My wife and I have been together for 10 years. Great relationship and sex lives but since having our daughter we’ve both put on a bit of weight. We have both started on Mounjaro however this means my wife’s oral contraception can’t be relied on to prevent pregnancy due to the time it will now spend in her stomach.
As such we are now going to be using condoms for sex. We’ve not had condom sex since one of the very first times we had sex and both admitted we prefer it without! Cumming inside and dirty talk around this has since become a big part of our usual couple time.
Any tips or thoughts? We’ve discussed more oral sex. I’m also worried as I’ve previously struggled to keep it hard in a condom as well.
I hadn’t heard of the male pill, will take a look.
We had been talking about the snip as we are very much one and done with kids! My wife said not to bother as she liked not getting periods when on the pill however this has bought it back up.
Umm if the female pill looses its effectiveness because of the injection and you are on the same injection would that not mean it would also loose its effectiveness on you? Just saying. The snip, a condom or the female version of the condom.
Has your wife considered a contraceptive cap? I used it initially when my daughter was first born. It can be put in place a few hours before sex so doesn’t have to spoil the moment.
I now have a coil which I’m not sure would be compatible with the weight loss jab?
We use condoms pretty much 80% of the time, it does numb things… but with enough dirty talk the act is the same. I think like most things, don’t make the “condom” the big thing … the fact you’re still wanting to have sex and have an active life is amazing, so keep the positives up. The snip and the pull out method are also possible, your partner can use an app to monitor her cycle and it will tell you when she’s fertile and not
Any time we’ve had to use condoms, we always go for the likes of Durex’s Real Feel. Just because you need to use them, doesn’t mean you need to miss out on sensation. Good luck
No reason she can’t stay on the pill after you’ve had the snip, it’s not that bad of a proceedure as long as you’re sure you’re both set on no more kids.
Vote for the snip here. If you are certain you are done then it’s the best thing we did. The procedure is pretty simple and fast, just the thought of it beforehand that is pretty harrowing!!
I’ve been snipped for 5 years and it’s the best thing ever. Well, wife getting off the pill 15 years ago and realizing how much it had killed her natural libido was the best thing ever. Getting snipped was the second best.
We waited 4 years to get pregnant after she came off hormonal BC and used a combination of cycle tracking, pulling out, and condoms. Skyn Elite was our go-to by the end for the most natural feeling, relative, with the least offensive smell/taste/feel.
During those years there was a lot more oral (cunnilingus) until she has the orgasms she wants then I can slide in, get close, and pull out when I cum without feeling like she’s missing out. SO many back shots…
well if Im in a relationship I hope that I wouldn’t have to use a condom because I think cumming inside someone you love and/or care about is the most beautiful thing ever… I have said before, Id even consider getting a vasectomy, if I was sure she was the one, so she could stop the nasty birth control meds and be more natural down there, as being on birth control makes women less horny apparently.
We went from her being on the pill to me using condoms. I tried pulling out to start with and wasn’t keen on it, I felt like the worry of not pulling out in time spoiled the moment so then started using condoms, then at least I could still cum inside her with the peace of mind. Admittedly it doesn’t feel as good as bareback but just made it the routine of having sex and made sure we always had plenty dotted around the house. At least with condoms you only have to use them when having sex and not relying on her having to take pills daily not knowing what else they are doing.. A game changer for me as well was trying a larger sized condom. I had always used just the regular size, thinking I am just fairly average. I tried the pasante king size thinking it may be too baggy, and wow it felt less restrictive and really easy to put on and fitted perfectly
I am on mounjaro but not for weight loss although for me it is a side effect. Mounjaro helps me with my diabetes and works with my tablets to reduce blood sugar. It also slows down digestion and makes you feel fuller for longer hence the weight loss. It must also effect absorption of medication such as the pill if food is being held in the stomach for longer than normal then it cannot be relied on.
I am on a really low dose and my diabetic team said i could be on it for years. Better to have one injection per week than insulin every day.
Try thinner varieties of condom maybe?
Guess they carry a risk not sure
Probably again risky but penetrating without until you get close could work
We used them years and it was kinda part of our foreplay to put it on me
As long as you are on something that affects birth control then you are at the mercy of male condoms or risking it.
Could always try female condoms to see if thats any different. I’ve not been with anyone that uses one so cant give any insight on that.
Alternatively the only solutions I can think of are the snip (for either person) or see if there is a birth control that isnt affected that your wife would change to
I hated condoms. I couldn’t stand the latex ones, because for some reason, they dried me out. So we tried non-latex ones, which didn’t have that drying affect, but they would come off sometimes! Bit alarming when you know you don’t want anymore kids. So I got a copper IUD and that was a game changer! Cream pies every time. Had it for years and no problems. I didn’t want the hormone type, because any kind of hormone treatment messes up my body and makes me gain weight. So copper was the answer. My husband is super fertile, so it’s definitely working well. Didn’t really hurt to put in either, surprisingly.
I got pregnant that way! It’s a bit of a gamble. There’s still some sperm in pre-cum. Copper IUD is the best. Then it can be removed easily if you want more children.
So I got a copper IUD and that was a game changer! Cream pies every time. Had it for years and no problems. 