I masturbate fairly frequently and can never really last more than a couple of minutes, I want to last longer and have tried some edging, kegels and cock rings and none have really helped, although I am going to continue the edging and kegels. Is there anything else I can do to make myself last longer?
Ok, if you want to last longer slow down & breathe. On the underside of your penis attaching your prepuce (head) to your penis shaft there is a stretch of skin that attaches the shaft to the head, this feels like a very smooth tight piece of skin when you have an erection and has a 'bunching' effect on your prepuce making it look a little like the top bumps of a loveheart. Stop masturbating, press here firmly with your entire thumb pad and relax your scrotum until your penis stops twitching then start to masturbate again. If you csme doing this stage, try again but stop masturbating earlier. Also be aware that dtopping at tipping point and starting again can make your climax even more intense.
If you can, slow your mind down, think about the sensation rather than the act, focus on feeling rather than looking & thinking so much during the act, I bet you last longer without foot play porn on right?
Generally, porn is designed to make you cum fast, its edited and fake a lot of the time and its refreshing when you see an actor cum several times with an actress because its closer to the truth.
Dont get me wrong, I appreciate porn myself but just be aware of the lies and hangups around staying power and lasting for 7 days....
IMHO learnining to recover and go again is a better skill to have as lasting longer also comes with age , sensations become less intense. This is great because males start on the process at early 20s, females at about 30-35 and means sex when your older is more fulfilling for both people involved. Using a masturbator can help, it removes sensation from your hand & you can use this for stamina training get a fleshlight flite NOT an actress fleshlight.
Ill be honest with you, lasting for hours generally means something is wrong, dont believe what you see on the internet. I can only last for over an hour if Im bored or exhausted and generally that leads to frustration and a chafed willy:/
With a partner, dont forget you can take a break for fiveplay, sixplay, sevenplay. As long as s/he comes too , youre doing well.
I agree with Mr Pheebs advice. I try to concentrate on slowing down my breathing and relaxing a bit. I also avoid stimulating the head of my penis too much, just giving it a bit of attention now and then. Try having a bit of a rest for a minute or two and focus your attention on something else until the urge to cum subsides. Easier said than done sometimes I know.
johnnyorange wrote:
I masturbate fairly frequently and can never really last more than a couple of minutes, I want to last longer and have tried some edging, kegels and cock rings and none have really helped, although I am going to continue the edging and kegels. Is there anything else I can do to make myself last longer?
It is normal to last only a few minutes despite the common perception. Porn makes it seem not, but the fact is, very few men, other than pornstars, can go continuously without coming, and pornstars dont last nearly as long as most movies make it look, they edit the films.
My partner and I spend most of our time doing other things, intercourse is hot and passionate but rarely lasts more than 5 minutes, often not that long. If we are really up for it, she will get me off once, then I have a play with her while I recover then I am able to last longer but this complicates things for her because long periods of intercourse can become uncomfortable due to overstimulation.
It is quite normal to last between 5 & 10 minutes Max during regular intercourse so I wouldn't worry too much about that. Don't forget were naturally programmed to reproduce in the most efficient manner and the human race wouldn't have done so well if it took us hours to ejaculate.
I would ditch the porn for a start, or at very least go for more homemade type stuff as you're less likely to get an unrealistic view. I was almost at the point of being addicted to porn myself and managed to get out the habit.
Try a masterbaiter like had been mentioned but stop just before you feel the urge, wait a minute or so and then go again, you'll slowly learn to get closer to climax and control it and stop. Don't use it with the sole intention of just reaching climax.
Another positive step is to spend a long long time doing other things. 80% of my sexy time with my partner is non penetrative sex. Lots of foreplay, oral and anal play etc. Get some good toys to use on her and get to the point of giving her multiple orgasms first before you even think of putting it in her. She'll be much less bothered then about how long you last.
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It's all about self control really. If you get hung up about cumming too quick you probably will. Sometimes I find I just want to cum quickly so I'm over in about ten minutes but if I really decide I want a long session I just put cumming completely out of my mind and I can last ages!
Something of a problem he's had occasionally when getting older, we discovered this recently and things are back to normal now:
https://www.lovehoney.co.uk/product.cfm?p=30900
Just a small spray on the end of his cock before foreplay and wow, does it work when it's penetration time! VERY highly recommended!
I've been using a penis pump for a while, not expecting great length improvement, but I have found I last much longer. No guarantees it will do the same for you, but regular training seemed to work for me. For £20, give it a go. Regular like 10 mins each morn and eve each day for maybe a month or two, and my OH complains I take longer to come. Not scientific, but side effect for me. I treat it like going to gym...takes time to get results.