I just wanted to try and start a discussion on cross dressing/wearing clothes designed for a different gender.
I suppose I will start by saying that I enjoy cross dressing immensely, but it is most definitely my own thing. It’s not something I would share in public or in a public forum, lets say. My OH isn’t aware (if they are then they keep it quiet )
I enjoy wearing OH’s underwear and actually enjoy wearing their clothes too, including stuff that I would wear normally from my own wardrobe, such as jeans, tops, t-shirts etc I also enjoy wearing skirts, dresses, swimming costumes etc.
This, for me, is what I know as cross dressing.
However, I do see many comments and posts from people who wear and buy their own clothes for cross dressing. Which I don’t think isn’t necessarily my thing - although I haven’t tried.
I don’t think my “kink” of cross dressing would include buying my own clothes as that then doesn’t feel naughty to me. But again, I haven’t tried.
I guess I wanted to know a couple of things.
Sweeping statement, I know but does everyone of all genders cross dress? Most people I see commenting tend to be men wearing women’s clothing but does it happen the other way round? If so, what is it like for both parties?
On a side note, I would really enjoy my OH cross dressing in my clothes.
What is the reason you do it? Is it a secret/naughty thing or is it the feel of the clothes etc.
I don’t really want to feel alone anymore and would love to discuss in more detail if anyone feels like it.
For me it started as an extension of my feminisation as part of our role reversal.
That’s still a major part of it but the fact that my wife enjoy seeing me dressed in lingerie and stockings (she buys lingerie for me) is a very welcome bonus.
I think it is a bigger thing for men because it’s not the same unusual thing for women to be wearing men’s clothes. It’s not “taboo” in the same way. I don’t wear my OH’s underwear but I’ll definitely pop his hoodie on to keep warm. In my day to day, I also wear men’s clothes. I’ll wear women’s jeans but my go to in tops for work is men’s polo shirts because they fit me far better than women’s! I have small boobs but large shoulders and Popeye like biceps. Women’s tops that fit over my arms look like a tent over my torso and waist, a men’s cut (Armani Jeans, medium) is so much more flattering!
So yeh, I guess it is cross dressing but I wouldn’t think of it that way, it’s just practical, more flattering and comfortable. I’ve never known anyone raise an eyebrow over it.
I wear lingerie and absolutely love it for a whole variety of reasons, a lot of which have been covered before so I won’t go over old ground.
The interesting thing you’ve picked up on is that the term “cross dressing” always gets applied to males wearing what is considered female clothing, but not the other way round. A woman wearing her partner’s boxers, or a sloppy sweater or loose fitting shirt tied at the waist is seen as a bit cool, whereas a man wearing knickers is often either ridiculed or derided as weird.
I recently stumbled upon a thread on another forum, predominantly a mums/parenting one, where a woman had expressed concern that she’s discovered her (male) partner enjoyed wearing lingerie. The vitriolic nonsense being indirectly thrown at him via the replies was unbelievable, with virtually every response stating (as a fact, not an opinion) that he’s weird, he’s a pervert, and wearing lingerie was “just the beginning”. There was also a very strong belief that any man who wears anything remotely feminine will, ultimately, want to transition to being female. Another common theme was the idea that men wear lingerie and the like because they’re rampant misogynistic dinosaurs on the basis they’re drawn to the humiliation aspect of crossdressing and “to them, nothing is more humiliating than being a woman”. Then there was the “warning” that any man who wears lingerie will financially ruin a household by spending “thousands and thousands on clothing that he’ll only wear in front of the bedroom mirror or when he’s sad and alone”.
The whole tone was unbelievable.
Don’t be like them.
