I think I'm just a fickle person. One man can say anything to me and have me wet and willing in no time. Another man can say the same thing and I'm euwwwww get away from me <---but I think I know that's when the relationship has run it's course.
Agreed! Im speaking from being within a relationship - I didnt think about it from the perspective of being with someone else! Sorry.
Mind you I do sleep with other people but they would be female :) I've gone off other men than my OH. So in our bedroom in the privacy and intimacy of our rel he can say all this and I know he loves and respects me really, it would be different if I didnt know someone as well or I wasn't sure what they were like/wanted/expected/demanded/ etc in bed.
Personally it depends on the circumstances, in rough moods then hell yeah, the dirtier and nastier the better, but not all the time, then moans and groans will suffice
I think I'm just a fickle person. One man can say anything to me and have me wet and willing in no time. Another man can say the same thing and I'm euwwwww get away from me <---but I think I know that's when the relationship has run it's course.
Agreed! Im speaking from being within a relationship - I didnt think about it from the perspective of being with someone else! Sorry.
Mind you I do sleep with other people but they would be female :) I've gone off other men than my OH. So in our bedroom in the privacy and intimacy of our rel he can say all this and I know he loves and respects me really, it would be different if I didnt know someone as well or I wasn't sure what they were like/wanted/expected/demanded/ etc in bed.
Not for me I'm afraid - I find it quite a turn off.
I like the soft moans, gasps and not so soft moans. That seems natural to me, but talking dirty seems too contrived, too artificial.
I think this is down to personality really. I'm quite a quiet chap and just the idea of talking dirty or having my OH talk dirty to me just makes me cringe with embarrassment!
And I was taught not to speak with my mouth full ...
It depends on the girl what tone you go for. If your lady hasn't heard you to be very vocal in the past keep the focus on her and make it complimentary. Tell her how beautiful she is, how hot she's getting you and let her know when what she is doing is working for you.
Listen to the words she uses for certain things and respond accordingly. It's all about semantics and nothing clangs like an ill-judged pet name for her lady parts.
Time the intensity of your words with how the intensity of your play. Be tame during inital foreplay and crack out the big guns when you're both at the point that you can't bare to be silent.
From personal experience I love a bit of steamy dialogue if it's sensual and it can be a great way to experiment with dominat and submissive roles without physically being either of these things.
Remember to always have a sense of humour about it too ;)
I would love my OH to talk dirty more often during sex. I'm the one who is more vocal in our relationship. I used to feel really stupid talking dirty but the more you do it the easier it gets! x
with me and my oh it depends on wat moad she is in. if she is in a really dirtty and horny mind she loves me talking dirtty to her and will talk dirtty back to me which i absoulutley love
I just cant help but moan and scream whilst having sex, my OH loves it and I have to say that when things are gd I also cant help but swear at just how gd it is lol. I do love it when my OH wispers in my ear if i want him to f**k me harder and deeper and I am always up for that =).
On the other hand the sex is not always that and our relationship also has its softer side when me make love, we moan alot together but find ourselves just gazing into each others eyes.
Both ways are great but when were in a playfull mood, were always screaming at each other for better and more.
I love to hear my OH talking dirty to me, and for the first time last night she was teasing my big fantasy by saying all dirty stuff about what she would do to a woman and what a woman would do to her if we were having a threesome! Tipped me over the edge it did ;)
Well they say the brain is the most erogenous zone!
Echoing what KittyPurry said on the first page of this thread - no real talk like that happens during 'lovemaking' in the McChoosey household, but it's in full flight when it's a case of fucking each others brains out in hot nasty filthy sweaty sex
I think it does depend very much on who you're with as to whether talking dirty works. I haven't really done it in previous sexual experiences/relationships but I love it with Ginger. It does certainly become easier to do the more you do it. I love to be told what a dirty slut I am and how I'm going to be punished for it...
My OH loves it when i talk dirty, i just dont feel im any good at it! Never really know what to say, any one got any good lines i could use? i dont want to sound like a porn star just want to make it better for him
My OH loves it when i talk dirty, i just dont feel im any good at it! Never really know what to say, any one got any good lines i could use? i dont want to sound like a porn star just want to make it better for him
Start by taking charge with words, easy to move from 'I'd like if' to 'Do...'
Use single words and sounds or very short sentences as a gradual introduction. O fuck. Harder. Mmmmm.....Cock (reminded me of that god awful hansen song...). Taste. You make me wet. I love feeling... etc be inventive!
I think alot of the attraction of dirty talk is knowing the inhibitions of someone are lowered so much by pleasure they have to resort to words they wouldn't normally use.