Sorry for the new topic as I couldn’t find one but to those who dabble in BDSM is applying a collar or having a collar applied a straight forward action or do you give it a symbolic meaning as you do it or have it done to you?
For me, I love being restrained with cuffs and or a blindfold but it doesn’t give me any deeper meaning but the collar, I love it when my partner takes her time applying it and attaching it to the leash, it really gets me into the headspace and makes me feel safe and secure. We are talking about getting an engraved pedant along the lines of ‘Property of Mistress Jane” (my wife’s name on here),
It isn’t possible due to having kids but I wish prior to having kids we had a collar day of the week whereby I am to be collared all day, even if that means a light touch BDSM day,
I gave one attached by a chain to an anal hook, one attached to a pair of nipple chains and one which attaches to a stainless steel ring around the base of my penis. She puts me in these for our BDSM impact sessions or when I’m servicing her with my tongue.
If we’re having a slave day or a naked male/clothed female day she puts me in a choke chain collar and lead and i kneel at her feet all day unless she needs me to do something for her.
I feel lighter with the collar on, its actually been a while since we’ve took it out. A collar, to me, is very symbolic of the submissive role and should be respected putting it on and taking it off. But thats my feelings on it, other people may see it as just another accessory.
Its all according. It can have as little or as much meaning as you want. Some have a piece of jewellery instead of a collar. I have a matching locking necklace and bracelet set that i have to wear 24/7. I only take them off with permission, and that only really happens when we go to an event or play as i have different collars for then. I have to wait for my collars to be taken off or put on by him. I am not allowed to do it myself. They mean something to us but for some they are just a piece of restraint equipment etc.
Everyone all has their own special things what means more to them than others I reckon. Maybe you could have a necklace with a tag on it that you can wear all the time?
My collar is a display of and link to my submission. When it is put on me i feel submissive and the weight of my collar is a constant reminder of those feelings.
Similar to being handcuffed ot restrained, its me relinquishing control over myself. Giving it to someone else
I don’t have a collar for everyday wear but I have a piece of symbolic jewllery that might be another idea for you? I wear a silver bracelet with a heart-shaped charm engraved with the initials MDS, my husband’s initials (oh so apt for a sadist! ). The jump ring on the closure is a ring charm I found (I made it myself) that looks like the O of an O collar. Maybe you could get some dogtags engraved for everyday wear instead? How about a morse code bracelet? I made one for my husband that reads “Daddy Wolfie”, his name from me. If anyone asks, we say it reads our wedding date.
There’s some ideas. obviously I don’t know you personally, but I’m happy to help inspire you if I can
A collar is a symbol as you say for you it puts you in a different frame of mind.
As you have kids and don’t have the luxury of time and space away, might I suggest you start if you don’t already wearing a shirt and tie.
The tie being the symbol of your ownership. It can be slightly weighted with a plate tag saying the property of Mistress Jane down into the large rhomboid flap. Mistress is the only one who puts it on and is the only one to release you. Unless you are away and you have to ask permission to change.
I don’t think I yearn to have a day to day reminder really….i know when the collar goes on it’s play time and I’m hers and it kicks me into that sub space which I adore.
Recently have a really thick heavy duty padded collar which I’m yet to wear with my OH.
I’m also dreaming of attaching a hook in our store cupboard and her attaching my leash to it and leaving me there in the evening whilst she relaxes after I’ve done the evening chores
My favourite part of being restrained for any purpose (impact play, pegging etc.) is where she goes away and leaves me restrained afterwards.
I get into a peculiar but very enjoyable head space when I’m alone and restrained.
Exactly the same here. She once left me fully restrained to the bed, blindfolded, clamped, collar ans leash attached to my cock and ball harness and gagged with headphones on for an hour or so. Afterwards she said she lost track of time and apologised but I absolutely loved it. I just float and float and float
NB: due to safety she always leaves one cuff a little loose so I could escape if I needed to.
I like a collar and a gag put on me very early in proceedings if we are having an extended bondage day / night. It gets me right into the submissive headspace, often a couple of hours before any actual ‘action’ starts.
). The jump ring on the closure is a ring charm I found (I made it myself) that looks like the O of an O collar. Maybe you could get some dogtags engraved for everyday wear instead? How about a morse code bracelet? I made one for my husband that reads “Daddy Wolfie”, his name from me. If anyone asks, we say it reads our wedding date.