Good question. I think the problem with the term “Squirting” is that it conjures up images of the pornstar ejaculating a large volume of liquid.
I’d say the answer is yes, it can be taught/learned, but you might find it’s not the explosive volume you’re expecting. It might just be a large wet spot on the bed after as the ejaculate dribbles out, or a gentle gushing feeling.
It’s different for every woman. Some will squirt huge volumes and others not so much, and some never. I think it takes time and patience for some people as well.
Also, (not saying you are) I wouldn’t equate squirting with better sex. Sometimes, I have a better orgasm without squirting then if I do. It’s more of a circumstance and scenario thing for us.
Also well said and I agree, there’s no pressure from me about her if or when she could ever experience this. I am always 99% of the time wanting her to be pleased before me.
My Mrs had never managed to squirt until about 2 years ago. Then one time it just happened out of nowhere, now she cant control herself, if she feels the urge to squirt she just does it. She always thought she could never do it but now she cant stop.
I’ve found it’s all about technique, once you’ve found the right technique you’ll master it no problem. My Mrs struggles to squirt when she’s 69 on top of me, as this is more my error, as I cant get my hand, fingers in the correct position to hit the right spots. However if she’s on all fours doggy I can achieve my goal and make her squirt. I’m 69 on top of her, once I’ve got her really turned on there’s no stopping her squirting I can literally have her squirting in 30 seconds of touching her. She always thought empties her bladder before we start, and sometimes it helps to use a good bit of lube so there’s no chaffing. I used middle and ring finger and curl these back so they’re coming towards her clit on the inside. I have to be rather vigorous. soft and gentle just won’t make it happen. You have to relax especially when feeling the urge to piss you have to relax as this is when it’s going to happen, and it can happen like it does in the movies. It all depends sometimes it does sometimes it doesn’t. Sometimes it’s like little squirts, that squirt with your had movements, and sometimes it can just pour out, I think it all depends on how horny and turned on she is. Also she knows how to stop it from happening, if it’s late at night and we cant be bothered to change the bed, she’ll hold it in. When my Mrs does squirt she has full body orgasms her legs and body shake uncontrollably, now I don’t know if every woman witness this as my wife is the only one I’ve been with that has ever achieved squirting or she’s the one I mastered my technique on.
I’ve only managed to do it once, by myself, but havent been able to recreate it yet no matter what I do. I think for me I dont relax enough (side effects of being in survival mode for so long)
I’m pretty sure, You’ll be able to recreate it eventually. Once you get into the right head space. Keep trying. Enjoy your alone time if that what works for you.
Oh sweet I get you. I operate in “save the world” mode and my orgasms can be very fickle sometimes, especially with partners because my brain is like “if we’re both here, doing this… who’s running the ship?”. It’s frustrating, I know, but the right partner - combined with a little bit of self-compassion - really helps. Good luck to you, and welcome to the community
I’m in the camp that it can be taught/learned. Before my wife I had never made any of my partners squirt. Now I can make her with my fingers, toy annnnnd my dick . So yeah it’s something I do believe can be taught.
. So yeah it’s something I do believe can be taught.