Hi all - forgive me if this is an old well-trod road but I couldn't find an appropriate thread to revive
Anyhoo, as much as we are enjoying a new lease of (sex)life, Mr. JayGee and I found ourselves being thwarted by the fact that he has problems maintaining an erection. We appreciate that it's more than likely age related (he is 43, nearly 44) rather than any other factors (although he does get a bit stressed with him having started his own business and the pain he gets in his back and shoulder).
So, last night we were discussing getting a cock ring for him - just something simple and straightforward to try out to see if it helps. We went online here to the shop and were just blown away by the sheer variety. He's a bit nervous at trying anything too adventurous or scary looking and we feel that anything with extra bells and whistles might be too much. We have read the articles here but are still overwhelmed.
So we are looking for some advice and / or recommendations - what's a good, simple cock ring for him to start with? Thanks in advance and much love X
hey jaygee why not try the lovehoney basic sex toys cock rings first, they have 2 and cost only a few quid! infact the more u buy the more u save of them! my all time fave cock rings are the rabbit ones! (u all know how much i love a rabbit lol). will go have a look for some links for u and il be right back with them :D
I think I would be happy with a vibrating one but Mr. Jaygee less so. He's a bit funny - one minute he is quite adventurous, the next he gets all shy! I was looking for just a no-frills slip-on ring, but again there are so many. I thought maybe the adjustable ones, but he thinks they look like a garotte LOL. I will keep trying..
ive got any idea for u jaygee! get the first one i put a link up to, let him put it on and and get down and naughty and then onces his got over being shy press the button and get the vibes!!!!
also with the first one there easy to put on cos they strectch and it dont look to..... (cant think of the right word) scary for a 1st timer with one and also the basic sex toys are really well made and they feel lovely.
id be a bit scared to use a soild plastic or metal one with him, if his a bit shy and new to it all, u just want something simple and that dont cost the earth.
Ooh I love you all - thanks robin and bbn for your suggestions. I will let him have a look (don't want to order something, even a basics, then have him go all funny). And he has had a trim.
Good idea diamonds - sneak up on him - I like that heh heh!
It's very adjustable and very soft, but stays in position without problems. Although I can't speak from personal experience (being shaven) hairs might get pulled through the bead but I doubt it. I like to wear it around the base of the cock and balls and through the day as it feels like someone is gently grasping them.
Also, as a bloke a little older than your OH I found that a desk-based job didn't give me much chance to get out and exercise too often. Some years back we were given one of those Abs belts (for some forgotten reason) and I was surprised to find that using it even a couple of times a week lead to some tightening in the pelvic floor muscles.This had two knock-ons; first, I stopped having to get up in the early hours to have a pee after drinking lots of beer the night before and second, erections that feel 'stronger'! (I can't vouch that this stops them "going away" though)
Thanks Ash - we looked at that one but he is a bit worried that he might get caught in the beads! We're going to start giving some a try and will let you know how we get on.
Hiya JayGee, l would plump for a soft ring rather than metal. The metal ones might work for you in the head, however they can make man's best friend look a tad like the son of Frankenstein - all red and strangulated. This doesn't happen with the softer stretchy ones- which should maintain an impressive erection !!
Let me know how it goes.
PS The softer ones tend to cost less, always useful unless you happen to be Fred the Shred!!
Hiya JayGee, l would plump for a soft ring rather than metal. The metal ones might work for you in the head, however they can make man's best friend look a tad like the son of Frankenstein - all red and strangulated. This doesn't happen with the softer stretchy ones- which should maintain an impressive erection !!
Let me know how it goes.
PS The softer ones tend to cost less, always useful unless you happen to be Fred the Shred!!
diamonds - stilll no decision yet - Mr. JayGee is self-employed and is feeling the credit crunch so is a bit wary of any more purchases , however small. But I am working on him......and will keep you all posted.
Interesting topic since I was thinking about my boyfriend who has trouble maintaining an erection sometimes, it's a very sensitive subject and I'm not sure how to talk to him about it sometimes, it would help to know the cause of the problem, he's 33 so I'm not sure if it could be age related, he does smoke, drink and sometimes does drugs, so might have to do with that? He's up for most things but I'm slightly scared that he might get insulted if I ask him to use a cockring?