As a relative newbie (God I hate that word). I would just like to say that this is a fantastic forum and I cannot speak more highly of it.
The thing about forums is that they are as only as good as the members and more importantly the moderators, as a moderator on another forum I can tell you that this is largely a thankless task, trawling through long and repetitive posts to make sure that everyone is following the rules can be a mind numbing experience -especially if you have a job to do/family to look after etc. It takes up an awful lot of your time with little reward.
The other point that has been quite rightly mentioned is the tone of posts, it is very hard to convey what you are saying in terms of tone, what to me seems like a light hearted comment can often be mis-construed as a dig at someone or something else, this is the same with texting, how many have sent a text which the believed to be inoffensive only to be hauled over the coals for it?
The internet can be a great and revealing place, we make virtual friends and we feel close to them, the problem is that the relationships normally stay that way, in other words as virtual and this can lead to things being said that would not be said in a normal day to day friendship. Its a funny old world the internet, happy and loving in places and dark and mysterious in others -there are bullies in all walks of life and internet bullying is a common theme amongst all of the social networking sites.
For me I have learnt long ago not to worry too much if someone digs you out and not to take it personally, you have a simple choice, either ignore the comments, apologise if you have upset someone, or simply ignore it all and go away (and before anyone jumps on me I am not asking or encouraging anyone to walk, its just an option that you have the right to do).
The impression I have of this forum as a cadet is that it is a loving and interesting place to be, and thats the way it should be, you can thank the moderators for making it that way or you can argue your place.
You have to trust the moderators and if they make a change to the rules then you have to accept that they are doing it for a reason and that its a very good reason, I did not see anything to personal in the wording of the change but as i said -there simply must have been a reason for it.
One of the other problems with this forum is that there is no PM facility, ninety nine times out of a hundred personal differences or misunderstandings are sorted out this way and it works very well. I would guess the reason there is no PM facility is the general nature of this forum and it may encourage the oddballs.
For me personally I would never report a post unless I thought it was so outrageous that it warranted attention, such as breaking the law etc. It seems a little like sneaking behind someone back and I dont quite get why people do it for nothing more then a difference of opinion.
This is a good forum and long may it last, peace love and plenty of cheer and happy sex to you all.
Mushy
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