I have some questions about delayed ejaculation which I need help with.
I am a female who has been in a relationship with my partner (who is male) for almost 2 years now.
He has delayed ejaculation, which for him, means he cannot finish via any other method than self-masturbation. I believe it is partially psychological, but he has has obviously been using the exact same method (tight grip/ particular speed/ lying down in same position) for a long time, making it the only way he can orgasm. He has said the issue has been going on for over 10 years now, as far as he's aware, and has also been an issue with other partners in the past.
It is very frustrating for both of us, which makes it worse. We have had many conversations about it, and plans to try to help it (no hands/ vibrators) but nothing has worked so far. I know it's not because he doesn't want to finish inside me, because he has previously cum inside me after masturbating, he also tells me he really wants to be able to finish inside me. As far as I am aware, he is not embarassed or shy around me during sex, we are very open with each other, therefore it can't be because he is scared, as such.
I am just hoping anyone can give me some advice/ help/ recommendations for anything that may lessen the issue.
Our main goal is for him to be able to cum during (vaginal) sex.
I am open to any suggestions, long-term, short-term, sex toys, products, etc.
p.s. Please ignore my username, my partner thought it would be funny to create a ridiculous name for me :/