What are the best tips you could give a larger plus size woman for being on top in cow girl position? What would make it the easiest for her? Also what would help to make her not to feel self conscious in that position?
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For comfort, more of a kneeling vs squatting is a good first recommendation - I didn’t know that was a problem for some people as wifey always defaulted to on her knees. And then we find that it’s really more of a grinding than a bouncing that’s most comfy.
Depending on everyone’s height/size, sometimes it’s okay to rest/support weight with hands on partners chest. Sitting more upright and reaching out to support on a headboard is also good for different angles or if the first is not comfortable (less feeling of belly rolls or belly on belly rubbing). Reverse cowgirl with hands supported on partner’s thighs is also an option and removes that belly-on-belly sensation.
For other self conscious issues, lights off or just some accent lighting always makes everyone feel a little sexier than bright overhead lights. Depending on your gal, could be that flowy slips/chemises feel sexy and like they cover self conscious spots. But could also be that a sexy corset that tucks everything in is more her style.
Above all, sharing how much you desire and enjoy her with support and appreciation but not pressure.
Hopefully these are okay suggestions - my wife isn’t plus size, but she is heavier than she’d like to be and is especially insecure about belly weight, so these are things I’ve noted as impacting our experiences.
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Love honey do a chair which might help? Its made to achieve and maintain difficult positions.
As a plus size woman and from personal experience a lot of my self conscious went away after I met my OH.
I was the same when we was doing the cowgirl/reverse. I hated my body and how I looked. I even often refused doing it.
But over time, he’s built my self confidence back which I didn’t think was possible. He doesn’t stop telling me daily how good I look. I do guess its different for each individual. One thing that did help me though was ambient lights. It sets the mood and made me feel much more comfortable.
I believe LH has a massive part to play in getting my confidence back because of the Lingerie. I wasn’t interested in anything prior to my OH.
Things do however take time. All the best 
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Do it gorgeous! I love the pov! Arch your back and feel every inch. Hot as fk 
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As the male OH of a disabled BBW, I am confident in saying find whatever is comfortable for her. My OH is in a constant battle with her dodgy knees, the reason for her disability. Well that and when she is on top things finish rather quickly, although often together.
My best advice is either one of the chairs or wedges or maybe even just a pillow under yourself. Whatever makes it comfortable.
My wife is plus size and I love her going cow girl. She finds its easier to squat then knee. I will lay right on the corner of the bed with my legs on the floor so she has her feet on the floor and will ride me like that both cow girl and backwards cow girl. I love the view of her amazing curves. Her plus size body is perfect as she rides me. I have always said how much I love that she is a larger girl so we have no issue with her not feeling confident.
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Crotchless bodystocking … drives me wild and is great for cowgirl. LH has excellent ones
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Make sure his hands are busy. Talk dirty. Have fun. He’s gonna love the way you feel. My OH has gone from vaginal to anal doing cowgirl and it’s amazing.
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Just go for it, I doubt that anybody has every complained about being ridden cowgirl.
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I lean my left hand on the headboard above his head for added support (can’t use right due to chronic pain), the added eye contact tends to send him over the edge a little faster too boot. Hubby doesn’t always let me on top because I start thinking I’m large and in charge 
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kneeling like others have said.
try mindfulness: focus on the feelings and sensations, on making the other person excited and happy and on feeling excited/happy. Focus on what you are feeling in the moment, be present.
very true if they did need there head looking at lol 
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I love to encourage my OH to be on top but she is a little self conscious but found that taking our time and getting it right worked well and the pleasant feelings soon made her more confident! It’s never our first position so she’s more relaxed when we do it which helps and it helps caressing her body while she is on top too so she gets the most out of it! I keep reassuring her she looks hot and remind her that she is the reason that thing she is riding is so hard in the first place and remains like that! It seems to be all about reassurance that it doesn’t hurt me at all!
A word of caution for the ladies who like cowgirl:
I tried to ride my husband at his request last week, things went wrong and I took all of my weight onto my left shoulder. I’m still in a sling 9 days later.
Be mindful of your enthusiasm
We seem to be having most of our sex in the living room. Because our bedroom wall is too thin with out kids sleeping in the room next door.
We can really let loose in the living room.
The footstool connected to the sofa is my favourite. Wife squats with her foot on the floor while I lay on the sofa to footstool
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