Absolutely Boogaloo. My wife wouldn't do nor would I do what she didn't enjoy. Given that I submit myself to being pegged by her it's questionable who is dominating and submitting.
Hen Night Toad wrote:
Think its unfortunate so many women seem to feel the need to do this type of stuff when it makes them uncomfortable,just to keep a man happy
I enjoy it a lot, I just can't last more than a couple of minutes due to the strain mt jaw is going through, that's all.
Hen Night Toad wrote:
Think its unfortunate so many women seem to feel the need to do this type of stuff when it makes them uncomfortable,just to keep a man happy
You're generalising a little bit. I've already said that my OH says its not uncomfortable and Boogaloo agreed. If she enjoys it, gets off on it and wants to do it, whats the problem?
If there ARE women who are doing it when they hate it, then they need to stop, talk to their OH and tell them how they feel. I highly doubt men are forcing their wives to do it against their will or anything.
I'm sure most women confident and strong enough to say no to doing something if they don't like it, I know my OH would be. I agree that if there ARE some women who do it when they hate it, they need to sort it out. But think you're being a little unfair saying "so many" when only 3 or 4 have said they do it in this forum and none have said they do it but hate it.
My OH loves the idea of it, and each time I get a bit closer to taking all of him and I can see and hear the results.
He says the feeling is great, I think he likes the image and the idea of it alot as well. It doesn't have to be rough and nasty, there are a few people out there who can comfortably swallow crazy lengths.
Chill out Hen Night Toad. There are scenarios where people do what they don't like to please others and that is terrible, it is unfair to assume that if you don't like then others do it under duress.
I can deepthroat and enjoy doing it, its not about me doing it just to please the man, far from it. I do it because it pleases me more.
Its also not about submission; deepthroat, like any sex act can be shown in yes submission but also dominance and mutual. Its just the mind set you carry whilst playing that makes it fall under either those areas.
I don't, it seems have a strong reflex as i can manage quite easily but its one of those things that, for me helps if i am fully relaxed and aroused. I dont like 'forced' deepthroat though but there are some women and men in the kink scene that do, who get really off on giving it that way and all the best to them i say as long as its consensual.
Also in porn, yes it does look brutal, i cringe too when i see it but most the time the gagging is done for the effect and the actors/actresses purposely gag more for that. Submission/degradation is a big market in porn (whether its a female or male sub) and it tends to make not only deep throat but anal sex and even vaginal sex look painful and rough.
Now i feel myself rambling on a bit lol but just because some porn makes it look a certain way, doesn't mean its like that.
Boogaloo wrote:
Why is it unfortunate if we enjoy it?
If it made me that uncomfortable then I wouldn't do it, but I actually enjoy it so I don't think it's unfortunate at all and nobody forces me in to it.
+1
PetiteJess said it well... It doesn't have to be submissive at all.
I love to deep throat my husband in both mind sets. It's a turn on to be the one in control and it's also a turn on to be dominated. I find it super hot to lay on the bed with my head hanging off the side while my husband stands and fucks my mouth. He's big but the angle is perfect for deep throating this way, and god it's such a turn on. I wouldn't do it if I didn't like it. (Love it!)
Equally I love to give him a BJ in a variety of ways. Just depends on the day and mood. My only problem is TMJ and my jaw not having the endurance it used to :D
Well said +1 gets me off so why notBoogaloo wrote:
Why is it unfortunate if we enjoy it?
If it made me that uncomfortable then I wouldn't do it, but I actually enjoy it so I don't think it's unfortunate at all and nobody forces me in to it.
It makes me feel powerful and in control. I wouldn't do anything I didn't feel comfortable with and wouldn't expect my OH to either but I enjoy doing it and he certainly enjoys receiving it !
Lovehoney - Dani wrote:
Hen Night Toad wrote:
Think its unfortunate so many women seem to feel the need to do this type of stuff when it makes them uncomfortable,just to keep a man happy
I don't think it's necessarily the face-f***ing teary-eyed gagging stuff that some of the more fierce (and objectifying) pornography would have people believe. I can't deepthroat to save my life, so I don't do it, but I'd like to be able to because I'm interested in the sensation and I think it'd be a turn on.
I don't think that's unfortunate, and it has nothing to do with keeping men happy because I've never been asked to or, god forbid, forced to.
I can't do it either. But I can take more of him than I could a year ago. I have been teaching myself to relax my gag reflex. My OH is happy to let me practice and play, without trying to force anything. When I do gag (and I do a lot), I simply stop and relax and try again when I am ready. My OH is happy to play with my hair but he knows not to apply pressure to my head, unless, I signal him that it is okay to do so.
Sex is negotiated, if this is something you want to learn to do then you need to communicate that and talk to your partner about going slow and easing into it.
If you do not want to do it then just say so. If he kicks up a fuss, show him the door.
I like deepthroating. I like the way it feels and I like being able to give pleasure to my partner. It is as much for me as it is for my partner. It has a very good effect on me...
Until recently I was mistakenly under the assumption that everyone deepthroats. It is easy for me so I've been doing it since I first started being sexually active without realising it was something not everyone can/wants to do. I also don't watch porn so only recently discovered it's a "porn thing".
I also enjoy forceful face-f**king and gagging but for me that comes under D/s and emotional masochism and my enjoyment comes from a different place than normal deepthroat.
We all have different likes and dislikes. I'll take rough face-f**king over gentle sex any day!
Boogaloo wrote:
Why is it unfortunate if we enjoy it?
If it made me that uncomfortable then I wouldn't do it, but I actually enjoy it so I don't think it's unfortunate at all and nobody forces me in to it.
This!
I totally love taking all of my OH in my mouth. He is very blessed in length and width (or should I say I am blessed with his length and width ) and he never forces me to do it. His reaction when I do is amazing, his mind is quite literally blown. One of my favourite things to do is go down on him, giving him a few teasers of taking it all, then as he's about to cum I go right down and let him explode right down the back of my throat. It can be a bit uncomfortable but it's so worth it for his reaction and his gratitude. Gets me pretty excited too.
I can deepthroat it does make me gag but I take a breathe and go for it again, but I dont like face fucking if I'm giving a blow job I want to be in control. I don't allow facefucking and deepthroat at the same time i would vomit. A short burst of thrusts with a cock in my mouth is as much as I can cope with. I generally stop and wait til he's thrust enough before I contribute again, it can get a bit much otherwise. Apart from that I get off giving blow jobs I love giving them.