Cumming shame

I know it’s easier said than done but please don’t feel ashamed about cumming, it’s natural. Him complaining says far more about him than you, hold your head up high :heart_hands:

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My thoughts exactly. What stupid reaction.

@MrsSmith69 you should do it again, and hope to drown him in even more liquid to punish his nasty tongue.

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We more or less do the same with the sheet and protector, just throw it in the machine after, which is no big deal but sometimes I still cringe after a particularly ‘stimulating’ session :weary_cat:

We always pack our own bedding too if we’re staying away, lol.

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No need to feel ashamed at all, it’s all in good experimenting. this time it may not have worked right but don’t let it deter you from trying different things :slightly_smiling_face:

Should have jokingly said to him not to snuff it up the nose next time :joy:

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There is nothing to be ashamed of here at all! If you are on someones face they need to expect that cum at any point.

Means they have done a good job!

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I really encourage you to talk your husband about your feeling, none of us here can reassure you more than he can. I expect he loved it, he was just taken by surprise by it. That happens - I had an incident once with my husband when he accidentally popped out of my mouth during a slow and sensual blowjob and blasted a load almost directly into my eye. It burned like the depths of hell but I couldn’t stop grinning because to me it was a sign of a (blow)job well done. I’m sure he didn’t mean it disparagingly, and if he did, well, just tell he hardly tastes like candy himself.

Will he still perform oral on you in other positions? If your answer is yes, then this is probably nothing more than a simple misunderstanding. Good luck to you! :slight_smile:

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A similar thing happened here. We have been together over 20 years and my o/h has only squirted noticeably on just two occasions, both within a week. This was about four years ago now.

Both times involved lots of stimulation over an hour or so and the first time was akin to a mild male ejaculation and we both loved the surprise and achievement of it.

The second time was for me even more of a visual spectacle and actually the most immense orgasm she ever had, but she felt it a bit embarrassing and hasn’t wanted to try again as there was so much fluid.

Without speaking in a pornographic way, my head and face were covered in the stuff from maybe six or more very forceful gushes (I keep going with my fingers once it started) which then ran onto my chest. When she could actually breathe again and saw me, whilst she was amazed and excited, that then turned to immediate guilt and tears.

When she gets close now, I am told to slow or stop, it is such a shame but I respect her boundaries.

So far we had no sex since. I tried initiating but got the response of being too tired.

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That might be something, it might not be. My husband had a lower sex drive compared to me too, so sometimes he can be too tired and I’m climbing up the walls. It’s not that he’s rejecting me, it’s that he’s genuinely too tired. Only good communication will help you there.

@Simon_101 you’ve reminded me of my younger self. I lost my virginity a few months after my eighteenth birthday, but for years I would fake my orgasms - happily give them, never ever accept them. I think in part I kink-shamed myself - I wanted to be forced to orgasm and I felt a lot of shame that “normal” sex just didn’t cut it for me. I think also I got too sensitive, or only one thing worked for me but it didn’t work if I knew someone was watching me try and orgasm, and it frustrated me that all it took for my brain to lose all interest in sex was a pair of eyes on me. I’d rather masturbate than have to explain how to make me cum, it just felt easier for everyone. A part of me didn’t care that it upset my partners that I would rather masturbate then let them too; that was their problem, not mine. Except it wasn’t, not entirely.

I can remember the first time my husband made me orgasm as though it were yesterday. He did basically force me to orgasm (he went down on me, I told him to stop, he shook his head “no” and… well.. the rest is history) and I do remember having a similar reaction to your wife which, now I look back on it, was rather dramatic and probably very confusing for him - I curled up, cried and said I never wanted to cum again! :joy:

I think there’s a lot of pressure on women in what we should be - modest, respectful, loving and kind - that when we let go and enjoy sex with our partners, we’re shedding ourselves of that identity and making ourselves very vulberable to ridicule and rejection, and perhaps, like in your wife’s case, making a mess of our partner’s in the process, which feels like a “bad” thing to do. When I think back I can remember not wanting to cum because I didn’t want to cum on my husband’s face, because, at least in my mind, it was a “disrespectful” and “unladylike” thing to do (I know! :joy:)

Fortunately I don’t have that hang up anymore, but I can only orgasm from oral. Even if I enjoy being played with, I still can’t orgasm if I know he’s watching me :slight_smile:

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It sounds like you really need to have a relaxed chat about how you both felt after what was for you as a couple, a new experience.

I could speculate that he may be feeling guilty about his reaction, or his tiredness is just an excuse, or you’re perhaps being over sensitive as you feel uncomfortable about his behaviour. But, I’m just guessing. For you to be able to move on and get back to having great sex you need to have a conversation, however daunting it seems.

Sex is meant to be fun, and it helps to laugh off things not quite going to plan. He needs to understand that too, along with how his reaction hurt you. x​:crossed_fingers:

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Are blindfolds for either or both of you an option then.

No comment :squinting_face_with_tongue:

Master wouldn’t wear a blindfold, how is he going to know what he’s doing if he can’t see? I sleep in a sleep mask, but there’s a key word there - sleep.

Could I introduce the forum to the sense that is touch and the reason I said blindfold and not sleep mask. :wink:

Thankyou for exercising my eyeballs Sir, they hadn’t been exercised yet today :roll_eyes::squinting_face_with_tongue:

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If you are on edge about feeling comfey. You could wilt and hide, wait till next time or pimp it up and tell him how sexy it was and how you loved the thought of him tasing and smelling you. If he laughs it off or acts insensitive just make a joke of it or tell him it’s never happening again.

My OH seems to have rewired me, by trying something out I didn’t like, then telling me how sexy and intimate it makes her feel, even though I wasn’t sure about it. Now I can’t wait for this treat. Like gradient exposure hahah.

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I agree with some others in that you shouldn’t be ashamed about it. Talking about it will help and it’s only fair if he’s honest about it moving forward.

Wtf really, strange people, my new missus squirts loads I can’t get enough off it , you shouldn’t feel bad about what makes you feel good ,

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That’s a shame. I love it when my partner does that. She makes quite a mess. Maybe he will get to like it?