Had a search and couldnt see anything answering this and not really sure what category it belongs in either.
I have a weekend away booked with my wife of almost 15 years. Im quite keen to experience whatever she is comfortable with and Im often trying to introduce new things into our sex life.
For the weekend ive booked into a male “strip” show. She doesnt know about it but I thought it would be fun and something totally different. Hopefully she will enjoy it and I will enjoy seeing her having fun.
Anyone else done this with a partner that isnt very adventurous? reckon its a good idea??
No I wouldn’t appreciate it. I would rather be asked as a male strip show doesn’t do anything for me and I’m no prude.
Been to a few on hen nights and walked out…
I love the male physique more everyday males though…and not paid professionals.
It could go one way or the other…I would rather have a gift to open as a surprise and have the choice of if I want some random cocks and bollocks on display or in my face.
Uuumm, you’ve already booked it so perhaps a little late to ask people’s views. Anyway, I’ve been to a few over the years and for me it’s more of a girls night out thing.
H and I go to a Burlesque night once or twice a year, and I’d much prefer tickets for that as a gift/surprise. But, I’m not your wife and hopefully you know she’d enjoy going with you to watch male strippers.
Only you know what your wife is comfortable with, so i guess you are a bit concerned she won’t like it if you’re asking us.
If i was in her shoes i wouldn’t like it.
When i was a teenager there was a fad of topless barmaids in a couple of local pubs, even as a horny teenager i wouldn’t go. Same with the craze for stripogram’s at the time. I warned everyone when i was 18 and 21 not to arrange one for me.
Been to a Burlesque Show about 20 years ago as a couple and it was more like a variety show, no nudity and enjoyable in a Rocky Horror Show kind of way. So maybe that would have been a better option?
Consent is always a number one in my book. You are introducing a third party and she has no idea. It’s not fun if you’re uncomfortable and you haven’t given your wife the space to voice her opinion.
Hmm sounds very risky and could backfire if she’s not used to things like that, might even make her feel more uncomfortable then anything especially with you there too…
It’s a sweet gesture, but it would have been much better to ask her first. It’s probably going to come as a shock to a few of my forum friends, but I personally find that kind of thing degrading for the stripper (the ones I’ve met were all lacking in confidence) and objectifying of people, generally - I’m a sapiosexual, so I’m not turned on by a random man bumping and grinding in front of me, and I actually find the whole thing very awkward.
I know a male stripper - a “Butlers in the Buff” type - and he’s just “meh”, even if he thinks he’s the greatest thing to roam the Earth. He’s always at the gym, always on this diet or that, he handles rejection terribly and hates the idea that a woman (me) wouldn’t be turned on by what he does. Sorry buddy, but we’re not all the same.
Before I got married, one of my bridesmaids wanted a stripper at my hen night so badly that she even got quite aggressive about it and threatened to book one herself. I was so determined that I didn’t want a stripper at my hen night that I even threatened to remove her as a bridesmaid and relocate my hen party without her, and she’d be left to enjoy her gyrating stranger all by herself. We’re not friends anymore (I don’t need a “friend” who constantly judges the way I live my life) buf she did come around pretty fast!
So what happened? Did you go ahead and go to the strip show or did you do something else instead.
Personally if my husband took me to a male strip club i would think why has he brought me here? Is it because he wants to watch other men take their clothes off i might start to think hes bi or something.
Samantha here. Ben took me to a strip club on our 1st date haha. Since then we have been to several adult shows and circuses including a male strip show. It was lots of fun even if ben did get a little jealous. (One sttipper had a very very big dick and i couldnt stop talking about it apparently. I was drunk).
Im more adventurous than ben is though. Im sure she will enjoy it. Maybe it will lead to some steamy sex when you get home
Anyway, I’ve been to a few over the years and for me it’s more of a girls night out thing.