@WB1987 loads of guys on here who wear lingerie either with their wife or gf knowing or they are closet dressers
I’ve been dressing since my late teens I’m 60 yo now but stopped around 25 years after getting married and started again around 5 years ago
I openly buy my lingerie from local lingerie shops and that’s a turn on for me but the main kick I get is from the naughty feeling of putting on stockings and suspenders and a tiny little thong or g string and camming with other guys who enjoy it or also dress up too
Over many relationships and 50 years I started out wearing girlfriend’s panties , along with several wearing my string bikini underwear . We did that when going out dancing and general partying . We would both get quite worked up . During that time span , a number of my women loved wearing my dress shirts and nothing else around the house . I also really enjoyed them wearing one of my biker event tank tops without a bra and my chaps . That was pretty good when I tried to get my wife to dominate me and I was wearing lace stockings and a bra . I do believe I have more lingerie that she does . I do not go out in public cross dressing other than panties and one time with a bra under my shirt . It felt extra naughty . Enjoy , and be you in however that happens to be .
I guess you could say crossdressing goes both ways but it comes down to norms and the fact most men’s items have a women’s equivalent. But there are all sorts of women’s clothing items that are specialised for women, whether it be for physiological reasons or just style. So crossdressing largely relates to men in women’s clothing that falls outside a norm.
I do it because I enjoy the sensation, though my kink is very much focused on tights, stockings and to a lesser extent bodysuits. I don’t have a thing for outerwear such as skirts and dresses. I don’t do it to be naughty or particularly secretive (my wife knows about it). I just like the feel and the tactile prompts it gives me of my wife wearing the same things. I probably have my Year 6 teacher to thank for it because for our end-of-year class show, she had all the boys wear black tights and a white shirt. I liked the sensation and never looked back.
(PS: Mods, I hope this is an OK reference to pre-18 years as it involved nothing more than a costume for a show - nothing sexual - and goes to the point of the cross-dressing question asked. Many apologies if it’s not.)
@WB1987
I know that you said that you would not share your cross dressing in a public forum and that’s your choice but I would like to understand why you say that ?
I’ve been dressing on n off 40 years
Sharing my photos since I started dressing again about 4 years ago is as much a part of my fun as wearing.
It shouldn’t be something that you find embarrassing or intimidating
In fact I just shared a body length pic of myself in a full set of bra sexy little gstring and fishnet stockings and suspenders on the lingerie posts here
I suppose I’ve grown up, become and adult and felt the need to keep things like this a secret. That’s why I enjoy this forum, it helps me expand my knowledge and makes me feel a bit more normal.
I suppose embarrasment is one thing and that’s a reason I wouldn’t share anything with the outside world where possible.
I enjoy the secrecy in a way. Its a bit of a thrill to sneak in a put something on without anyone know. It gets the heart rate going. But again, that’s the only way it’s ever been so I wouldn’t know any different.
It’s great to see and hear everyone else’s stories though! Thanks everyone for chatting about it
@WB1987 ok that’s also interesting to hear
I’d agree the sneaky bit is fun
As I said I bought myself lingerie in shops since I was about 19
Those days I was literally scared witless someone was gonna ask was it for me
These days I openly ask the assistant for help finding my size n advice on styles n colours
But I’m still sneaking around at home hiding things from my wife
Now I recently asked to fool around in her panties which ended up with her giving her French knickers to me and I put them on and she wanked me off inside them I’m thinking maybe it’s time to get myself some new lingerie and tell her what I’ve bought and if she shows an interest then marvellous
But if she’s not interested then I can go my own way stash it in a drawer somewhere but no longer feel like I need to hide it from her
Agreed, I think the hiding of it is what turns me on.
I’m not sure I could go in to a shop and ask anyone. Maybe if I was on my own miles from anywhere then I might. But I would have to feel incredibly brave to do so. And never go there again! Lol.
I’m off to the gym tonight so the obvious thing to try and do would be to sneak some of OH underwear, pop it on and then get some excersize in…
I’m under no illusion that my OH and the ladies in the photos thread look far better in underwear than I would ever do but . For me yes I get turned on my the feel of underwear pvc / latex catsuits but it’s about the silhouettes that female underwear or spicier clothes give. When I get the chance I’m equally as happy slinking round the house or lolling on the sofa dressed without it turning sexual it can properly chill me out too
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