Hi, just bought my wife one for Mother’s Day, as my moto is just because you’re a mum doesn’t mean you can’t have fun!!! Just wondering if there is any tips on using these and do you stimulate the clit first or do people just go straight to these!
My OH is abit shy and prefers me helping her out rather then her just using toys on herself as she lacks confidence when it comes to masturbation just want her to have the best experience so any tips would be appreciated.
Thanks
Lovely idea. How about a nice massage as a warm up then make sure you have some lube. A good seal is the key.
I’ll let someone with a bit more experience have a go, but from my take you want a little lube to stop it ripping at you. Also just use small pumps and then let it sit for a few minutes to relax before pumping it again.
Does your one vibrate as well or just pump it?
I use my toys with my partner but a new toy always gets used alone first. New toy performance anxiety is a thing for me. I’ve had a few that I’ve initially thought a complete dud but I’ve gone back to them a week later and they’ve worked their magic on me.
I’m another that recommends lube. Not too much but enough that there’s a seal when in contact with the skin. The sound will change when it forms a seal and her sounds will change when you hit the right spot.
Enjoy.
Getting the seal firm and finding the right spot are my recommendations too - have fun! 
Suction toys are super easy to use, but better for solo play than partnered sex. Basically you want to place it over the clit and keep it in place with minimal movement. Sometimes it takes a little jiggling to get it positioned just right but it shouldn’t be too tricky.
Warm up is not necessary since they are external toys and indeed the suction on low can be a warm up in itself. Lube is also not necessary (personally I prefer without) but many people do use lube with them and prefer them that way so it’s entirely up to the individual.
Best thing to do is try out a few different ways of using it and see what works best for her.
Use some lube and place the sucker over the clit and give it hell. If you have one with vibration as well make sure to engage that function and she will orgasam like she never has before. My wife’s first use caused her to squirt. We were genuinely both shocked and delighted 
Not too sure if it’s a vibrating one as well, it’s the orange ROMP one on offer at the min says 6 intensity levels guessing that could be suction levels tho, I really do hope she enjoys it hopefully likes it that much she uses it while I’m working nights and sends me a few pics and gives her the confidence to go try all the other toys we have on her own!
Some great tips thanks fingers crossed she’s in the mood 
It’s great that you encourage her to experiment on her own. Sometimes they just need a little push to feel confident enough to self explore and once comfortable enough her sex life and ability to share her desires will increase massively.
Nothing better than a confident horny woman
Oh yeah we both are open to things to push our boundaries a little and see where the ride takes us, just taking it steady at the moment baby steps and all that. Have to prove to her I’m willing to go out my comfort zone can’t expect her to try things if I’m not willling to either
Mrs Chimp loves her suction toys, though at first she found getting it into the right position a little tricky, but it definitely got easier with practice. 
You need to find the right spot, and make sure you get a good seal, which can take some people a few goes - so if it doesn’t seem to work at first, it’s worth trying again another time or two. What worked for Mrs Chimp in the end was sitting in front of a mirror and having a proper look at exactly what was going where. It was somewhat ‘comfort zone adjacent’ for her 
, but an anatomy refresher really helped her out. After that, placing it in the the perfect spot each time became so much easier.
Warming up first can help as well, as it can often give you a bigger target to aim for. And a little lube can help with forming a good seal.