Can a man be TOO big?

interesting thing with dicks - I have seen porno's of the BBC nature (big black cock) and sometimes it appears that the ladies taking these monsters are in genuine pain.

one of my favourite porn actresses Cytheria (the lady of a million squirts) always seems to come the very most with an average size cock.

being average myself it meant a lot to me to see her come so much so therefore dispelling the idea that only big is beautiful.

in fact one of her vids was with a BBC and she didn't squirt once which to anyone famaliar with her work is extremely rare.

what we all must remember is that pornos are mostly made with actors/actresees so it's their job to appear to be as turned on as possible to sell a product or themselves. so don't believe the poor pussy being pummeled by 10 inches is really into it - they are being paid.

interestedly enough John Holmes:

"Regardless of what the actual length of Holmes' penis was, some people question whether he ever achieved full erections on movie sets. Veteran porn actress Annette Haven, for instance, recalled in the documentary Wadd: The Life and Times of John C. Holmes that "as the joke goes, if John ever became fully erect, he'd lose consciousness from lack of blood to the brain because his dick was that big. And it's true that his cock was never hard. It [having onscreen sex] was like doing it with a big, soft kind of luffa."

so rather than being poked hard in the pussy it seems his long softness was actually better.

another more fundamental way to look at cock size is to see how evolution seems to have favoured average sizes. survival of the (best) fittest perhaps :D nature has determined that 5-6 inches seems to work best with an ince above of below working almost as well. the really big ones are not so common.

well whatever your size always remember to respect your partners limits, make sure of plenty of lubrication and take your time.

The better question is, is there such thing as being too tight? Sometimes I am very tight err... down below... And I worry that one day I shall hurt my partner! Have any blokes ever been hurt by their lady's tightness?

PS I am happy with the size my OH is. If he were any bigger he'd hurt me!

No! is the simple answer. That's like asking can a woman's vagina be too big for a small penis!

Communication if a lady can't take the size of his penis is key! You don't have to try and take all of him, I can imagine this might upset some well endowed men to think that it's off putting to be large! Far from it. Don't we always say it's not the size that matter's, but what we do with it that counts. That goes for small or large vagina's, dicks and tits!

We're all built different and size shouldn't matter a damn!

Just some stats for you to think about:

80% of men have a penis between 4.7" to 6.4" long.

Less than 3% of men are over 7"

Less than 1% of men are over 7.5"

Less than 0.1% (less than one in 1,000) of men are over 8"

Less than 0.0002% (less than one in 500,000) of men are over 9"

Evolution tells you that the most "successful" penis size is going to be an average-sized penis, and that penis size evolved to optimize success. Thus, the most successful penis size is about 5.7". If women as a whole wanted or needed 8" penises, that would be the average size, but it isn't.

Boogaloo wrote:

According to google the largest penis is 18 inches (I'd heard it was 14 inches a couple of years ago). So whilst 12 inches sounds incredibly unlikely and is very difficult to imagine, its certainly feasible!

OMG. That just scared the hell out of me. I would never be able to take that inside, not that I would even consider trying... It would just likely tear me.

My limits for size is far far far below it. Average works best for me, tbh.Too big and it hurts and is not pleasant at all.

Ozz wrote:

No! is the simple answer. That's like asking can a woman's vagina be too big for a small penis!

Communication if a lady can't take the size of his penis is key! You don't have to try and take all of him, I can imagine this might upset some well endowed men to think that it's off putting to be large! Far from it. Don't we always say it's not the size that matter's, but what we do with it that counts. That goes for small or large vagina's, dicks and tits!

We're all built different and size shouldn't matter a damn!

I would say size sometimes matters. If you are tiny bit above average, then I do not expect there will be a problem. But imagine a girthy big penis, like the 12 inch. Maybe the woman would be able to take it in, but it may be painful and not enjoyable for her. If the woman cannot take it, unless she prepares for hours in advance and is left sore for long time after, then no amount of communication will solve this problem, I am afraid. Unless you agree to not have vaginal sex at all.

