Any one been able to successfully turn around a sexless marriage? After 2nd child my wife has absolutely zero interest in any physical touch let alone sex.
Try affection kissing and don’t just go for the vagina - she may not want penetration- ask her if she wants to choose some lingerie or a new sex toy so she can re explore her body
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Thanks for reply. Good advice
How long has it been since the second child.
Medication or pill is the one to check into. As I have posted before, we went through a bad period due to the mini combo pill. Could not even yet my wife to orgasm as she had so little interest. World of difference a few weeks after she got off it.
It is hard with kids. A night away without kids is what you should aim for, gives her time to relax. If you get lucky that night you could work on setting up a date night.
My 2nd is 1yo now and yeah things in the bedroom have been very difficult with (I’m sorry to say) little sign of anything changing.
I’ve been listening to a few podcasts and trying to stay positive and get advice from lots of different sources.
There can be so many reasons for things to change post-partum and sex can become a lower priority for you, her or both of you but it’s worth having a conversation to discuss where you are both at, really listen deeply and to try to understand how she is feeling.
Maybe just a bit of reassurance that things might be hard at the moment but that you can agree not to accept this as the ‘new normal’…
Same here my 2nd is 3.5years old I still have sex but she said for her it’s enough once a month and I try to do everything to make it more often but she said she doesn’t feel pleasure or need for that. I’m a man who loves to please her I could do everything to make her feel good but she doesn’t feel that lol I haven’t found any solution and I don’t know what to do I can’t just masturbate everyday having beautiful wife beside me. I’m really frustrated and don’t know what to do
Talk , talk , talk and when that gets boring , talk a bit more , conversation is the only way to resolve this im afraid
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Not a marriage but a long term relationship, talking and just not expecting things to happen overnight, basically reinventing ourselves date nights etc..
You got to find a way to get that spark back, so be prepared for a long but worthwhile wait.
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As others have asked, the biggest thing is how long has it been? It can take some women several years to recover from childbirth. It doesn’t meant anything is wrong with them or your relationship, they just need time.
Recovering your sex life after having kids really isn’t one size fits all. I’d say it took the best part of 1.5 years after having our first for intimacy to start properly again, and then we got pregnant again and it’s been a really rough pregnancy, so that’s dropped off again but it’s just a fact of life.
Have you talked about it, what your needs are and what she feels the blockers to intimacy are?
We only have one child that’s 4 now and sex has only just returned regularly, my OH has discovered she likes being forced and pined down but that’s something she’s only just discovered and it’s revived everything. Might be woth asking to try new things as it might help
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Sadly it all depends on if she is willing/wanting to improve this situation also
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