I know a lot of us like bdsm but when talking with my wife she always wants to be full ie me and lots toys as she dose not what anyone else in bed with us but so as it come to putting porn on she straight to a lady getting use by lots of men super bdsm style is anyone else subs like that
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I think everyone, whether they are into BDSM or not have fantasies that they wouldn’t necessarily want to act out. Other than the very cliche vampire fantasy, I suppose I’m lucky that impact and restraints amongst a few other things are my fantasy which I get to incorporate into our lifestyle.
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I don’t want anyone else involved in my relationship (me and husband) but to watch I prefer 3+ people, just the 2 is boring 
but in reality I would be horrified having anyone but husband and toys
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This is what i mean if i ask any male friends its always same reply me and two girls which is not for me i would be more than happy if when we go out for a meal just us she would have a plug in and no nickers on so easy play time anywhere
I’m the same, the only person that’s being in my bed is hubby, he says the same too, he’s the only one that touches me apart from toys 
and I’m the only one that gets to play with him, no way I’m sharing 
my fantasies have only ever involved him, and pretty much most of them have come a reality, we’ve done that plenty of times, butt plug or love egg, I like him to have the remote control and take charge of it
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Its important to remember the difference between porn and reality. My wife goes straight to a FFM threesome porn but she couldn’t stand the idea of sharing me.
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I’m not sure exactly what you mean so I am sorry if I say sometime totally off topic
Basically it could be a fantasy she doesn’t want to act out but she enjoys the idea of it. There’s nothing wrong with that. Personally, I’m a sub/switch depending on who I’m dating at the time but I’m mostly a sub with a lot of people and I would only want that person at all times. I’m one of those subs that wishes to have a dominant like Christian grey from fifty shades of grey and I want to put all my decisions and stuff into that person, obviously with boundaries, safe words etc.
If you feel uncomfortable with what she is doing, talk to her about it and let her know your thoughts on the kind of porn she likes to watch. She might not realize you don’t like her watching that kind of porn.
Again, sorry if I got the wrong idea 
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I fantasise about having multiple men in me at once, but we aren’t wanting to involve any other guys at the moment. Hubby bought a double penetrator which attaches to his cock and that gives me the sensation which I can then imagine with!
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We got this one i she wish it was a bit more girth to it
Yeah we thought the same with it, but it’s a lot easier than holding and thrusting a toy while he’s in me! Perhaps something for the Pander to me thread? 
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It would be interesting to talk to her and see if the reason she doesn’t want that is the fact that it’s lots of men, or that one of them is her partner.
If she were not emotionally attached to any of the men involved would that change things?
We have she jas always been a one man lady and always will be