Hello! I loose my self-confidence as I aged 
I’m male 31, and I’m a bit chubby, can I be still attractive to women?
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Hello, I believe an interesting personality and having a life that a woman would want to be a part of are far more important to them than what a man looks like.
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Hello, first of all if you are aged then I am truly ancient as I am 41. Yes, personality is absolutely everything. I used to fantasise about my driving instructor in the back of his car and he was bald, about 25 years older than me and with a potbelly. But his good vibes were everything.
But there is something about guys and women that lean a little bigger, if they can get themselves a bit in shape they look the very best out of everyone. Just my private observations 
. So concentrate on making yourself the best person healthwise, and fit too and the rest will take care of itself and your self image will improve with it. Just speaking as a woman that only has to look at cheese and put on a pound. Which is absolutely tragic as I could live off cheese if it didn’t have that affect. 
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Hellooooooo
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thanks 
and I absolutely agree with you!
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People are attracted to all shapes and sizes so yes.
Ultimately I think personality is the main thing that keeps someone attracted to you. You could have 10/10 looks (according to society says is attractive) but if you are a horrible person then that attractiveness instantly becomes a 1/10.
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thanks! it’s the same for me about cheese
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Yes, definitely! So many men (and women) are lacking in confidence because they don’t think their body shape is what other people find attractive but it’s not true. Of course some people will prefer the toned body of a regular gym goer but others like a bit more to cuddle. For me, personality is by far the most important thing. I’ve had crushes on many people who have told me that they are single because they’re not attractive enough. I have to try to subtly explain that their assumption is definitely not true! (I say subtly because I am married and I don’t want to give the wrong impression!) There’s something about a person that will draw me to them and it has very little to do with body shape. Plus I’d rather be with someone who enjoys a nice meal out and has time to spend with me than someone who is in the gym every day, never eats pizza and doesn’t have time to spend with me!
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Hello and welcome,
Yes! 100%. In fact, I usually go for chubbier guys over gym bros.
I’m not single but I admittedly have crushes on a couple of guys. Both bearded and cuddly and amazing guys 
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Oh yes! Cheese is my weakness too. I could give up most foods but cheese is the exception!
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Welcome @itchy-owl
Firstly being chubby should never be a set back - most of my life I have been overweight but now fighting back, but still overweight - but happy
to me I find men who are interesting and good at talking more of a turn on than physical shape …
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I would say a definite yes same as chubby women can be attractive to men
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Hello @itchy-owl!
Welcome to the forums!
Firstly, being a fellow 31-er, I get the loss of self-confidence BUT, being a bit chubby is not something to feel down about, we’re all different shapes and sizes and we all have different preferences.
Personally I love a chubby guy, I’ve always went for men who either have a ‘dad bod’ or carry some extra weight. Yes, looks aren’t everything, and personality is more important, but it really is down to how you click with someone, whether you have chemistry and whether you find each other attractive. I’d much rather have a man that can make me laugh, hold a good conversation and have a personality over muscles or being skinny any day!
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I’m a 37 year old chubby guy, and my wife is a slim size 10. Both of body shapes have changed throughout our relationship, especially through two pregnancies and then having two young children to distract us from eating as healthily as we should, or exercising when we should. Regardless of those changes we’ve been through, our love for each other has never waned at all.
When you meet the right person they’ll be a lot more interested in how you make them laugh than your belt size.
You’ve got this my fellow chunky monkey!
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I think you found your answer here. My imagination does seem to go a bit overboard sometimes but, personally I’m more into rugby players than football players, and if you do find yourself getting into that realm of physicality, then you might just have to get yourself a restraining order against me!! 
just joking X
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Welcome to the forum fella, of course you can be, there literally is someone out there for everyone apparently so you just need to go find them!
Maybe try work on you self confidence as one major thing is to have confidence in yourself as it shows across to others 
Sure Me for my part - I like the contrast between me being slim and him being chubby!
There is always someone outside who likes who you are!
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I bloody well hope so, or I’m not getting laid again. Mrs Balls and myself love, and fancy, each other for who we are, warts and all.
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Personality is more important, I think.
I have nothing against men who stay in shape but I’d much prefer a cuddly bear. I think a lot of that has to do with social media, gym posing and often fake people.
It’s personal preference, but I would happily accept a dad bod every single time 
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Aww thanks for the reassurance S2.
I feel that there are indeed so many fake people in grey houses with “love laugh” signs in them who are trying to impress others yet leading a miserable existence.
Working all hours and chasing a higher paid job to pay for the £400pm car to drive to the £150 a month gym in a designer tracksuit etc.
Nope not here, we would more likely be on the settee naked sharing a family bag of crisps and a bottle of wine but happy. Both have dead end jobs now, but we also don’t owe a penny anywhere.
Like a fair few on this forum, we are actually enjoying life, unlike the plastic people who are brainwashed into a lifestyle of never ending debt.
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