he’s now realised that bum fun is for any sexuality and has agreed, yasss! Fingers crossed it goes well. Thanks for your great advice and suggestions
@Jimmy603 the njoy wand looks like an absolute beaut 
I’ve got a couple of steel dildos that are quality, one of which would definitely be perfect for prostate stimulation but I love it so don’t think I wanna donate it 
Your experience sounds incredible, I really hope that it works out that way for us 
Thanks for your insights n advice it’s appreciated very much so
I’m really glad we can help.
Owing to shark week we didn’t get to test the bumper but I’ll let you know when we do!
“@Senator I’ve been through the posts with him n he said he’d rather it be me that goes in lol but I agree and tried saying…”
Really recommend he tries on his own. You can help by being there if he’d prefer but when trying anything new like that it does help to try it on yourself as you’ll be in the best position to understand the feelings and most importantly pain. With pegging, the giver doesn’t have that physical feedback so it’s important the receiver keeps communicating to avoid injury. When starting out it will be a bit strange and it’s hard at first to get your head around having sex where your penis isn’t involved in the same way.
Good luck, have fun and hope it goes well for you both!
Lol think that’s where I went wrong on myself when I first tried a dildo at 7inches, guess I may have jumped in the deep end
This is what we use it took awhile to find the right angle and position, we start with the pants that excepts a dildo with a o-ring and move onto the strapless strap on, it sends her crazy and me, I can feel her orgasm building.
Quite literally
Dose anyone have any comments on strapless strap on like the one above!!! I feel as if the motion and presure would hurt my OH vagina we just ordered a harness but curious on the comments on the strapless
Use the LH guarantee!
From responses on the forum its very much a personal thing for the wearer. We have both a strapless one and a regular dildo - both with harness pants depending on mood. There are times when my OH really likes the strapless strap on as she gets all sorts of sensations from it even without penetration and times when she prefers a simple dildo rather than having to faff around with getting ready.
On harnesses, again it’s a preference, my OH hated the harness as she found it deeply unsexy, the pants were more comfortable and looked more appealing. Others here prefer harnesses. LH are really good with their guarantee and sales so it’s not so much of a risk to try something new.
Oh wow - I didn’t know these existed, I wouldn’t mind trying one with my strap-on so I can get some extra pleasure while grinding him 
@Alyssa646
I’m so happy for you that he agreed - now the fun can begin.
Definitely avoid jumping straight into pegging without any other bum fun first.
Remember, if you want him to enjoy it and keep cumming back for more - this will be a slow process to gently ease him into bigger and better things.
My suggestion is to get a plug and some vibrating beads to start with, begin to introduce them during foreplay.
You can tie him up, bend him over and have a little play to start exploring his bum - don’t worry too much about locating the p-spot and giving him an orgasm. The aim is to just get him to start enjoying that feeling of having his ass filled.
Once he’s showed that he’s enjoying anal, you could get a regular sized dildo to try on him (a lot of LH dildos can be attached to the strap-on, so opt for one of those).
Something like this.
Before using it on him with the strap-on, begin using it just by hand to see how he handles the size.
Once you both feel comfortable and ready, you can get pegging 
After all the time spent exploring - you will both get to know more about the p-spot and how to stimulate it to get those amazing orgasms. That’s the stage we are currently at.
Top tips:
- Make sure he is well relaxed before trying
- Use plenty of lube
- Always use slow, shallow movements at first
- Doggy style works best, or if he is in the same position as doggy but lying on his back
- It can be difficult to get an erection when the arse is being penetrated
Have fun and just communicate during and after so you know how it’s feeling for him x
Personally I believe a smallish T - plug is great for starting and I still use them for a warm up . Something like this . https://www.lovehoney.com/sex-toys/butt-plugs/vibrating-butt-plugs/p/lovehoney-butt-tingler-10-function-vibrating-butt-plug-3.5-inch/a28501g70101.html
@Cupc8kes thank you bab, there’s a lot of food for thought there n it’s nice to also get the females opinion too you’s have it nailed by the sounds of it, no pun intended!
Tell me to mind my own if you don’t want to answer but if you’re ok with it,
who raised the subject?
Was their lots of trial and error?
Did your hubs ever worry about you looking at hi him as less than a man?
See hubs has opened up quite a bit after the initial chat where he came out with it out of the blue about his feelings and concerns n that was one. It was really sad when he asked that but i am super glad he did a as he’s fully communicating which has to be the most important thing I think.
Thanks again you’ve been extremely helpful there n I love the look of that toy for us too 
Edit also that dildo looks spot on, I have a few silicon ones from Lovehoney that were benched when I discovered glass then steel that would be perfect I think cos they’re in that same shape n I’ve got smaller n moving up as I explored myself, will they be okay to share? I I’m unsure About sharing anything other than glass or steal, I still would not share any toys, I’ll get opinion here then see what he would rather, we should probably start afresh, I’ve got my eyes on a few things for him 
I think that’s a perfect looking plug fur starters @Oldman thanks for that awesome recommendation
Yes it was hubby who originally raised the subject - so I was happy to experiment with him.
We dabbled a bit in the past but it’s only in more recent years that we’ve taken it to the next step and I’ve wanted to explore more with him.
Yes there has been lots of practising, occasionally he’ll go have some bum fun himself but he has to be in the mood for it.
We have slowly progressed onto more challenging toys.
He was definitely worried about how I might think of him and the whole stigma around it being ‘gay’ - but that is because of society, there is nothing gay about enjoying extra pleasure.
Once he was able to get past that, he allowed himself to feel free and enjoy it without judgement.
It’s nobody else’s business what we get upto in the bedroom - as long as y’all are happy and having fun, that’s all that matters 
Thanks for both yours and your hubs insights on the subject of bum fun judging by our recent discussions I reckon that’s been a huge part of it being written off completely in the past, society and narrow mindedness. We’re both huge advocates for the LGBT community 
we’re very happy how times are changing now, I can’t say enough how much I admire people to be exactly who they want to be but those from way, way back i admire hugely
Anyway it’s unfortunate that society has that opinion there’s still a lot of people out there who are so narrow minded but it shows they haven’t lived i think 
oh and there’s the added fact he says when I grab him n pretend to bend him over at random times n pretend I’m pounding him that i terrify him 
obviously now it’s on the cards he knows I’ll not go full on with him I’ll be super gentle and communication throughout all bum fun activities will be key.
Seriously though thanks for sharing your advice and suggestions for us we both really do appreciate all the help can get on the topic n what better place than a bunch of non-judgmental, friendly, open n honest randy mares
I always seen it as taboo now both my oh and myself are right into it