BumblebeeBuzzed wrote:

My other half is well endowed, and at first I failed to be able to take him at all. Over time, with a lot of patients and good communication we found a way to fit together perfectly. Now, it's like we're two pieces of the same puzzle and I wouldn't ever dream of anything else, anyone else or any other size.

I'm so pleased, I'm not alone. My OH is LARGE, and although I always managed to accommodate him, early on it was very much at my speed. Now 11 years later and we are amazing together. I orgasm really easily, and he knows exactly what sports to him to have me swerving all over the place. When I'm really horney, and with a spot of lube, we are able to have spontaniouse sex, without any four play. I love him bending me over the hot tub and surprising me with a firm forceful fuck.

If your prepared to take your time, and the man is aware of how to treat a woman I don't think any size is too big.

A balance of girth and length is best, give me more then 8.5 inches and im out, there's no point having sex if its painful

I'm a size queen had 12" before and yes it hurt in a way but in another way i wanted it too, i'm sub so thats probably part of it

Less than 0.0002% (less than one in 500,000) of men are over 9"

I woukd lov to know where you are finding hese men that have 12 inches, are you sure you are not measuring in centimetres lol![](upload://ez5kOkpKXRZOxjavAURYmQxVTau.gif) I am 8 inches and a little more when really turned on.

I was seeing a guy years ago that had such a huge penis it was actually a curse for him. It was like nothing I had ever seen before. It was long and extremely girthy. It was more like an extra limb than a penis. He wanted it to be less girthy because it affected his sex life.

I've slept with more people than most but his is the only penis I have ever seen that I have considered truly outside the norm at the top end. Most people are just a little bigger or smaller than average and it doesn't make much difference but when you can't even comfortably have sex and can't have a blow job at all, I would say it is too big. It all depends on the other person though. Too big for most will be perfect for some.

It can start causing issues as you get bigger but theres always ways round it.

my husbands is 8inhces and i am happy with it.anything bigger i would not like.although i have seen plenty but only used my hands.

My ex was 9" and hurt like hell. Doggy was agony for me.

I'm much happier with Mr Average now.

I definitely agree as well. We play this game a lot in the office with some of the dildos we recieve.

'If a guys penis was this size would you be down?'

I guess any guy can be too big in the right (or wrong!) situation. The advice you so often hear with regards to larger toys is to work your way up progressively to it, why should it be any different when dealing with well endowed guys? I imagine a guy with larger girth would be harder to handle than length as at least with length you don't have to take it all.

I think it depends entirely on the man, I had a large boyfriend once and it was awful too big, hurt like mad.

But then another large guy I dated was even bigger but was so gentle with it and knew exactly how to use it in a way that didn't leave me feeling like a wreck and it was amazing.

Fun Louise wrote:

BumblebeeBuzzed wrote:

My other half is well endowed, and at first I failed to be able to take him at all. Over time, with a lot of patients and good communication we found a way to fit together perfectly. Now, it's like we're two pieces of the same puzzle and I wouldn't ever dream of anything else, anyone else or any other size.

I'm so pleased, I'm not alone. My OH is LARGE, and although I always managed to accommodate him, early on it was very much at my speed. Now 11 years later and we are amazing together. I orgasm really easily, and he knows exactly what sports to him to have me swerving all over the place. When I'm really horney, and with a spot of lube, we are able to have spontaniouse sex, without any four play. I love him bending me over the hot tub and surprising me with a firm forceful fuck.

If your prepared to take your time, and the man is aware of how to treat a woman I don't think any size is too big.

Hey! I had this too. Didn't help I was a virgin when I got together with my SO. I thought that was the only reason it took me so long to accommodate him, so to speak, but after a few drunken chats with my roommates, turns out 8.5" isn't normal length 🙈

Lovehoney - Paige wrote:

I definitely agree as well. We play this game a lot in the office with some of the dildos we recieve.

'If a guys penis was this size would you be down?'

the lovehoney office is such a chill place haha