For a couple of years now, a fantasy has come into my mind and i have no idea why/where the idea came from originally (it just happened one day) and i cannot shake the idea out of my head when it comes to sharing my wife and watching her have sex with another man.....its drives me wild.
I have been with my partner for 15 years now and our sex life just seems to be getting better every time and when she gets the dildo out and i watch its simply amazing and i get such pleasure from watching her get pleasure and getting off from it, so i didnt know if this was quite normal and if so, how can i convince her to do this for me?
I have asked her on several occasions and tried to tell her how much i love watching her roll around in pleasure, but she's very loyal and not convinced because she's worried about contracting an STI or something similar.
I dont seem to be getting anywhere and at the end of the day it's her body, so with all due respect it's up to her and i can't/wont make her, so how can i convince her and try t talk her into the idea?
Am i being silly, will i end up regretting it or will i love it?
As i say i just love the idea of this happening.
Any advice help would be greatly appreciated and i'd love to take some opinions/views good or bad and discuss it
Honestly if she’s not into it that’s her choice and you should not be trying to persuade her I’m sorry I don’t thinks that’s fair and I’m the end of that was me I know it would damage the relationship if I felt pressurised
I find cuckholding a bit creepy to be honest and I may sound old fashioned, but don't you marry someone to commit to that person? Not share them. You said she's not convinved which is your answer to your question and I have to agree with New Enjoyment and 300, this is something you should NOT be trying to pursude when she's given a clear indication of a no to you and also a fantasy should stay as just that, a fantasy.
@EmmaC1989 - I’m sure you meant no offence to anyone but using terms like “creepy” is kink shaming. Complete monogamy is a valid choice but so is opening up a relationship whether it be full polyamory, having other sexual partners, cuckolding or something else.
@OP as others have said, it is ultimately your wife’s call as to whether or not she is ok with it. Of course there are ways to reduce the risk of things like STIs (regular screening, checking partners have been tested, using condoms etc). But if her issue is not wanting to have sex with other people then there is very little you can do to change that.
There could be some alternatives though. Would the talk of it during sex be enough for you? Could she use a dildo and tell you how it reminds her of her lover and describe what they did together? Obviously it wouldn’t have actually happened, just a fantasy she is sharing but making it sound real. Or would she consider sexting/online chat even camming with someone while you are present?
As for whether you would regret a cuckold, unfortunately you won’t know until you try. The closest you could probably get to knowing is to put a real face and personality on the person who could be having sex with your wife. I don’t mean fantasise about it being your boss or your brother or something but next time you are in a shop and you see another guy, think about how you would feel if it were him. Or something like that
I do not normally comment on this type of subject as it has absolutly no appeal to me what so ever.
However your post made me do so.
"but she's very loyal"
"I dont seem to be getting anywhere"
I have never had a go at anyone on this forum before, but you have crossed the line. I feel extremely sorry for your partner having you. You are with a lovely lady yet you come here to find advice, on how to find other men to have sex with her while you can watch? I am as a man repulsed by that.
Especially as she has already stated its not her thing.
I do not normally comment on this type of subject as it has absolutly no appeal to me what so ever.
However your post made me do so.
"but she's very loyal"
"I dont seem to be getting anywhere"
I have never had a go at anyone on this forum before, but you have crossed the line. I feel extremely sorry for your partner having you. You are with a lovely lady yet you come here to find advice, on how to find other men to have sex with her while you can watch? I am as a man repulsed by that.
Especially as she has already stated its not her thing.
This.
I normally hate these forums but like you I have to comment.
Take a look at the OP's post history, he raised near enough the exact same question three years ago. Which means he's been potentially badgering her about it for the same length of time. If he has, then she has my most sincerest of sympathies for suffering that sort of abuse.
(Read the thread, its two pages of people saying "No")
First off, you don't cuckold your wife. In that situation, you OP are the cuckold. Understand your own fantasy.
Your partner has said no, what part of that dont you get?
My body is my hubby's. Only in fantasy do I make love to hot men, tying me up and torturing my pu...y and my anal roughly and endlessly. I love my hubby.
Kelly, I’m not kink shaming, I’m telling him how it is! He’s asked this question multiple times even though his wife has clearly said no and she’s not keen and he’s obviously not letting it drop which is in inappropriate behaviour and a form of abuse since he’s trying to “persuade” her. Then he comes on here asking how WE can tell him to get his wife to engage in something she doesn’t want to do. I’m surprised mods are allowing cr*p like this. Look at this members post history before you accuse me of kink shaming. This is about consent, he’s asked, she said no, end of story.
@Everyone, I am closing this thread as it is getting close to breaking rule 1.
@EmmaC1989, unfortunately I am unable to moderate the forum when I leave work at the end of the day, I am also unable to read everything during my working day (which is why the report function is really useful to me). Thank you for your understanding.
@OP, remember that consent is key. If you wife has expressed she is uncomfortable it may be best to leave the conversation for now. People should never try to 'convince' someone to engage in sexual acts. I know you stated that you would never want to force her, and that is good, but if she is not excited by the idea it may be best to leave the ball in her court and let her know that if she does want to participate that she can bring it up with you.