Can someone help me out when wife’s on top I always cum fast but when I’m on top
And giving it to her i last longer any tips so I can last longer with out busting fast
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Well, it steals some of my enjoyment, but if I close my eyes and keep my hands to myself it slows things down a little bit. We also enjoy using a penis extender sleeve occasionally. That’s definitely a slow down but feels amazing still. I read somewhere once about squeezing your thumb inside of a fist can also delay ejaculation. I try occasionally, but haven’t collected any imperial data on it.
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@d.jojola13 - some good advice from @LRLRL above.
I enjoy using a 1" penis extender sleeve occasionally - that will definitely help slow things down for you, but feel really fun (and a bit extra fun for your wife!)
For lasting longer, try some breathing techniques to regulate your system and slowing yourself down.
I have occasionally pictured Margaret Thatcher in my head - if I really need to cool down! (induces instant softness!!!)
Also - tell your wife. Let her know you are getting close and if see if she wants to dial back for a minute. Edging always makes orgasms stronger both of us and makes sessions longer 
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I’m the other way round… Gravity holding it back 
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Whenever I’m close to finishing but want to extend things I tend to stop whatever I’m doing and give some oral or use some toys on her (basically anything that pleases her and doesn’t touch me), then go back to it.
Realistically though, if I’m close then the writing is on the wall.
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If my wife goes on top I’m done for. She knows exactly how to hit the spot so it’s normally over pretty quickly but then again she does love to see me squirm so sometimes takes her time which for me is super tough
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I am the same.
If she goes on to, the view and having both hands free to roam is sooooo good that I don’t last long at all.
I wish I could go longer in this position as it’s not much fun for her when I get so excited.
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Maybe try some delay cream to see if helps?
For us, she takes my penis out and lets me calm down. Almost like edging. I love seeing my soft penis fall out after I orgasm and my cum oozes out onto my penis and belly. To me that is HOT!
I’m usually pretty quick to cum, especially when she is on top but I’ve been on Sertraline (an SSRI) for a while and that makes a huge difference. I don’t even worry about cumming too soon at all now.
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No real difference in timing whoever is on top, to be fair the OH seldom wants to go on top unless she is incredibly horny and then just rides it for her own orgasmic pleasure.
I benefit from the view of her boobs bouncing from her enthusiasm.
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I don’t last as long with her on top. Too much visual - boobies - nipples to suck and I can see my penis in her. Sometimes we stop and let me calm down or she takes my penis out for a minute then we finish.
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There is definitely a point of no return but switching is a great idea and I often do this if I’m getting close. I also love tasting her when she’s really wet or creamy so this is a win/win while giving me a chance to calm down a little.
Other suggestions though are to encourage her to grind rather than bounce when she’s e on top. My partner will move her pelvis back and forth as if she were a guy thrusting. Her clit rubs against me and she still gets a lot of pleasure from this but it’s a smaller movement on my shaft which helps me last.
If you are a breast guy like @aljerram then maybe try reverse cowgirl.
Otherwise I guess just keep her on top positions until she’s already satisfied and really wants you to cum.
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I’m a boob, face, and ass guy… she has assets everywhere.
So face to face, ass to face, boob to face… either way I’m in trouble.
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Maybe I’m odd, don’t get me wrong I love her breasts and bum but it’s her facial expressions that put me over the edge. Her on top and watching her pleasure herself on me is my tipping point.
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I will have to think way back when we had sex , but my first thought is if we were extra lubed I could last longer . Myself like many others have a hard time not coming when watching boobs bounce and sway and the expression on her face , or reverse watching her ass . For me I could envision Hillary Clinton , except I might throw up . As per @our-adventure-bed 's idea .
I always used to imagine working a 12 hour shift in a steel mill, that soon put the brakes on! 
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