I’m not a talker during sex and frankly have no idea what “dirty talk” might consist of. Nor have I ever had a woman talk dirty to me. But I see a fair number of women like to hear dirty talk. No clue whether my partner would like this but first it would be nice to hear some examples. TIA.
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@oresteb17 my hubby says to me
You better make me cum or I’ll spank your ass (I like being spanked)
Or I’m giving you 3 minutes to finish me off or I’ll spank your ass
Sometimes I’ll text him a pic for a piece of lingerie I’m ordering and he’ll say that’s alot of stuff to rip off of you.
Sometimes I take a screenshot off kindle for a sex positions book im reading and tell him i want to try this and he responds in various ways 
Basically I would start easy and go from there to have an idea of what you both want.
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Agree with @Ellewoods2906, its not a one size fits all topic.
My favourite thing that my sexual partner has said to me was ‘I love you, but now I’m going to hurt you’.
General rule though is vocalise your feelings but be mindful of your partners feelings in receiving it and be respectful to their boundaries of ‘dirty talk’.
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BITE ME, i say sometimes you can imagine what im asking her to bite
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Going a little off OP topic for one second as spent ages pondering this before and seeing these bought it to mind…
See, I have always wondered how that works as a demand, from both perspectives @Stuck_nomore .
I could understand it more if it was an impossible task so he gets to spank you.
But in this case, it sounds counterproductive, as you’re being encouraged to do something to avoid something you enjoy? I get that spanking is inferred as punishment (me and OH think of it the same BTW, we both enjoy her having a spanking)
‘If you don’t make me cum, your ass wont get spanked’? Isn’t that more encouraging to make him cum? Granted, it doesn’t sound right, but it is more punishing to not get what you enjoy?
And don’t get me wrong, I give my OH same sort of ultimatums, and after query the logic behind it.
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@Mr_Kink1 I do see this as a demand, yes, but i think we’re just exploring what this looks like for us. We had such a dry spell for a few years and I really started to take charge of our sex life and I’m pushing him a little to engage with me so that we discover what we want. We’ve never don’t this before and we’ve been married for 30 years!! We’ll make adjustments as time goes on in sure. He’s just been so stressed at work that I know he needs an outlet and im glad to try new to us things
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I see your ‘demands’ as a bit of a challenge statement, either way you both win 
And I’m completely intrigued by this 
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We have tried dirty talk but I’m not great at it and my wife finds it a bit silly - but I do like reading and hearing dirty talk - just feels a bit false when we do it together.
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We tend to talk about our fantasies, mostly after foreplay. My wife really likes it, I enjoy it occasionally too.
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So I was/am in exactly same boat, when i first met my wife she was about as vanilla as unflavored ice cream but after I introduced to her to everything shes now started to really narrow down on what she enjoys and what kinks she has.
No.1 shes found is a “praise kink” this is basically dirty talk structured around praising her for doing something, usually “Cum for me!” she cums “Good girl”
However degrading dirty talk isnt really a turn on for her. So completely depends on the persons.
I was like you and very silent in the bedroom usually but started to get more into it after seeing how effective it is for her. Just seach dirty talk on well known porn sites to get ideas then try and narrow down what she likes/dislikes.
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@Fire_Ice1 this is how it felt for us. I used to feel ridiculous when my hubby asked me to make noise and it feels soo fake. I still don’t moan with an orgasm. For us it just was a spur of the moment thing very recently and we’re just playing around with it 
I might be confusing just talking but not necessarily “dirty talk”.
For instance my GF almost always when she first goes down on me says “god I love your cock”. Not a bad thing to hear all the time.
We use a signal tap for some things, usually meaning enough, enough.
I recently found out (amazingly after 11 years) that she likes her clit sucked when she’s about to climax. (Think we don’t communicate enough). Besides letting me know exactly when, I would love to hear her tell me to.
I guess I’m a little bashful. She’s always asking what she could do better/different. I need to get better at telling her during the act - like when is a good time to go for that little spot on a penis just under the head.
A lot has become unspoken signals. If it’s a good time wanting her to play with my butt I’ll put the lube there. But maybe she’d like it if I told her. We also have the saying “the stars aren’t aligned” when it isn’t a good time for me.
She lets me know she’d like to start with my hand on her vagina by already being lubed up when I hop into I hop into bed. She’s on her side giving me head so if she reaches around and pulls her pj bottoms down I know she wants my finger in her. So even though we have these unspoken indications it might add to the spice by asking. That said we do have words we don’t like - cunt being foremost. Although we don’t like clinical terms. Like penis instead of cock, her preference, or vagina instead of pussy. (I know, a number of ladies here don’t like pussy)
Little astray, but I just ordered a Trump butt plug and we already know that will be verbal - “up my ass Trump”.
So, I can see some ideas, will just take careful treading and probably some trial and error.
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If you do try telling your GF ‘during the act’ try and do it tactfully…words are powerful 
So try something like ‘I love when you X, would you do that for me’. Compliment and request in one sentence and then tell her how good it feels as she’s doing it
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Nothing wrong with demands in this situation at all, I was just thinking out loud that around the logic of the phrases in particular - we use the same.
I may have worded my reply badly, apols if sounded critical as certainly wasn’t intended.
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