Seems I'm not to great in chosing a dildo for my wife . First one was far too big for her, now this one is OK but she feels that it's too hard inside her and feels uncomfortable in a way she can't explain. She is good with using one ( we've discussed many times and is happy to experiment ) and whilst I'd love to get her to choose one with me she's a very busy lady and when we do look together she gets too giggly or hot under the collar to choose one!
Is she using enough (if any) lubricant? This could help a lot!
If she is and the firmness is still an issue, I'd look for a glossier silicone that reads flexible in the specs. Something like the Tantus Silk Large might be an option?
Perhaps something like this one could be good. It has very high reviews, and I think I have heard it mentioned that it feels really nice to the touch, and not too hard (so to speak - lol).
Thanks for the suggestions so far. She gets pretty wet naturally and never seems that keen on using lube ( we have the Lovehoney stuff ). She is fearful it will cause some sort of reaction to her skin ( she is pretty sensitive in that way ).
More suggestions much appreciated if anyone can add? Similar size would be good. Many dildos seem focused on massive sizes but she is only small in height and build.
Perhaps something like this one could be good. It has very high reviews, and I think I have heard it mentioned that it feels really nice to the touch, and not too hard (so to speak - lol).
Lubricant really is essential when using toys to maximise comfort. So if she's not using it, that might be the cause of the problem.
I have sensitive skin too and I have had no problem with the Lovehoney Enjoy Lube, but I would highly recommend Sliquid or Yes Water-Based as they're two of the most natural lubricants on the market :)
Lubricant really is essential when using toys to maximise comfort. So if she's not using it, that might be the cause of the problem.
I have sensitive skin too and I have had no problem with the Lovehoney Enjoy Lube, but I would highly recommend Sliquid or Yes Water-Based as they're two of the most natural lubricants on the market :)
We've used it before and didn't seem to react with her skin. Whenever I've mentionned using some ( unless it was when we had the bigger toy ) she doesn't want to use. I've even suggested it might make things easier/comfortable but she says it's not that she is more than wet enough but it feels too firm.
Maybe I could try and persuade her next time if uncomfortable..
How about this one? I've only tried the one without the suction cup, but that one is incredible. It's quite flexible as well, so that might fix the problem? But lube is essential! ;)
If she's really worried about having a reaction because of lube, I reccomend the sliquid brand. Their lubes are glycerin and paraben free, ph balancing, and hypoallergenic. And they all contain very simple ingredients.
How about this one? I've only tried the one without the suction cup, but that one is incredible. It's quite flexible as well, so that might fix the problem? But lube is essential! ;)
This one is suction cup, silicone, dual density, so it's soft on the outside with a firmer core. and at only 4.5 inch circumference it's the same as an average penis. It is £80 though. And lube is a must for silicone it does drag on the skin otherwise. The only dildo that is super slipery is glass but thats rock hard, but still a favorite of mine.
Looks awesome but I'm already in bother for spending too much on toys for her. Perhaps if she gets into using one more she might go for it later. Cheers!
Vixen Mustang dildos are much "softer" to touch than these Lovehoney dildos. In my opinion (I have a Mustand an an 8 inch version of Lovehoney's own silicone dildo, formerly sold as a "Colours" range toy), each of these toys delivers very different sensations.
You can try getting something in jelly rubber to start with, and then moving to something a little firmer as she gets more comfortable. Alternatively, lovehoney do some inflatable latex dildos that may be worth looking at...